Been seeing this girl whom i really liked for the past 4 months, she's just phoned me saying "It's not what she wants anymore". Guys I'm gutted!!!!

call her an emotional black hole.
[Edited 8/31/06 10:03am]

aww... i feel you. the whole org pretty much had to put up with my misery not long ago... now it's your turn!

That sucks , man

at least you don't have to keep dating her with her pretending everything is hunky dory. you'll hurt for a while, then you'll find someone whose feelings for you are more genuine and you'll be happier in the long run. trust me, this is a gift in disguise.

Just cant be bothered with whole dating thing y'know? Man. thought she was the one.

Anx said:

Thanks Anx

You'll crack on, you should crack on. I know it'll be difficult at first but don't let yourself fall into a rut. That's the worst that can happen to you.

iz it becuz yoo kan't spel?

EFS said:

ha. yes. try 8 years and nearly getting married to the one you thought was "the one" and then she cheats on you at the last minute! then you'll see how unimpressive the dating scene looks!

not trying to downplay your pain though... it will suck very much for some time. but chances are you'll rediscover an old friend: yourself.

Awwww. I know it's easy for me to say, but don't be upset. She did youa favor.

It's better to be single. REALLY!


Feel better soon!

its like heroin withdrawal... lookout! time.. time...

luv4all7 said:

why does everyone say this? it's what they all tell you to make you feel better.... sure you've got a world of options at your feet when you're single; agreed... but a lot of WORK ahead of you if you want to really get with "the one", whomever they may be, for good.

singledom is very overrated, IMO.

JohnPhillip said:

agree

EFS said:

Damn, I am sorry to hear that..

jerseykrs said:

I've said that about people

Sweeny79 said:

I prefer "Psychic Vampire"

Sweeny79 said:

Boy, the shit that has come out of my mouth when attacking someone.....

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I use that one too!!

In fact I just did the other day!

jerseykrs said:

Jesus Christ the shit I say when I'm mad or worse hurt.....

I hope we never fight Chris, or if we ever do... I hope someone records it.

That would be some funny and hurtful shit!

..and why over the phone, and not face to face?

Sweeny79 said:

I have nothing to fight with you about though!! Although you almost ticked me off the other night!! It's NOTHING kim!!!

REDFEATHERS said:

because she is apparently a coward.

jerseykrs said:

Yeah you were getting worked up I could tell.... and I said and I'll say again... if you say it's nothing, it's nothing fine...but if ever one day it is no longer nothing...that would be very cool too.

Sweeny79 said:

Yes, ok.. but why do ppl act like that, and cant just speak up and say what they mean and mean what they say? Why hide away, leaving US guessing, worrying and feeling like shit..???

REDFEATHERS said:

Because people are scared of confrontation, scared of hurting others because if they see someone hurting and know they caused that hurt they feel like a flaming pile of dog shit... scared you might get mad and say something to them that's hurtful because it's true...or maybe they are just selfish and want it done and over with as quick as possible with the least amount of effort.... who knows...people suck.

EFS said:

Don't get sad, get even. Revenge is the best therapy. lol jk

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

i don't think there's anything particularly vampiric about realizing a relationship isn't going anywhere, and taking the initiative to move on with life. i can't say i'm thrilled with the method this guy's ex used, but the alternative would be to string him along in a relationship she knows she doesn't want to be in. is that really the better option?

Can someone explain this to me?
Was her black hole the problem?