Secrets of Sexual Body Language
The Rule of Four

Martin Lloyd-Elliott, author of 'Secrets of Sexual Body Language,' says you need to observe four separate sexual body language cues to be sure someone is interested in you. Keep your eyes on everything, including hair, face muscles, skin, eyes, mouth, legs and even toes for potential signals. You may see many of these cues when you're with friends, which is natural, but just because you've seen the right kind of smile doesn't mean that he or she is hoping to hook up.


Shoulder Shrugs

Men and women unconsciously shrug or "flash" their shoulders when they find another person attractive. Women use the shoulders as a tease: "It can be subtle or obvious and can include the hand touching or moving over the skin of the shoulder." Men, on the other hand, will often use their shoulders to set territory and block other potential suitors.



Eyebrow Flash

When we see someone we're attracted to, we respond automatically with an eyebrow flash that lasts about a fifth of a second. Yet eyebrows come into play for more than attraction. A flash may be created just to start a friendly exchange. Combine an eyebrow flash with a roll of the eyes and it's a show of exasperation -- so be mindful of context. A natural, friendly flash comes and goes quickly.


Study the Pupils

Why is the woman on the right sexier than the one on the left? Because dilated pupils are a sure sign of interest and make a person more attractive. One of the reasons candlelit dinners set a romantic mood is they force pupils to open and help each person appear more attractive. But don't fool yourself that the person across the table from you in a dimly-lit room is attracted to you. That might just be some pupils opening automatically.


Faking It

You may think he's into you, but how do you know? When he smiles you can check the asymmetry of his mouth, which is often a tip off for a forced grin. In this example, his intense eyes and clenched jaw suggest a tension that doesn't match an upbeat mood. A natural smile is usually broad and symmetrical.


A Little Attitude

Does male posturing work? Sometimes. "Such postures indicate dominance, and for many women, despite what modern feminists would prefer us to believe, it is still instinctively sexy and arousing to be in the company of a strong, confident and dominating man," says psychologist Lloyd-Elliott.


Scouting Territory

Women tend to be less territorial than men, who can regard every potential invasion of their territory, however friendly, as a threat. If you want to be invited into someone's space, lower or raise your eye level to meet his or hers. In this setting, the man is lower than the woman he's approaching, reducing the threat.


Mirroring Bodies

To increase their synchronicity, he adopts exactly the same body posture as her. His right shoulder angles his torso around to face her. He tilts his head slightly to one side to indicate that he's carefully listening. Although her torso still faces the pool, she smiles at him over her shoulder, which is extremely flirtatious.


Getting Intimate

Entering someone's personal space can be tricky. Lowering someone's barriers may be as simple as handing someone who has crossed arms a drink or offering someone the physical comfort or the reassurance of an arm or shoulder to cry on. But don't take for granted your invitation will be accepted.





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AndGodCreatedMe said:

Ilike the fact some of these (the lowering the eyes) are a thing used inthe animal world.

And we think ourselves so sophisticated... next time I like someone I will just show my tummy in an act of surrender.

mdiver said:

Ahem, that was Hammy posting inknowingly under Muffy's account...

Not as if the tummy remark would not have given me away, but still.

HamsterHuey said:

I don't get the pupils thing.

luv4all7 said:

Figures.

weepingwall said:

So this is why I was so popular during all my acid trips.

HamsterHuey said:

Yanno that picture i took for ya, that U said you were gonna save????

Insert here.

luv4all7 said:

This one?

ps, I did not want to post the pic of your boobs, so this is why I posted the previous pic.

HamsterHuey said:

NO!!!!!
The one I took for YOU.

luv4all7 said:

THe ass-pic or the booby-pic?

HamsterHuey said:

Why are you guys even on line rite now?????
U get together and hang out online?????

Okay, then.

luv4all7 said:

Well, after all the hookers we did in the red light district and the general whoring around, we have dinner, while being online, tormenting you, it can't get better than this...

HamsterHuey said:

HamsterHuey said:

Please, spare me! Tormenting me is better than the whoring around, hookers, and dinner combined. Feel privleged that I even acknowledge you!
[Edited 8/26/06 12:00pm]

HamsterHuey said:

i believe you are secretly a straight male just using your 'gayness' to get all the org females to share various body shots with you.


you're genius.

fantasyislander said:

Of course.

Now show me those boobs.

HamsterHuey said:

how can i say no to such blatant homosexuality??


~turning webcam on now.....~

fantasyislander said:

Awwww, boobs have SUCH humoristic powers...

~giggles~

I never knew about this one, and I'm not sure I'm picturing it correctly:

What pool? Does this only work near a swimming pool?





What if he's really tall? you stand on a chair, but that makes YOU too tall so then he stands on a chair, but then he's too tall, and the chair topples over with you on it killing you, this is dangerous.

And what if the woman is short, does he crouch down lower than her? He would look really strange and most women would run off if he did that.

LleeLlee said:

Yes. I think I read this somewhere.

minneapolisgenius said:

a bit like this

ZombieKitten said:

Yes. It works every time.

minneapolisgenius said:

a good kick in the head works on dry land too, mind you
[Edited 8/27/06 5:54am]

ZombieKitten said:

That's my specialty too!

ZombieKitten said: