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When I ask for an opinion I do not, do not like it when people give me only positive feedback when I know there are negative things that could be said. Honesty means more to me than anything else - well, more than a lot of things - so it's frustrating when I ask someone what they think or something and all they have to say are things that are nice, even overly so. It makes me think either they really don't care and don't want to stop to think about what is good and bad about it, or that they really don't like whatever it is I'm asking their opinion on at all and they just don't want to say anything.
Am I the only person in the world who feels like this?  HE'S COMING AGAIN | |
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It's OK. You have every right to feel that way. You are just normal and everything is going to be fine and nice. It's all good.
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i get like this. there are certain people who i know will tell me the truth and i only go to them when i need a real honest opinion. I don't like it when people don't have the guts to tell you the truth, especially when you ask for it | |
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JasmineFire said: i get like this. there are certain people who i know will tell me the truth and i only go to them when i need a real honest opinion. I don't like it when people don't have the guts to tell you the truth, especially when you ask for it
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as kids we're told not to hurt people's feelings. kids speak with incredible honesty, as in...Daddy, that man has a pimple on his face..and then go ask, "why do you have a pimple on your face"?....so when kids get older, they try and not hurt feelings cause that's what they've been taught. | |
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purplerein said: as kids we're told not to hurt people's feelings. kids speak with incredible honesty, as in...Daddy, that man has a pimple on his face..and then go ask, "why do you have a pimple on your face"?....so when kids get older, they try and not hurt feelings cause that's what they've been taught.
sometimes it hurts more NOT to be told the truth... | |
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Yeah, that really is true. I remember when my youngest sister was probably two or three years old she was in the store and she said the cashier had a big nose. Well, she right, but it was rather rude. So the brutal honesty of children is kind of taken away through...society, parenting, etc.
On the other hand, I've learned to be honest in a more diplomatic manner myself. If someone asks me for my opinion on something, I will tell them all the sides that I see, including the most negative. I expect that of everyone else too. To a point.HE'S COMING AGAIN | |
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Natisse said: purplerein said: as kids we're told not to hurt people's feelings. kids speak with incredible honesty, as in...Daddy, that man has a pimple on his face..and then go ask, "why do you have a pimple on your face"?....so when kids get older, they try and not hurt feelings cause that's what they've been taught.
sometimes it hurts more NOT to be told the truth... exactly and you're left to find the truth out for yourself!  | |
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JasmineFire said: Natisse said: sometimes it hurts more NOT to be told the truth... exactly and you're left to find the truth out for yourself! sometimes you don't need to be told... you see it and hear it in others 
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Protege said: I do not, do not like it when people give me only positive feedback when I know there are negative things that could be said. Honesty means more to me than anything else - well, more than a lot of things - so it's frustrating when I ask someone what they think or something and all they have to say are things that are nice, even overly so. It makes me think either they really don't care and don't want to stop to think about what is good and bad about it, or that they really don't like whatever it is I'm asking their opinion on at all and they just don't want to say anything.
Am I the only person in the world who feels like this? omg you should talk to my dad, lol. he always means well and eventually he gets round to telling you something positive but whenever you ask him for advice or an opinion, he will paint a picture so bleak even Siberian chain gangers would shudder at the sight, lol. you'll ask him "should i get a summershrub or a perennial for the garden" and before you know it, he'll have you convinced that it would be best to just fill up the garden with a slab of concrete and cut your wrists
after that, he'll take you to the garden center and buy you a great big beautiful perennial for the garden and treat you to coffee and cake  [Edited 8/15/06 14:51pm] and true love lives on lollipops and crisps | |
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Protege said: I do not, do not like it when people give me only positive feedback when I know there are negative things that could be said. Honesty means more to me than anything else - well, more than a lot of things - so it's frustrating when I ask someone what they think or something and all they have to say are things that are nice, even overly so. It makes me think either they really don't care and don't want to stop to think about what is good and bad about it, or that they really don't like whatever it is I'm asking their opinion on at all and they just don't want to say anything.
Am I the only person in the world who feels like this? Personally while critquing, I often only give negative feedback. This isn't because I'm a negative prick, but it is my belief that is what is needed. On the rare event that I would ask someone for feedback, it isn't that I am asking what people like. It's that I want to know where I can improve. Unfortunally, too many parents didn't give their children enough afermation of some strange shit like that, so that when someone is looking for feedback really they are just looking for positive reinforcment. Often those type's work really does such to and some dorks are going to give that positive feedback? Go figure. News: Prince pulls his head out his ass in the last moment.
Bad News: Prince wasted too much quality time doing so. You have those internalized issues because you want to, you like to, stop. | |
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MickG said: Protege said: I do not, do not like it when people give me only positive feedback when I know there are negative things that could be said. Honesty means more to me than anything else - well, more than a lot of things - so it's frustrating when I ask someone what they think or something and all they have to say are things that are nice, even overly so. It makes me think either they really don't care and don't want to stop to think about what is good and bad about it, or that they really don't like whatever it is I'm asking their opinion on at all and they just don't want to say anything.
Am I the only person in the world who feels like this? Personally while critquing, I often only give negative feedback. This isn't because I'm a negative prick, but it is my belief that is what is needed. On the rare event that I would ask someone for feedback, it isn't that I am asking what people like. It's that I want to know where I can improve. Unfortunally, too many parents didn't give their children enough afermation of some strange shit like that, so that when someone is looking for feedback really they are just looking for positive reinforcment. Often those type's work really does such to and some dorks are going to give that positive feedback? Go figure. Do you have dids? | |
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When I ask for an opinion I will not pay attention to it unless it's something I want to here and/or agree with. | |
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IstenSzek said: Protege said: I do not, do not like it when people give me only positive feedback when I know there are negative things that could be said. Honesty means more to me than anything else - well, more than a lot of things - so it's frustrating when I ask someone what they think or something and all they have to say are things that are nice, even overly so. It makes me think either they really don't care and don't want to stop to think about what is good and bad about it, or that they really don't like whatever it is I'm asking their opinion on at all and they just don't want to say anything.
Am I the only person in the world who feels like this? omg you should talk to my dad, lol. he always means well and eventually he gets round to telling you something positive but whenever you ask him for advice or an opinion, he will paint a picture so bleak even Siberian chain gangers would shudder at the sight, lol. you'll ask him "should i get a summershrub or a perennial for the garden" and before you know it, he'll have you convinced that it would be best to just fill up the garden with a slab of concrete and cut your wrists
after that, he'll take you to the garden center and buy you a great big beautiful perennial for the garden and treat you to coffee and cake
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Number23 said: Do you have dids?
I don't know what a dids is. Seems like a past tence improper to me. He dids what he had to do. Or it could be a funny way of saying Kids. Like a young child without the ability to pronunce the K sound. momma I wanna go out and play with the other dids. So I'm going to have to go with a no there. News: Prince pulls his head out his ass in the last moment.
Bad News: Prince wasted too much quality time doing so. You have those internalized issues because you want to, you like to, stop. | |
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JasmineFire said: IstenSzek said: omg you should talk to my dad, lol. he always means well and eventually he gets round to telling you something positive but whenever you ask him for advice or an opinion, he will paint a picture so bleak even Siberian chain gangers would shudder at the sight, lol. you'll ask him "should i get a summershrub or a perennial for the garden" and before you know it, he'll have you convinced that it would be best to just fill up the garden with a slab of concrete and cut your wrists
after that, he'll take you to the garden center and buy you a great big beautiful perennial for the garden and treat you to coffee and cake
[Edited 8/15/06 14:51pm] lol. i don't say it often enough but i do truly love my dad  and true love lives on lollipops and crisps | |
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