Unfortunately, I thought she was kidding (for a variety of reasons), so I basically laughed.

Later I realize that she totally wasn't kidding.

I'm such an ass.


I don't know. There's something so unsatisfying about the whole idea of marrying somebody when I'd have to run off to Canada to do it, and the place where I actually live wouldn't recognize it as real.

I've encountered this kind of weirdness around marriage before, in a different context. . . I'm exhausted by the whole damn thing. Fuck marriage and all of the stupid bullshit that surrounds it.

Except that she hasn't had my cynicism-generating experiences, so she likes the idea. Which is good enough for me. When I realized she was serious ( ), I told her that I would love to marry her.

So, could y'all cross your fingers for me that the Washington supreme court decides that my rights are the same regardless of the gender of the person I love?

Thanks.

wait, WHAT?????


You're already contmeplating making a life-long commitment? Even if the US doesn't recognize it as such??

Holy crap, Melissa!

Wow!!

Lovely, sweety!!!!! "sigh"

See ya in 5 days!!!


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MIGUELGOMEZ said:

I can't believe it's so soon, BTW. I've not even thought about packing and I haven't arranged my rides to the airport.

CarrieMpls said:

I know.

I'm spending the rest of my life with her. This simply feels like a fact. I can't explain it. It just IS. All of the confusion I've felt in trying to understand commitment over the years. . . poof. . . gone. I'm not contemplating making a commitment. That implies some sort of decision-making process. It's just the reality of what's there.

And I know it sounds completely insane at this point, but. . .well. . . it is what it is.


However, it ain't good enough for my government 'cause neither of us has a dick.

I've given this issue tons of thought for a long time, but with it now being personal in a new and different way, it's back at the forefront for me. And it just pisses me off. I wish I could hand her a better world, where she can really have the very simple thing that she wants.

CarrieMpls said:

I'm not ready either, I hate to tell ya! My house is a mess, I haven't rejiggered plans based on the current attendance. . . I don't even know for sure who is coming and when. . . I hope y'all are flexible.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Girl, you know that the best times we've all had at an Invasion is sitting back and talking. No worries.


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HereToRockYourWorld said:

I don't know what's taking them so long. There was a rumor a few months back that the court was going to issue a decision ordering the state legislature either to legalize same-sex marriage and/or create something like Vermont's civil unions. Furthermore, this decision was allegedly going to be issued in time for the legislature to enact/repeal any necessary statutes before the end of the last Regular Session on March 8, 2006. But that date has come and gone, the next Regular Session isn't until January 2007, and we still don't have a decision.

If Washington does become the second state to legalize same-sex marriage, I would expect that one done in Canada would be recognized here, at least at the state level. So there is the Vancouver option. Of course, whether this (i.e., being forced to go to another country) is acceptable to you is something you'd have to decide, if you haven't already.

Anyway, with all that said, I'm very happy for you two.

rudyray said:

I am sorry that you and your partner cannot just go get married like I can. It does not seem fair and I do not understand it. I hope someday that changes and everyone in love can get married as they please.
Much love and happiness to you both!

matt said:

Thanks.

So, that means that we for sure won't have a decision until after January?

shanti0608 said:

Thank you.

Sweetheart, I believe that's beautiful, and I could hope wish and pray for you to get what you need from the government, but the truth of the matter is, I wouldn't hold your breath. We are living in a world with closed minds in power.

I've always thought is so stupid, that when two are in love, they can only be reconized legally if they are opp-sexed. In a world where Men and Women getting married has lost all meaning, closed minded fool wish to "uphold the santuary of marrige", what a crock of shit.

congratulations! love is love no matter what any court says...

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Not at all. The rumor about the WA Supreme Court sending the matter to the legislature to work out the details was merely speculation. In fact, it looks as if the decision will come out by September:

http://en.wikipedia.org/w...Washington

matt said:

I Wikipedia.

Yeah, I had heard that they were likely to come out with it very soon.

yer gettin married... hopefully the law will fall in yall's favor. congratulations, melissa!

matt said:

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Thanks, sweetie.

This is the last time I'm getting engaged/married, I swear.

The Captain will not be happy until any consenting adult can marry any other consenting adult that they choose. And the Captain has a lot of influence. I know some hookers who know some lawmakers. I can pull some strings.

Congrats Melissa!

Wishing you both everything of the best!

In less than a week, I'll be married... wow!

Awww! This all happened so fast...whirlwind romance! Congratulations to you two no matter how you decide to spend your lives together...it's that you've decided that's the wonderful part

Diva said:

Congratulations, YOU!

OMG! Holy lesbian quickness!



I wish much happiness to you both in whatever form your union takes. We don't need no stinking state permission to marry. They can feck off!

But I do believe we will see it.

so sweet

Diva said:

Confrats to you to.. Been following your story as well- HOW AWESOME!!
I am excited for you guys!

How would that make the person with whom you are lusting after at work feel?...perhaps you're not ready to commit to your gf, when you're lusting after others...just sayin

purplerein said:

This IS the girl from work.