buying school clothing is not spoiling a child, buying the newest gadget that comes out EVERYTIME a new one comes out is spoiling.

Question for the parents with more than one child? when it is the birthday of one child do you allow gifts from family and friends for the other child?

I'm guilty of that to a degree.

jerseykrs said:

to a degree? some of that gadget purchasing is for daddy, but he uses the kid as an excuse huh?

at least that's what the excuse was in my house, has HE played the new playstation and bought racing and war games to play on it...but it was for the girls

What if you are obsessed with buying them the cutest but most expensive clothes and designer shoes?

Is that spoiling them?

butterfli25 said:

hahah, no, Daddy buys everything he wants himself....

CJ does have a 1)cell phone 2)mp3 player 3)psp 4)skateboard 5)heeleys 6)a freestyle bike 7)xbox 8)I drew the line when he asked for a laptop.


HOWEVER, he has been mowing lawns and has saved $91! And, he says he wants to buy a weed wacker so he can a)do a better job and b)charge more money!

Now THAT makes me proud!!!!!

buying school clothing is not spoiling a child, buying the newest gadget that comes out EVERYTIME a new one comes out is spoiling.

Question for the parents with more than one child? when it is the birthday of one child do you allow gifts from family and friends for the other child?

I always had to remind my girls that ITS NOT YOUR BIRTHDAY ITS HERS! so you don't get presents. some family members had issues with this but respected my wishes. thoughts?

What if you are obsessed with buying them the cutest but most expensive clothes and designer shoes?

Is that spoiling them?

I took my son school clothes shopping on sunday, he doesn't have to wear uniforms anymore now that he's going into middle school, so he was excited.



Well, a few hundred dollars later, I find myself wondering if I spoil him too much. I mean, he's not stuck up, or disrespectful, or anything like that, he's a great person. To be honest though, he gets just about anything he wants, and I wonder if that is a good thing or not.


Here's the little dork

butterfli25 said:

hahah, no, Daddy buys everything he wants himself....

CJ does have a 1)cell phone 2)mp3 player 3)psp 4)skateboard 5)heeleys 6)a freestyle bike 7)xbox 8)I drew the line when he asked for a laptop.


HOWEVER, he has been mowing lawns and has saved $91! And,he says he wants to buy a weed wacker so he can a)do a better job and b)charge more money!
Now THAT makes me proud!!!!!

But fuck no I don't spoil those little broads.

He's been spoiled since wayyyyy back....

Okay, so my 2 cents is that buying your children nice clothes is NOT spoiling them (in a bad way). If U can afford to get them the best why not???

I think a lot depends on the childs overall character too. Me and my brother had EVERYTHING growing up. I had nicer clothes than a lot of grown ass women could only dream of. But when I got old enough to work, I did. I had a job every summer from the time I was 15. Yeah, my mom and dad still bought me a lot, but I APPRECIATED it.

My brother on the other hand NEVER worked (and still can't hold a job to save his life) and he is a bratty 25 year old who thinks everything should just be handed to him.

I say give to your kids if U can, but ya gotta teach them to value it too.

luv4all7 said:

see, that's what I mean. He's 11 and he's planning on how to work harder and make more money, that's totally not spoiled, that made me feel so proud.

PLUS, his third marking period last year he had HORRIBLE grades, and we told him that was unacceptable and he better do bring them up or else.


He made principal's list honors the next period. That's a good sign.

Okay, so my 2 cents is that buying your children nice clothes is NOT spoiling them (in a bad way). If U can afford to get them the best why not???

luv4all7 said:

One reason? Because not everyone's parents can afford to get them "the best." Lavishing your kids with a bunch of material shit is setting them up for other kids to be jealous of them. It also, whether you like it or not, gives them subtle messages that they are better than other kids in some ways. And it may also teach them to attach their self-worth to the things that they have instead of the ways in which they treat people.

I'm not saying shop at the Salvation Army if you don't have to. I'm just giving some perspective on why it might not be a great idea for them to constantly be flossing in all the latest clothes with all the latest gadgets all the time.

I think it's all how U go about raising them. I'd give ANYONE the shirt off my back NOW, and I would of when I was a kid too. And I can actually say the same thing for my lame ass brother in that deptartment.

I took my son school clothes shopping on sunday, he doesn't have to wear uniforms anymore now that he's going into middle school, so he was excited.



Well, a few hundred dollars later, I find myself wondering if I spoil him too much. I mean, he's not stuck up, or disrespectful, or anything like that, he's a great person. To be honest though, he gets just about anything he wants, and I wonder if that is a good thing or not.


Here's the little dork

I'm sure Jersey, when it comes to important things, you know when to say no. It's a parents job to set limits. My wife and I try to keep things in perspective, and do better for our kids then we had. That being said, we told our 11 year old she can't have a cell phone. She has alot of things, but we don't say yes to everything.
On a separate issue, your sons hair is almost as long as yours. But, please explain why it is that your pictures lately, have all revolved around the bathroom. It there something scatalogical going on?

jerseykrs said:

Because that's where we live.

I have to save money to buy him things, you know?

purplerein said:

Because that's where we live.

I have to save money to buy him things, you know?

luv4all7 said:

One reason? Because not everyone's parents can afford to get them "the best." Lavishing your kids with a bunch of material shit is setting them up for other kids to be jealous of them. It also, whether you like it or not, gives them subtle messages that they are better than other kids in some ways. And it may also teach them to attach their self-worth to the things that they have instead of the ways in which they treat people.

I'm not saying shop at the Salvation Army if you don't have to. I'm just giving some perspective on why it might not be a great idea for them to constantly be flossing in all the latest clothes with all the latest gadgets all the time.

FunkMistress said:

You mean like a Coach bag?