....Do you find it harder to cry? i've noticed that with me. and just the other day a supervisor higher up (way up) posed that question to me. she was going through alot of stress i could tell. the last half of 2005 and the first half of 2006 has really been hard for me. I've had to ask for help for things that i feel i should do on my own. i hate it. things come in threes or clusters whether good or bad i've noticed. one after another, i gather up the bad and tuck it away and keep moving. if i stop to think about what i've lost, could stand to lose, or what the consequences of standing up and making a choice is making me sacrifice-i might lose it. When i was younger little things, little problems would put me in tears. and now the problems i have as an adult have yet to move me like that. i wish i had those problems instead of the ones i do now. why is that?

all i can really say is that's how life is
as you begin to shape your frame of mind - which is always changing - you react to life differently than u might've a year before..

We get stretched, as we age. Since I turned 21, I've lost two friends to suicide, others to terminal illness; i've seen relationships end; lost relatives unexpectedly; and discovered the pains and crises of many loved ones.

The ability to empathize with others' loss has provided me with perspective on my own pain. Consequently, I'm less likely to cry nowadays over something in my life that saddens me.


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I'm finding the opposite. I cry at any little thing.

ThreadBare said:

that could be it for me although i'm not sure. i can feel it-like i should be crying. ive even tried to just 'let it all out', cause i don't want the stress to build up-but nothing.

yes. I find it's harder to feel anything like I used too.

I wish! I still cry at the drop of a hat

Sweeny79 said:

have you ever tried to quit smoking?

quit for at least 3 months and you'll be a fucking mess.



seriously though, nicotine inhibits emotions.

JohnTheBomb said:

Although this curious side-effect would no doubt encourage many to take up the habit, I don't believe there's an ameoba's ball hair of possibilty that this is true. Leonard Cohen smokes. And so do I.

Number23 said:

I agree. Only works on me for the duration of the smoke!

Number23 said:

it is so incredibly true.

ask any ex-smoker how much wider their range of emotion is post-smoking.

leonard cohen exhibits one primary emotion, which is the bane of so many smokers and you even feel bonded to it yourself apparently: sadness.

sorry, but it's completely true; no matter how many times i have the odd crafty smoke myself and yet still have the nerve to call myself a non-smoker, i KNOW that smoking is a depressant and times when i haven't smoked have always been much happier.

also, ever wonder why so many smokers are atheists? well, they are. and there's a reason for that.



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JohnTheBomb said:

Leonard Cohen believes in God. So does Bob Dylan.

Number23 said:

great. wow. two famous figures. i'm not even sure dylan smokes anymore; in fact i'm pretty sure he doesn't.

in any case, the evidence is stacked against you. among all the other harmful shit, nicotine actually changes brain chemistry over time, probably forever. so of course you're gonna defend it.

i'm not intending to be an arsehole tho, just saying that if you believe that nicotine DOESN'T stifle the emotions.... then i'm sorry, but i need to laugh. it's the main reason most smokers smoke... it's in place of what you'd REALLY be feeling. but i know that's a difficult thing to come to terms with; i'm still dealing with it obviously as i weaken and smoke every now and then.

but i'm well aware of my own hyprocrisy. at least, i can cry about it if i need to.




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JohnTheBomb said:

Crying's for WOMEN!

Number23 said:

I feel I'm becoming more emotionally detached with every year, that's a true statement.

jerseykrs said:

It's because the brain cells related to anxiety stop replicating and begin to die off in remearkable numbers in your late 20's/early 30's. Uou're pretty much a robot - that is, recycling old brainwaves, emotions and thoughts - from your 40's onwards, apparently. Fucking marvellous, darling. Fancy another wee bevvy? Oh, have a fag too.

Number23 said:

For me, it's not harder to cry.

But there's certain situations that I don't cry about anymore that used to make me cry. Like that Stones song, Outta tears. Theres like only so much crying you can do about one particular thing yanno?

But I still cry.

i've never really cried a lot. sometimes during a really mushy movie i can get a little weepy. oddly enough, things in real life don't get the waterworks going as much.

As I get older, I find it increasingly hard to get it up.

Spookymuffin said:

How are you even responding to this?
What are you? Like 12?!?!?!?

luv4all7 said:

17, motherfucker!

17 years too many!

Spookymuffin said:

SLERGAL!

luv4all7 said:

Yes, I am slergal over here. Slergal over in your weird parts too next month.

ZombieKitten said:

That's what happens to people who want to eat others' brains...

Slergal over in your weird parts too next month.

luv4all7 said:

susannah said:

That's what I find too.

I'm the opposite. I cry more now than I ever did.