NDRU said:

I was gonna post something similar, but I'll just co-sign this post.

Sex is soooo much more that intercourse and it is ABSOLUTELY the main driving force behind "it all", whether you're aware of it or not.

Adisa said:

Does that mean what I think it means?

NDRU said:

It depends on what the hell you're talking about.
What are you talking about?

Adisa said:

nothing, nothing, just a joke

NDRU said:

I know.

Adisa said:

i'm so STUPID! STUPID STUPID!!!

shanti0608 said:

No. That would be a friendship, not a relationship.

No because if I get to the point where I can't or don't want to have sex, I would not want my partner to leave me.

ufoclub said:

luv4u said:

What a profound and insightful statement!

"sex is like air....its not a big deal til you're not getting any."

NoTime2Hate said:

Behave damn it! ...and say hello once in awhile!

amateur said:

Just read "The Sexual Life of Catherine M." (Catherine Millet)..It's an autobiography of a French woman who had an incredible # of sexual partners in her 20's and is now in her 50's.(she's a well renowned art historian, professionally, so it was shocking to the coworkers) The book was written long after the fact and right when P had "Get Off" on an albume. I wondered whether he read the book. Anyway, there's sexual addiction that means nothing and there's most of the population who regard it as an intimacy that has invisible/visible strings,like commitment) Personal and physical contact etc.. then there's just "getting it when ya can." There's alot more categories I'm sure, these are just a few. It's nteresting to read about the extreme.

No sex is not everything, and certainly not to me! Music is the most important thing to me. And don't give me crap like the main force behind music is sex. Because altho it is for a part of it, theres also alot of music that has nothing to do with sex.

FunkJam said:

You must be celibate.

xplnyrslf said:

xplnyrslf said:

No! I hate comments like that trying to be smart, good god! Why must people, especially men, be expected to put sex above everything else, like it's all there is!? Sure alot of people are like that but some of us are interested in higher things!

FunkJam said:

uh, I'm a female. Why does everyone on this website think I'm a MAN???? (see forum "post your photo, xplnyslf") I just can't imagine....lack of intimacy in a warm cozy gratifying way..or a hardcore..yup I,m happy..Listen to the P lyrics
he's a hell of alot more accurate about descriptions than I can articulate. I'm not sayng anymore.

xplnyrslf said:

I never said you were a man.

for me a relationship is half sex and half friendship. you gotta have both for it to work. i'm not saying fuck like rabbits 24/7 all the time but honestly there has to be some time of balance of both imo.

FunkJam said:

I read into the "people, esp men.." part, oops. (other orgers have referred to me as 'he') Anyhoooo If I were younger and single,. I'd share your perspective. Matter of fact I did have similar viewpoints. But that was 25 yrs ago.
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xplnyrslf said:

im interested in what you mean by that

purplerein said:

Responding to the highlighted part, sex addicts are responding to a physical need. The end justifies the means. There's no emotional connection. The woman in the book I mentioned had 20 + partners in a session and was detached, as described by herself. IMO, most people approach sex as a lot more personal There's a range between "unattached" to the extreme, and "love" the first time around.

Sex IS everything.

It is the most full, complete, and complex exchange/communication you can have between two bonded people.

I fully understand why older generations used the verb "to know" to describe sex ...as in Adam knew Eve.

Because the revelations exchanged are more powerful than words can ever convey.

Everything in a relationship comes out during sex. Everything you are, believe, feel, hold as your highest and lowest principle --comes out and is exchanged during sex.


Sex reflects a lot of truths about us humans, even one-night stands reflect ugly truths, the choice in partner does, the way you handle the partner, they way you sound, express....

But most people are safe from the reality of sex being everything and revealing everything about them, because they are too stupid and shallow to understand the depth of sex. They think it's just booty calls and fucking. Neanderthals.

no

SynthiaRose said:

Well put my friend


It is sad that sex has become so commercialized and made out to be something it is not.
[Edited 8/20/06 4:34am]

xplnyrslf said:

sex addicts are responding to a compulsion to act out. the compulsion comes from a need for comfort, or escaping stress, or reality. it is not a physical need at all, but a spiritual emotional need.
sexual addiction is no different then alcoholism, overeating, compulsive shopping, or any other addictive behaviour.
If you'ld like to know more, just ask.

Adisa said:

Everyone's motivated by their genitals?
[Edited 8/20/06 9:09am]

purplerein said:

I'm afraid to. My friend was in a $1,000/day rehab spa here in town and the sex addict there was sleeping with all the other rehab clients. Getting his $$ worth of counseling.
[Edited 8/20/06 9:14am]