JustErin said:

You'd be suprised how much of the silly online dynamics bleed over into real life and you'd be amazed at the shit I have heard about people in this community. God knows what is said about me. I would rather have people ask me than believe things heard about me. I think if I respect the person asking enough, I'd be brutally honest.

Oh and you'd be suprised the online grudges held by people against people who have never done anything to them personally. It's all juvenile and high school but such is the Org.
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LleeLlee said:

This is the only part of yuor statement I disagree with. I think the Org comes off very cold blooded to an outsider. I've been here for five years and they way people treat each other on here is anything but heart and flowers. It must be the balls people grow from saying things they wouldn't say face to face.

JustErin said:

1) Single, Taken, or Crushing? Taken


2) Are you happy with where you are? No. Hopeful and working at it, but definitely no


3) When you meet the right person, do you fall fast? Sometimes


4) Have you ever had your heart broken? Yes


5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is ok? No, that’s why it’s called cheating


6) Would you ever take someone back if they cheated on you? I have in one rare instance, but typically Hell No!


7) Have you talked about marriage with another person? Yeah. Boy, were we deluding ourselves


8) Do you want children? Sure


9) How many? A lot


10) Would you consider adoption? I’ve always wanted to and I definitely will


11) If somebody liked you right now, what do you think is a cool way to let you know? A nice little note will do just fine


12) Do you enjoy playing hard to get? Sometimes


13) Do you believe love at first sight exists? Yes, and God I still miss her

14) Do you believe in celebrating anniverseries? Of course, but in small meaningful ways


15) Do you believe that you can change someone? No, but I believe that a true loving relationship inspires us to be the best we can be. Take Jesus. Of course He loves me no matter what and accepts me as I am. But to be in a RELATIONSHIP with Him I CANNOT stay where I am with the same attitudes, behavior, priorities, outlook, worldview, etc. Understand? In some ways we’re supposed to evolve into someone better, be it ever so gradual.


16) If you could get married anywhere, money's not an object? The moon


17) Do you have feelings for someone right now?


18) Have you ever wished you could've had someone but you couldn't? Yes

19) Have you ever broken a heart? Yes

20) Would you ever fight somebody over your significant other? If they tried to harm her, sure.

21) What would you say about your last ex? Boy, were we deluding ourselves.

JustErin said:

I'm all for exposing duplicity, thats all. But yeah, let them. However, It does matter to a degree because I've seen people who here who have been hurt over the years.

JustErin said:

See? I'm stuck somewhere between you two.

Something to say? Then say it. Otherwise, shut the hell up. But some people take this place far too seriously. I love it - and I genuinely love you guys - but I sure as hell ain't having someone judge me based on their perception of who I am. And neither should anyone else.

Hobbitch said:

I think it depends on which forum, but people have been known to grow balls over the internet, I agree. which offline are the size of a pea.

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onenitealone said:

this is one of the reasons I love you

LleeLlee said:

Lots of people have been, I was pretty bad too.

Oh well, it is just like highschool. That's why I try not to care too much. You have your friends you trust and well fuck everyone else...seriously it's a message board, it's agreat place to come and hang out, but it's not fucking life.

If you start to find that you live more here on these purple pages then you do in your own immediate enviorment, for more than 3 days straight, I think you should go right now and delete your account.

Sweeny79 said:

Sweeny79 said:

Yup, yup.

ThreadBare said:

Morning handsome

1) Single, Taken, or Crushing? Single and crushin'!


2) Are you happy with where you are? Oh yes!


3) When you meet the right person, do you fall fast? No, it takes a long time for the ice queen's walls to come down


4) Have you ever had your heart broken? Yep


5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is ok? Negatory!


6) Would you ever take someone back if they cheated on you? Negatory!!


7) Have you talked about marriage with another person? Negatory!!


8) Do you want children? Negatory!!

9) How many? NEGATIVE!


10) Would you consider adoption? Ya if they are 17 1/2

11) If somebody liked you right now, what do you think is a cool way to let you know? Just tell me, and if you're hot then grab my face and make out with it.

12) Do you enjoy playing hard to get? I like to tease a little bit but not really play hard to get...


13) Do you believe love at first sight exists? Nah


14) Do you believe in celebrating anniverseries? Sure, if I can get to the 3 month part


15) Do you believe that you can change someone? Negative


16) If you could get married anywhere, money's not an object? On a tropical island somewhere.

17) Do you have feelings for someone right now? Ya, below the waist.


18) Have you ever wished you could've had someone but you couldn't? Don't we all?

19) Have you ever broken a heart? Yes, 2 I think.


20) Would you ever fight somebody over your significant other? Negative, well unless they threw the first punch then I'd be defending myself.


21) What would you say about your last ex? EGOMANIAC

Sweeny79 said:

I agree... and I'm one of those people who tend to live on the org I really really need to stop caring so much about what goes on here and just concentrate on those who actually care about me in return... but it's easier said than done

I do agree, however, still...

Sweeny79 said:

Watch it, you!!! We're taken!!!

LleeLlee said:

Sounds like the customers I deal with.

Phonecall/Email - Aggressive know-it-alls who - hidden behind the safety net of a phone/computer - suddenly think they're the hardman.

Real life - Whimpering pussies who wouldn't dare speak to me or use the tone they usually do. I'd like to see them try.


Simple solution to these problems on the Org: be yourself.

ThreadBare said:

I forgot.

Natisse said:

Thank you, love. You know there are lots of reasons why I love you.

God, re-reading my last few comments I sound very butch today.
[Edited 8/17/06 7:49am]

Sweeny79 said:

I agree, I couldn't care less what a joe bloggs in Ohio thinks of me (I have NOTHING against Ohio ) But this is a community of sorts and in that context we form relationships, some may not run very deep but we still behave according to social norms. Otherwise there would be more public mud slinging in the forums than there is, why do you think there isn't? I think it affects us in ways we may not be conscious of. For instance, we are quick to defend "friends" whom we think have been slighted, why bother? There's a way of behaving here that we adhere to and few of us cross the lines of socially unacceptable behaviour. So without knowing it, we do care otherwise we wouldn't conform to these social etiquettes.

just my two cents.

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[Edited 8/17/06 7:57am]

LleeLlee said:

This is what I think... I think people "conform" because they are afraid of being banned. I think they become so freaking obsessed with the org they need it like a drug and they don't do or say what they might want to do or say because they don't want to lose their account privliges.

You'd be surprised how orgers that were banned a year or more ago are still making accounts and trying to slip threw past us mods... it'sa n addiction...like heroin, or gambling, or sex.... people here are addicted to the intamacy the org allows us...some of us need it like coffee others need it like it's crack.

But we all need it, that's why we are back here year after year, otherwise we'd get pissed or bored and move on....but we don't. We all have a lot emotionally invested in this place...so yeah... no one wants to be excommunicated from that.

Just my observations

Mach said:

Happened to me, I was sent some things that showed me that someone I trusted was saying things behind my back to other people to make me look like something I wasnt, a good part of the reason taking a year hiatis was nice. If people arent going to take the time to know who you are not what others say you are or say that you've said or done etc instead of coming to the source, then they aren't worth it.

Sweeny79 said:

There is the fear of being banned for some so they behave. But I was talking about the arguement that we shouldn't care what people say about us on here. I'm saying that people also behave because they dont want to be ostricised by their fellow orgers. Look at spats, he has felt the wrath of the org because of his unpopular views. He is a prime example of somebody who really doesn't care how he is perceived online, otherwise he would toe the line. How come there aren't more orgers like him if some of us truly dont care?

Like I said, I dont care about Joe bloggs but others...friends? I care what they think.

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[Edited 8/17/06 8:22am]

But, I think there's a male-female/opportunistic dynamic here also worth noting. I can't boil it down right now, but I think it fuels the bulk of the drama (un)seen here on the Org.

PurpleThunder said:

hilarious

brownsugar said:

You forgot about the survey too huh?

LleeLlee said:

yeah , i just dont see gettin' that deep. for somebody to send jealous messages is just crazy and kinda psycho imo.

brownsugar said:

As we say in Britain Land, very DODGY

i've never gone out with anybody, but i'ma take a stab at it anyway:

1) Single, Taken, or Crushing? Taken

2) Are you happy with where you are? Yes

3) When you meet the right person, do you fall fast? Yes

4) Have you ever had your heart broken? Yes

5) Do you believe that there are certain circumstances where cheating is ok? Well, if the significant other is cheating, I'd say why not.

6) Would you ever take someone back if they cheated on you? Maybe, but probably not.

7) Have you talked about marriage with another person? Yes, and not only that, we got married!

8) Do you want children? No more. I've had my fill.

9) How many? I've had 3. That's it. No more.

10) Would you consider adoption? No, not anymore.

11) If somebody liked you right now, what do you think is a cool way to let you know? Don't tell me unless you're my wife.

12) Do you enjoy playing hard to get? I never have.

13) Do you believe love at first sight exists? Lust at first sight, but not love.

14) Do you believe in celebrating anniverseries? Yes

15) Do you believe that you can change someone? No

16) If you could get married anywhere, money's not an object?

17) Do you have feelings for someone right now? Yes

18) Have you ever wished you could've had someone but you couldn't? Yes

19) Have you ever broken a heart? Yes

20) Would you ever fight somebody over your significant other? That depends. If she was seeing someone else, then I think a divorce might be more appropriate. If she was still faithful to me, though, and this guy wouldn't stay away from her....

21) What would you say about your last ex? Nothing. Nothing at all.
[Edited 8/17/06 10:57am]