What are your thoughts on when someone is too old to have their first child?

Is 35 too old?

Sarah, wife of Abraham had her child in her 90's.

shanti0608 said:

No! 35 is fine!

bluesbaby said:

Thanks bluesbaby Ok- now if only I could find the right man to have a child with... wow- this could take a while..


Thanks Purplerein.. I guess I have plenty of time..

shanti0608 said:

a friend of mine is 38, and pregnant for the first time. are you thinking about physically or the energy you will need for later?

there is always adoption!

shanti0608 said:

You're joking, right?

Madonna - first child at 37 years old.
Cheryl Tiegs - first child at 42 years old
Linda Evangelista - currently pregnant, first child will be at 41 years old.

As long as you take care of your body (exercise - cardio, strength, stretching) and eat properly, your body will sustain itself to carry life.

If you don't want to carry a child, go through invitro ($10,000), where you will have to give yourself injections for one month to mass produce eggs. You will produce around 48 eggs. 20-28 eggs would be perfect to fertilize, while the other eggs would be considered too young or too old. Find some compatible sperm (whomever you think is good enough to share DNA with your DNA). The eggs and sperm will be fertilized in a petri dish and 4 or 6 will be inserted into your surrogate carrier ($20,000). Nine months later, viola, you will have 2 - 6 children.

Isn't science amazing!

any age is okay as long as that's what you want, I guess.
I don't want my kid to have to change my diapers, though, y'know?

bluesbaby said:

Yes- I have thought of adoption actually...
I have certain things that I need in my life before I add a child to the mix..
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shanti0608 said:

orgnote me if you want

bluesbaby said:

68

Number23 said:

I guess I need not worry yet..

shanti0608 said:

Not until you're 68.

Number23 said:

Sorry to hear your not feeling well...
Take care of yourself..

I think nature tells you when you're too old. Until then, go for it girl

p.s. Shanti - love the avatar.

shanti0608 said:

Thank you.

Number23 said:

Im 32 - and have decided not to have any children - my partner has 2 from his previous marriage - and I get my little fix of children whenever they come to stay - but thats enough for me!!

purplerein said:

When you're fucking women at 600 years of age without protection I guess it was bound to happen.

wendyrachel said:

I never thought I wanted any- I had 2 step kids when I was 22 yrs and I hated that.
I may never have any myself but I have stopped saying never like I used to. I guess we will see what happens.

shanti0608 said:

The age isn't and exact science.

The good rule of thumb is 36, but that can be pushed upto 38. So no, I'd say 35 isn't too old, but it's pushing it.

shanti0608 said:

step kids are different. they usually hate you for a long while first whereas biological kids don't hate you for at least 15-16 years.

In regards to your question, you should probably talk to your doctor about it. I have heard of certain tests that they can run to see how many fertile eggs you have left, if you're going into early menopause, etc. that can help you with your decision.

Good Luck!

I don't agree with women having IVF when they have reached an age that makes it not posible naturally..
And hun u have a long way to go yet
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35 is a fine age
my sister had her first and only at 33...
all i say is be careful, as everyone knows risks are higher around that age

You can have my 11 year old son, he's in danger of getting eradicated!

SammiJ said:

Other factors need be assumed other then the mother's health. Yes for sure the mom's health should be number one, but if the question isn't in the health, how about the well being of the child? Psychologically as well.

35 is too old

jerseykrs said:

He's a cutie pie.. I cannot imagine him doing anything wrong- unless he is taking after his dad

I'm 35 and sort of undecided about another one, am planning to wait and see if I still want another in a years time