SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Thanks, bruh. I appreciate that! They are! In your honor, I'll show her a film with Tim Roth in it, this weekend.

ThreadBare said:

Everytime I see that dude I think of you!

ZombieKitten said:

Charlotte, they aren't my friends. They wanted to be my friends but I posted a blog about how their pages are exactly the same and obviously scams.

oh man... things are really starting to get interesting over here with this girl!




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Here's to finally getting a lady!!



Anyway, I found the thing that interferes with a lot of people being able to make the perfect connection is their inability to let go of the scripts they hold onto about love and the perfect mate. The plot and the casting of characters becomes more important than the objective of finding someone crazy enuff to deal with you. When I first met my wife 10 years ago it was more than obvious that she wasn't "my type", as we often refer to it. So I had to take a good inventory of what "my type" is, why I prefer that route, and the history behind it. I'm not even gonna lie....ten years later I still have to do this. WHY? Because I believe with all my heart that this is the woman God made for me, but a brutha still gets the craving for senseless drama that only "my type" used to give...just like an addict dealing with recovery everyday.

Hope it all goes well for you, bruh. Give this to her and tell her I can't wait to meet her, preferably next Saturday at my graduation. Don't be late....9am.

Adisa said:

Thanks, man. (Tho, what do you mean "finally?" At least this one really is a lady. So, the "finally" isn't totally off-base. )

And, i hear you on the "type" drama. I'm glad you mentioned that. She's wonderful, but not someone I would've thought "attainable," at first glance.

Graduation next Saturday? I need to check my e-mail.

thready that is so sweet, i wish you all the happiness!

Ohh, thank you all for the warm wishes and celebratory Org notes and everything.

She's something special. I'm going to try not to mess this up.

Adisa said:

That's B.S. If they are not your type they are not your type. Don't change your type. That's settling.

ThreadBare said:

It's quite fascinating and scary when people hold onto the "type" drama. I've been told more than a few times by women that I'm "too good for them" so they won't date me. Ironically, I missed a couple of "good" ones myself with that same type of (il)logic. So when I met my wife, I decided to grow up and believe that I deserve to be with a phenomenal, mature, respectful, spiritual, and soft-spoken woman like her instead of the "little girls in a grown woman's body" that I was accustomed to...you know, "my type".

Spats said:

you're going to tell him 10 years of a wonderful relationship is bullshit?
Wow.

Spats said:

Read my other post. It's called growing the fuck up. But you're right, for a lot of people that's B.S.

Adisa said:

Man, do I know what you're talking about. That's exactly it.



Spats, sometimes the settling happens when we stick to our "types," and refuse to venture beyond that. It's that venturing that demands growth and courage of us. Everyone has preferences, but the maturity that Adisa and I are talking about is cultivated by taking risks and is rewarded by being blessed with some real, quality women.

Adisa said:

See, my type is hot looking women. If i changed my type to plain janes things would not work because i am not attracted to them. No physical attraction and the relationship won't work without that. So the changing the type thing isn't possible for a lot of people.

Spats said:

I understand completely. So it always work for you having a hot looking woman, huh? I hope your women realize that where their worth lies with you. That way they won't be too shocked when you leave them should be the victim of a horrible fire,a car accident, or just plain old age which is sure to happen.

ThreadBare said:

And if she don't treat you right tell her there's gonna be an internet heffa after her



All the best little baby

Spats said:

You're making an awfully incorrect assumption, Spats. With all due respect to Adisa, his wife is beautiful.

Adisa's talking about pursuing exclusively that type that got him most interested the most immediately. That type that men constantly are told we have the luxury of pursuing because the numbers are in our favor, all women being equal.

But, all women are not equal. And, we've learned with time to not make that type non-negotiable in our consideration of a woman.

But, please, don't think he's saying he married an ugly woman. You'd be in error, if you made that assumption.

ThreadBare said:

You're assuming that Spats can manage to THINK of a woman as more than flesh to be used & discarded

Adisa said:

As far as physical attraction it does. You can't have sacktime without that. I would rather be with a woman who was hot at one time than never at all.

ThreadBare said:

That's exactly what he's assuming because "hot looking" is the top priority for him.

ThreadBare said:

I never said he did. I am saying what i like. Which is just hot women. It would not be possible for me to change my type.

Spats said:

I hear you, man. Just remember that many people take your approach to be an insincere one (even though you come off extremely committed to that approach ), as if you're using women and then discarding them when you're done.

Just understand that usage takes on all kinds of forms and goes both ways. Be blessed, man.

kidelrich said:

I know, see?

ZombieKitten said:

ZombieKitten said:

kidelrich said:

Spats said:

"my type is hot looking women"... YOU FOOL!

attractiveness physically i can understand but if that's all you want, buy a f*cking magazine!!.... you know...you deserve all you're getting, bud.





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ThreadBare said:

I am not using anyone. I just don't want long term relationhips. The one with the babe will only last a couple months.

mrdespues said:

They don't only have to be beautiful, they have to have their shit together, independant, no neediness, be nice , have their own life so they are not around me all the time, and be good in bed.

Spats said:

At least you know what you want..