serious question... those of you who have had something (whatever it may be) that you've successfully changed about yourself how have you done it?

im much less of an asshole than i was.

love and willpower. a few good close friends.

therapy and insight. it's an ongoing process that is never fully finished.

Dedication and commitment to making myself in to what i want to be. It's vital to have a goal and aim for it..that drives you. It always takes longer than you think or want but it's so worth the effort.

JasmineFire said:

thank you

three years ago i decided i would go to the gym regularly, and i still do that.

five years ago i decided to give up sugared sodas, and i still do that.

18 years ago i decided to give up meat. still going strong!

Anx said:

Anx said:

When you say meat i assume you mean animals not.....nevermind

man, seriously there were times where i felt like just punching my own clock and getting off this planet, and the thing is i felt like that every fucking day,i found that my strength to keep me from doing that was one day me the my creator had a long discussion about my life and how to change it. i immediately left where i was and the minute i stepped on that bus. i felt like all my demons were battled and gone.if you could look into my eyes you would see my life.

JasmineFire said:

isn't that the truth

Being honest with myself.



Nat...

onenitealone said:

I love you

mdiver said:

actually, i went vegetarian the same year i came out, so i traded one kind of meat for another.

i have an addiction, and I'm sober for over a year now..I'm in a twelve step program, and its helped me make an incredible transformation in my life.

purplerein said:

stay strong with that

Anx said:

good one!




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Anx said:

we all have to make sacrifices mate

mdiver said:

it's been pretty win/win for me, at least for the last couple decades or so. maybe tomorrow it'll all come crashing down and i'll run screaming for steak and pudenda.

Anx said:

I can't do without meat mate won't happen!

I don't know that I've ever been 'successful' at changing something about myself. I'm doing well right now with certain things, but it's looming over my head that that all could change too. I don't think it will. But it could.

Anx said:

you don't hear many people talking about their pundendas anymore..another obsolete word.

Natisse said:

I love you too, Nat.

Like JasmineFire says, it's an ongoing process. And there are still things I'm figuring out. But that's life, eh?

If you reached a point where you had it all figured out, well... where do you go from there?

If you need to talk, you know where I am.

onenitealone said:

I've learnt a lot from you... probably more than you realise you're teaching

and thanks hon
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mdiver said:

that's cuz i've never cooked a big hearty vegetarian meal for ya.

if i tried to start a restaurant, the meat industry would probably end up making me hoffa's roommate.

Anx said:

well get yo ass in gear man! COOK FOR ME!




Seriously dude it better have meat in it!
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mdiver said:

thing is, i could probably make a stir fry or an indian dish that you'd swear at least had poultry in it. it's all in the seasonings and textures, i'm tellin' ya...

Anx said:

Sure is bro....i am up for that anytime.

Natisse said:

All good, I hope...!



Honestly, if I've ever said anything which you've benefitted from, I'm truly honoured, Nat.

The tricky thing is sorting out my own life!

But, thanks, love - I'm always here to listen.

onenitealone said:

That is the truth my friend .....it's always easier to help others to get better but when it comes to ones self it is real tough.