Number23 said:

I can just see you now!

What will the terriers be called? Will they have names?!

LleeLlee said:

I know, its scary as f**k but its true! Ive always tried to remember that. You have to take what you can from people at any one time, but dont expect theyll always be there. Nothing is unconditional.

Im getting good at this!!

jerseykrs said:

Thanks Jers

I will move on, I have been, but I just didnt expect to have to cut him out of my life completely. But like I said, Im fine...if this is whats to happen, so be it.

susannah said:

They'll all be called Michela, after my ex. And so I won;t have to spend too much lung power calling individual names when I could be smoking crack, of course.

Number23 said:

I like it! Poor confused mutts!

Susannah, he's your ex, not your "current", for a reason. As long as you think he's trying to be your friend, and not accept he still wants benefits, you're going to feel frustrated. Ex's can't be friends, cause guys want one thing, and one thing only. It rhymes with Cooty Ball. Cut him off completely..no phone, no email, etc. then you'll be able to move on with your life..otherwise he's going to be an annoying fly

purplerein said:

I wanted benefits for a while too...but we both have to move on from each other. In fact I probably would have gone with him if he hadnt ignored me and been mean to me all week. But I know thats keeping us from moving on, and I think this is it, this is when we're going to cut it off.

All very complicated. But I guess time will tell.

This would probably mean a lot less to me if I did have a "current". Same goes for him. But Im working on that...

It's drunkeness believe me and I reckon you should feel good about yourself for not replying. It will only make him feel more ashamed for being horrible to you too.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

thanks JD I was replying to him, but I was tellign him to get a grip! I think he got a bit exasperated with himself and my telling him where to go, and didnt know how to deal with it.

But Im not talking to him now, I mean he's been ignoring me for weeks really, and that hurt a little but I want him to wake up today and remember what he said, and feel awful. and grovel! He deserves that Whether it hurt me or not.

I feel like vandalising his myspace page or something, telling everyone how horrible he is! I mean, I know his passwords for everything!!



But I wont
[Edited 8/6/06 6:57am]

susannah said:

It's very tempting to reply but you'd feel better if you didn't. The best thing would be just to delete. There's too many better boys out there for a good looking girl like you to chase.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

I plan to chase them all, I do! When I got that text I was just totally shellshocked, that he would say that after ignoring me! I didnt know what to say. Next time, maybe Ill ignore him, but I couldnt have last night I dont want to ignore him, I just want to punish him for a little while. I think this is one of those things that you have to take a day at a time and see what happens. I just hate ending things on bad terms - if its over thats fine, but I dont want any bad blood. I just find that really really hard to deal with ;-?

susannah said:

and if there is bad blood?....you won't fall to pieces, I promise

purplerein said:

Depends if there was something evil in the blood that smashes you into lots of tiny pieces. Evil exes do stuff like that.

purplerein said:

I know, I just dont like it. In any situation. Im lazy, I want everything easy and happy

susannah said:

when I talk about this to 9s he thinks im just being morose

JDINTERACTIVE said:

But no he's not evil. But we still move in the same sort of circles, we still live near each other and its inevitable that we'll see each other, for the next year at least. It would be awkward to bump into him, but if after so long together and so many memories, it would be pretty souldestroying to bump into him and still be mid fight.

At least for me. Im naive and young and I'd rather stay in my own little fairytale world For as long as possible

LleeLlee said:

Poor 9sey, hell, maybe he's happier than us!

susannah said:

He understands, but he just likes to disagree with me about everything for the sake of it.

Everybody, repeat after me:

"If I wish to remain friends with my ex, we will need to spend a MINIMUM of one month having absolutely no contact."

Thank you.

He texted and said he was sorry, but he still doesnt really care much anymore. Now its over and we've to go cold turkey, on every level.

I just lost my best friend.

Remind me why this isnt scary and painful?

susannah said:

orgnote?

HereToRockYourWorld said:

ok

susannah said:

i feel your pain, completely.

it's been probably a couple of months since i broke up with my ex... who was also the only best friend i've ever had. we've known, or had known each other for 11 years and had been together for 8...

it IS scary and painful, but that's an aspect of life we have to learn to live with, i guess

I feel your pain too child, i had to go through a breakup earlier this year, and yes i did lose my best friend...but i have learned to move on. it's been hard as hell too, because the relationship also cut off our friendship as well which is better, because we need time to get over each other. i think i still need some more time to get over him...but becoming friends with your ex is not a good thing right after a breakup imo...because it complicates things. However, after the feelings have faded, i don't think its a bad thing to become friends again later on like a couple of years down the line. but i think u too agreed to become "just friends" a little too soon.

susannah said:

Girl,

if I'm ever in your neck of the woods I will go over and kick his ass for you.


M

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

Miguel! I never figured you were that violent

AndGodCreatedMe said:

When it comes to protecting my girls, I become a protective papa bear.


M

Aw, you guys!

Thanks everyone I was all teary in the moment there but I feel better now.

Mrdespues and MissFee - youre both right, and seeing that you've gotten through it gives me strength to. We probably did make a mistake by being friends at the time, but it seemed like the right thing to do I guess Ill know in future. I think we will be good friends in the future, but youre right, not now. It actually makes me feel cleaner, relieved to know that, kinda like we have an excuse to stop seeing each other, for the sake of it being better in years to come.

Miguel, Im glad to have you as my papa bear!

Thanks everyone else who responded, I really needed that today, and may do again in the future. You're all great

Exes are fun!

Just keep ignoring him.