Ness


good for you my brother

life is WAY WAY to short to hold onto anything negitive

that energy drags you down and wastes far more then it's worth

let it go

let it GO

fuckin let it go




i love you

Natisse said:

So hard.

Aries can be hot-headed, quick to get angry. But as soon as we cool down, we develop this weird amnesia where we not only forget what made us so mad, we sometimes forget we were mad in the first place. Keeps us healthy.

FunkMistress said:

I'm an aries too.

I've got pretty much all my negative energy in check these days, thank god. I used to be quite a handful.

FunkMistress said:

I'm with ya on all but the forget part (maybe that's the pisces in me then? dunno... lol)

Natisse said:

Oh, do you have Pisces in your chart? Forget about forgetting, then! Watery weirdos, I love my pisces people though.

I have like four planets in Aries including my Sun and Moon, so I'm SUPER RAM!

FunkMistress said:

not sure about my chart but I'm on the cusp of Aries and Pisces (March 24) I'm all about forgiving, yep, but I can never forget... even things that happened to me as a child I still get upset about

Natisse said:

Yep

I can always find reasons why someone did something that may have hurt me.. I have always been able to forgive- I do have problems witht the forgetting sometimes..

shanti0608 said:

You should never, ever forget. When you forget, you repeat your mistakes.

JustErin said:

I knew there was a reason I can't forget...
I guess I need to work on excusing everyone else and learn to cut myself some slack instead...

shanti0608 said:

I think that maybe you need to stop trying to figure out why other people do what they do and start figuring out why you do what you do.

JustErin said:

Oh but that is the sucky part.. actually I would rather help others then help myself.. that has been my problem. Now I am left figuring out MY life..

FunkMistress said:

Aries sun and Pisces moon here

As far as the original thread posting goes, I don't hold grudges and never have because I get bored with them. Seriously.

Mach said:

I don't know what that means Mach but YAY for you having both Pisces and Aries

Clears throat, ahem.

JustErin said:

im also an Aries so

Matthew 18:21-35 (NIV)




The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant
21Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?"
22Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.[a]

23"Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand talents[b] was brought to him. 25Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.

26"The servant fell on his knees before him. 'Be patient with me,' he begged, 'and I will pay back everything.' 27The servant's master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

28"But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii.[c] He grabbed him and began to choke him. 'Pay back what you owe me!' he demanded.

29"His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, 'Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.'

30"But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened.

32"Then the master called the servant in. 'You wicked servant,' he said, 'I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33Shouldn't you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?' 34In anger his master turned him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

35"This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother from your heart."

luv4all7 said:

true indeed its all about forgiveness

Life IS too short to hold grudges.

15 years ago, I fell out with virtually my entire family. First off, I must state, that at no point do I want anything I type here to seem like I'm being self-pitying or trying to feel sorry for myself. Any issues or grievances I had were dealt with a long time ago. That isn't the point of this post.

I'll cut a very long story down to size by just saying that growing up in a small town, with an old-fashioned, authoritarian figure like my father does wonders for your self-confidence. (Or lack of). For as long as I remember - right up to the point where the shit hit the fan - I have no recollection of being close to my father. Utterly inseparable with my mother, but at complete odds with my father. Which used to cause a lot of tension between them.

The final straw came when he beat the absolute crap out of me one Summer's day and that was that. I would NOT tolerate his shit any longer. I decided there and then that not only did I dislike him, I downright hated him and would never speak to him again. That was 15/16 years ago and we've never uttered a word to each other since. The relationship between my mother and I became strained, I didn't speak to my brother or sister (although there was not much of a relationship to start off with, anyway) and I became the family pariah. Lovely.

It's fair to say that I spent many subsequent years being a victim. A victim of my father's behaviour, a victim of my surroundings but also a victim unto myself. I was hurt, angry, confused but, most of all, I was profoundly bitter with the way I'd beeen brought up and been made to feel. I laid all my problems at my father's feet. What I didn't realise was that this poisonous hate was also tearing me apart and following me around, baggage-like.

I can't say at what point I decided to let go. I can't say I've forgiven him - I certainly haven't forgotten - but I simply decided not to care anymore. Simple as that. It's not that I don't hate him any longer, I just couldn't give a shit anymore. It wasn't worth my time or energy. And I truly believe it's his loss. I will not give him the power to turn me into something that I have no desire to be. And, since that decision, you have no idea how much happier that makes me. I took control of it and turned it on its' head.

That's not to say that life is a bed of roses by any means - there are still things I need to sort out - but I'll deal with them as I go along. All I know is that the bitterness that I used to feel towards that man has vanished. And made me much happier. All I feel towards that man is pity. But he can work his own problems out; he's old enough.

So my advice is: yes, life is too short to hold grudges. Celebrate life and f**k those who hold you back. You have one shot at it.
[Edited 8/16/06 9:25am]

onenitealone said:

My God you are my new Hero. thats exactly what im on about celebrating the gift of life and anyone who tries to hold me back i'll just walk over them, because i will not be held back from being who i am.

Finess said:

Thanks, Finess. I am not a hero, believe me.

You have to treat people as you expect to be treated and do your best along the way, that's all. I don't know about the walking over people bit; I don't mean it like that. But once you reclaim that power, they have nothing over you.

Good luck, mate. I wish you all the best.

onenitealone said:

well i didnt mean it like that either, but i refuse to let anyone get in my way of holding me back. ive been held back for years believe me, and im still not free inside, its an ongoing process

Finess said:

I know what you mean. Life is an ongoing process, as far as I'm concerned. You don't reach a point where you have it all figured out and you rest on your laurels. It's a learning process. And that's what helps us to develop as individuals. Christ, I sound like Oprah.

But I hear what you're saying. Good luck!