So, I broke up with my ex a few times over the last 18months, but finally a few months ago. We've always stayed close, and good friends. Although the last few weeks he's gone crazy! He keeps saying he hates me if I do the smallest thing I'm cool with that, I know I don't need that kind of hassle and I wont stand for it being in my life. Even if it from someone who was in love with me and could be relied upon

He's not spoken to me for a week, and ignored me completely yesterday...

So last night, I was at a friends, and about 5.30am he texts me and says "up for some meaningless sex?"



Why would I want to sleep with someone who says they hate me and ignores me, until they want sex?!

So I said "maybe if you hadnt ignored me etc..." But then he starts saying sex is all Im good for!!!





I couldnt believe that. The statement itself doesnt bother me, because I have enough self confidence and self respect to dismiss it, and because it's him who's wasted the last 4 years of his life on me if thats the case. It was just the fact that he could take the rejection so hard as to be nasty to me. He was texting me for ages! I was just like, "why are you still talking to me then?" "why are you asking me for sex if you hate me, are you really that desperate?!" I mean, I hate it when people do that, say things in the heat of the moment and be mean just for the sake of it. I always try to only say what I feel, which probably riles all my friends!

But really, Luciano, I am not a cunt, I am good for plenty more than just sex, and dont dare come running back when you realise just how much you humiliated yourself to your closest friend. Go get some self respect.

It's all just drunken rubbish, but I guess it did get to me on some level, and I just had to vent

who broke up with who?

does he post in here?

you're better off without him.

LleeLlee said:

varies over the course of the last year, lol, but in the end it was completely mutual, we were both seeing other people.

muirdo said:

no, different ex!! Im not airing dirty laundry, Im just venting to the org!



He does have an account but he never used it, and unless he's orgstalking me, which I highly doubt, Im guessing its fading away...
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AndGodCreatedMe said:

Thanks Petra Its just wierd because I didnt think Id ever be saying that...things change I suppose

my fucking ex ignored me for weeks and is now emailing me/messaging me every few days expecting that i will not ignore her. yeah right.

i hate a good 75 % of people these days. it sucks.


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mrdespues said:

People are wierd.

I hate them all too. Bastards in hell, I say

mrdespues said:

susannah said:

He's the one with the problem, and I doubt he hates you. Sometiems people say hurtful things they later regret, anyhow, I would ignore him for years. Dont feel bad and dont leave yourself open to his ego.

you deserve better.

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Number23 said:

I thought that too!

susannah said:

would you like Big Sam an myself to come round and set about him?

susannah said:

It gives me the creps there's people out there who I no longer speak to but know what I look like baked and talk about in my sleep. When hyperspeed or tesla technology is a reality in our time window, exes should all be sent to different planets with no telephones.

LleeLlee said:

Yeah, thats what I mean, it just pisses me off when people say things they don't mean. Especially when I know they dont mean it. He's really lonely right now and going out drinking every night, feeling very unfulfilled. It aint my problem that Im the opposite.

Im the type of person who will alwys say "whenever you're ready, Ill give you another chance" not a chance at the relationship, but just as being friends, you know? And I tend to forfeit apologies because I just want to move past it. But he can take a running jump if he thinks he can get away with this. He knows I will get over that more than he will, and that he's left all alone.

thanks Llee llee

muirdo said:

Just remind him he doesnt deserve this!

Thanks lads

Number23 said:

I wholeheartedly agree I hate the whole "ex" concept. Memories are fine, but to bump into someone in the street that you once shared something so deep with, thats just...illogical.

I think I was scarred by the end of "the way we were"....

susannah said:

It's a shame he has ruined or is ruining a friendship. Sometimes its difficult to remain friends with an ex, one or the other is still coming to terms with the end of the intimate side of the relationship, those feelings take time to heal. I know in this case you said it was a mutual breakup but it sounds to me like he needs some time out, and maybe you too.

youre welcome sweets

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LleeLlee said:

Maybe. Just doesnt feel like a fresh wound, felt that way 18 months ago! But maybe thats it. Im cool anyway, it hurts to lose someone who cares about you, but at the end of the day we're all alone in this cold world anyway - sooner you accept that, less pain you'll feel over loss.

Thats what Im thinking anyway

susannah said:

Aye, that's why I try not to enjoy life too much and blot out all chance of anchoring a good moment to my mind with alchohol and things. I don't want my youth to be an old man's memory one day. I want to remember nothing good - it's just punching yourself in the face.

Number23 said:

But you'll be a funny old man with lots of stories!!

susannah said:

Oh, I know, but they'll all be made up. I'll be living in a lighthouse with five Yorkshire terriers wearing a three piece tweed suit with pocketwatch and one of those fancy lighters which flame up in the wind to light my crack pipe.

susannah said:

It's his loss.
ultimately we are alone
oh god, dont get me started

you'll be fine.

LleeLlee said:

No-one's more alone than God!

LleeLlee said:

ain't that the truth??

Eh, exes are exes for a reason susannah, move on.

Number23 said:

arsehole!!

mrdespues said:

Number23 said:

you're no doubt one of the decent ones, ironically enough.

mrdespues said:

but I know me saying that just makes you shy.

jerseykrs said:

EXACTLY!!!


I could not agree more..