CarrieMpls said:

Totally! My guy friends are like big brothers so they tend to give a new guy a hard time for the first hour or so that they are around them to see if he can hack it

CarrieMpls said:

My best friend's ex could not stand me. I was friends with him ten years before they even met and even when they moved a thousand miles away, she still couldn't stand me.

sure.

DarkKnight1 said:

i've seen this though before my eyes with other people...

I much prefer the company of women to men. My wife knows that and she knows I won't cheat on her. You have to give each other some space and trust each other or there's really no point.

Fauxie said:

missfee said:

I am sure it happens, it just doesn't happen with me. I don't buy into the unwritten rule that i can't or my significant other can't have freinds of the opposite sex. It says to me that you don't trust the other person and if you are so worried he or she is going to cheat, then you don't need to be with that person in the first place. Telling someone what they can and cannot do, only alienates that person and pushed them into exactly what you are trying to avoid...at least this is my experience.

Fauxie said:

Exactly.

Hobbitch said:

same here--i've never been attracted to any of my male friends either, and the feeling's always been mutual with 'em. i don't see why some folks feel threatened by that sorta thing as it is. insecurity, perhaps?

but yeah, if i had a girlfriend i wouldn't mind at all if she has friends. i've got friends too, why shouldn't she?

I got in a funny situation a couple of years ago when my husband thought he might like to go and have a few drinks and play pool with one of the girls in his band. It did not sit well with me at all! I freaked myself out with my own reaction to this. It wasn't that she's hot, which she is, or recently single but the fact that he and I NEVER get to go out for a couple of drinks or to play pool
I told him how I felt, and he rang his sister for her opinion, and she said it didn't seem right either, and not only that, because I found it upsetting he should consider my feelings.
He didn't got out with her in the end. I have since got to know her quite well, and wouldn't care any more really.

Spats said:

btw-did u ever get sacktime with the babe?

if so-i AM jealous

I've hooked up with almost all of my male friends at some point (when we both were single) or they have confessed to being interested in me, so I think that there is some validity in saying that most friends of opposite sex have some kind of sexual attraction to each other.

Of course, there are always exceptions.

But that said, a friend can be interested all they want, it's up to the person in the relationship to say "no" and if they are in a great relationship saying "no" would be very easy to do.

ZombieKitten said:

is this now because you two, get to go out then ?

JustErin said:

Exactly.

JustErin said:

Same has happened to me as well. I agree with your statement.
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I dunno - depends on how long we've been together, but if they're just friends why haven't I met her @ some point??

A lot of times that turns out to be some bullshit, so if I haven't met her or she's a new friend I'd be suspicious.

JustErin said:

I totally agree, there should be the trust in the relationship that the SO knows that the answer is no, its all about trust and the communication.

My former husband tried to act all cool with it, but couldn't control his jealousy at all. He would absolutely FREAK even when I prepared him thoroughly beforehand. He would FREAK if a male neighbor borrowed a vaccuum cleaner. This was one of the primary reasons, I had to say

I am SO not interested in changing, retreating from my current friendships. I'd rather not have a relationship, because it's just not me to restrain myself in that way (to not talk to people, be friendly, laugh with others)

ARGH! :

I've been on the other end several times, where a good male friend gets married or gets a girlfriend and they stop talking to me.

I guess I'm not suited for this society.

heartbeatocean said:

Isn't that the stupidest thing?

Hobbitch said:

JustErin said:

I think this might be the first time, but I totally agree with you.

I have no problems with it.
I think if people are gonna mess around they're going to do it anyway, whether you know about it or not so there's no point getting upset about a partner having friends of any sort. What's important is being with someone you can trust and who has respect for you.