Mazurack said:

I hog the covers...

Byron said:

Hog 'em. I'd just have to snuggle closer...

in our perspective ... a balanced relationsip means all things

it's our money

we dont have much but we live an incredible life and do wonderful things

money is just that money

no games, no powerplays

Mazurack said:

I get to hog the covers?...

We are SO getting married...

I'm a bit of a control freak, so I take wads of money and hide them in the room, just keeping enough for the next couple of days, and then Mon and I split it, though it's really just a question of where the money is, which is unimportant, since we both spend it on the same things like food, drink, shopping and stuff.

I don't make much money and everything he earns is for necessities - what I make is for the luxuries, holidays, things we WANT rather than need.

What works for us is for my wife to handle the money...I just hand over
my paycheck and she takes care of the bills.

Basically, I have three different credit cards and a bank card in my wallet.

We combine "our" money, although we know couples in our family who keep their
own money. Actually, her brother and sis-in-law have a chart on their 'fridge
saying who owes who lended money back.

If u are smart? Keep the MONEY separate.

I don't understand , especially if you are married, why there would be the need for "sperate" accounts..... if you need your own accounts...you don't need to be married...

pardonme4livin said:

B.S. being married is a BUSINESS. Ask anyone who went thru some $$$ drama if they WISHED they had separate accounts.

pardonme4livin said:

I know people who have had more that a million $$ just vanish because they had joint accounts. It's NOT a good idea. People and money issues don't MIX.

pardonme4livin said:

That's just what I was about to say.

OR


Be very sure that the person you marry is someone you can get along with for the rest of your lives.

gemini13 said:

i was always under the impression that even after you get married, you still retain your identity as an individual person even though you are in a relationship with someone else. That being so, i don't understand why each person shouldn't have his or her own account as well as a joint account that they both share. after all, you are two people, separate human beings who are sharing your life.

The only time I can really see a couple not having two separate accounts, as well as a joint account is when one spouse either doesn;t work or makes very little. Other than that, it seems like two separate accounts and one shared one makes sense. Two separate people are coming together in a relationship and sharing their lives yet both are, or should, retain their own identity apart from the other. I think that this also should apply to money.


However, I am not married. so what do i know?

JasmineFire said:

Well, we each have our own accounts, but we don't bicker about which account the money comes from for whatever.....Here is California it doesn't matter, once you get married, your money is community property.

In this particular relationship I'm in, and I've mever experienced this before, we share the same thoughts so often, we never fight. It's refreshing, as I had problems with understanding in past relationships.

reneGade20 said:

it's the toys where it gets tricky... i have friends where the hubby really doesn't have a concept of how much it costs to run their household. she makes sacrifices so that bills get paid and then he goes and buys something on ebay

it all comes back to trust, understanding and communication... i hope i have that kind of relationship someday