im not sure about this thread, it's almost like none of us here has gotten that mad before?

luv4all7 said:

Well, we all have our faults, mine just happens to be face whoredom.

luv4all7 said:

A man who yells usually feels he has little real control over his life, and the yelling gives him a feeling of power. If the person he is yelling at starts to laugh then even that is gone (in his point of view)

SammiJ said:

okay.

SammiJ said:

Well, I certainly have and when I was younger I would yell up a storm.

But then, somewhere along the way, I realized that these screaming matches were always more about trying to get your own point across than it was about actually saying what you needed to say and then listening to what the other person has to say. You just can't do that when you are flying off the handle, and therefore nothing really gets resolved. Why waste all that time when you really are not accomplishing anything?

Sure, yelling can help to blow off some steam, but I'd rather blow that off some other way.

JustErin said:

ok point taken
but not everyone can be as resilient

SammiJ said:

Ya, this is so true. It's not easy to hold back, especially when you have a strong personality, and are stubborn like me.

I just decided that I don't need the kind of stress that comes along with all hell breaking loose.

I don't yell or hit .....and would never stay with someone that thought it was ok to do eithier when upset or angry

I can see yelling, I can. I mean to a point. But not flying off the handle and I mean OFF THE HANDLE for every little thing. I'm sure a guy knows when he's being unreasonable. I mean sometimes you can't help but laugh at the situation. What else can ya do, yanno?

jerseykrs said:

Okay, so what if she woulda cracked up when u were yelling at her. Would that be okay?

I can't deal with yelling. There is absolutely NO reason for anyone to raise their voice at me. none.
none.

luv4all7 said:

If their being ridiculous I would laugh too...if its off the handle then the last thing I would want is to be anywhere near them ever ..people with anger issues is not something I want in my life

luv4all7 said:

ask yourself that question

LleeLlee said:

Then you wonder if they will hit you next. Some men get physical

luv4u said:

Agreed.

You do wonder.

luv4all7 said:

You see that's not always true. When they're out of control they think you're the unreasonable one. They even blame you for making them yell.

Sometimes all the yelling can be a sign of depression, but that doesn't mean you should tolerate it.

I put up with crap like this for far too long.

CarrieMpls said:

I think that men, and women, that do this have insecurity issues.


This trait does flair up in me from time to time.

Edit: And, to be laughed at, when you could be trying to make a point, is not only disrespectful, but quite maddening. I suppose it depends on what provoked the yelling.

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[Edited 7/29/06 21:00pm]

SammiJ said:

as i said i knew men ( boys ) in my teens and very early 20s that did ... and i did my small shre of firing back a holler

but that was long ago and i grew out and away from that

it's simply something i do no want in my life

After reading the posts on this thread, I'm wondering if it isn't a little deeper than how I took the original post.

Anger is an emotion; people are going to yell from time to time. Based on this, my original thoughts on it still stand.

If this is leaning towards abuse, in that the yelling is a constant, and not a natural emotion brought about by circumstances in which one would naturally become heated, and others involved could see the person would become heated, then the relationship needs counseling and/or needs to be dissolved.

If toast is sliced lengthwise, and not diagonal, and someone is yelled at, the laughter is brought upon to make the situation go away. Either to stifle it for your own sake or to make it disappear because others are around.

If the latter happens there is a problem.

Mach said:

exactly

Ocean said:

WORD

SammiJ said:

i see children and babies do that all the time

JustErin said:

more easily said

SammiJ said:

what do you mean try to explain why?

maniraptess said:

interesting ...i have been around and worked with babies and children most of my life

i do not recall seeing them laugh or smile when yelled at

maniraptess said:

Sure, for some...but not for me.

JustErin said:

you must be a sprinter

How would you feel if you were upset and somebody laughed at you?

It's disrespectful that's what makes people outraged.... I can't stand that shit. That sends me out of my skull with rage.

maniraptess said: