Have you ever had a lodger living with you?

I am thinking about this, but really terrified that the person living with me will damage my furniture and stuff.

Afew years ago, I was going to have a friend and work colleague living with me, but whenever she came to stay at my house she would break something, make cups of tea and throw the tea bag in the bin, miss, so it sprayed right up the wall leaving a big stain and loads of other things, plus she never had any money, and I was worried our friendship would suffer cos she was kinda really irresponsible..

(I mean one time she was supposerd to stay at mine, we went clubbing and she never came back till the morning, I was worried sick about her, but she turned up, with bed hair, a broken stiletto and spunk up the back of her coat.. - sorry, just had to add that lol)

Any success stories you can tell, or advice to give?

Nic are you looking for a lodger?

...I'd like to talk to you some more about it privately. whats the job situation like where you are?

Funny you bring that up. I'm considering the same thing rite now.

I have no advice though, Sorry.

rent to someone named Purplerein, but give him priviledges.

Natisse said:

Yes I think I have to Natisse..

Jobs are good where I am and they are more highly paid than other places in the counrty, which I suppose ids why everyone who lives where I live are soo fucking rich

But yes, we can talk about that sometime, and yes I mean seriously..

Manchester isnt far away either and there are loads of jobs to be found there..

purplerein said:

What kind of priveledges are you talking about??

If not in a healthy relationship, living alone is best. Period. Roomates, no way.

~Visitors, that go back to their own home, are nice though.

Freespirit said:

JULIE!!!!! You made me smile.

luv4all7 said:

it could be scary, I suppose its about getting the right person in, who both I and the other can respect each others space and belongings..

see back in the days, I reneted with friends but we were students, so didnt matter if you smashed the place up.. it was like you were expected to..

REDFEATHERS said:

REDFEATHERS said:

Yeah, I totally know where your coming from. And I'm like VERY picky about my house, so I'm not sure it would work.....

Freespirit said:

Yeah I understand, but I have been living alone so long now, and financially at this moment, I think it best for me to take in a lodger..

btw nice to see you

you could list it with an agency, and have the agency perform all the screening and credit checks etc.

luv4all7 said:

Well yes I know.. I bought my place 3 years ago, and all furniture and stuff is new.. when Emma came to stay I must have looked soo anal, running after her with a cloth, cos there was red wine spilled everywhere..

REDFEATHERS said:

Get rid of cable, get rid of your cell phone bill, purchase cheaper toliet paper, etc... do what you have to... DON'T DO IT!

~Exaggerating a bit I suppose.

Freespirit said:

IMPOSSIBLE!!!

Freespirit said:

like if I asked if I could stay with you you'ld say no...

purplerein said:

I would say yes, if it was you.

I cant believe no one wants to know about the "spunk up the back her coat" ?

I don't know Nicole... but it feels so invasive. I have experienced a few in my time... always trying to help someone out, more so than needing the help. (in the past that is)

It's my way or no way at all. A person must be conditioned, if it was to ever happen.

There exists only one person, that has the ability to change it all presently.

I have no experience of this, but Ive known people who've done it and theyve had no horror stories. I'd say try to get someone you know, a family friend, someones daughter...something like that.

There are plenty of websites etc that are reliable too, Im sure

Good luck Red! PS you coming next weekend??

origmnd said:

Freespirit said:

But I am never at home anyway, and seem to be paying a mortgage and bills for a place that stands empty most months of the year.. its a complicated scenario.. but I do want to go back home soon and keep it *lived in*
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Freespirit said:

I'm going to agree here.

My home is my castle. It's my refuge, my slavation. Don't knock on my door before calling me on the phone. Don't expect your ass to be sheltered under my roof when I've done everything to stablize my own household.

There was a time in my life, I had an open door. I would have "friends" come, go and stay a while, they would eat up my food, clog up my tolets, and disrespect my space.

My space is mine.

Personal space is where one can be themself.

MickG said:

yes I know..

REDFEATHERS said:

Oh, I see... makes total sense now...

So when you come back home, for good... then kick them out. ~With fair warning of course~

purplerein said:

Oh I Say.....

Freespirit said:

I your style

When we bought this house we brought our 3 flatmates with us. There were 5 adults in this house

We had not bought any new stuff though, so it sort of didn't matter that much what they did as long as they paid their rent.

We kicked the all out once I got pregnant, filled the house with kids instead