Not only do I have to go to Ireland for work on monday, apparently now Im going for 6 weeks, when I was told 3. Am not impressed. Flights are booked.


I am very close to standing up, getting my coat and walking straight out of here. Ive had enough.


Please someone stop me

susannah said:

hang in there sweetie everything happens for a reason and this has too... it will be worth it in the end

Natisse said:

*grits teeth*

But I want to leave!

Sorry

Im looking for another job and I really wanted one before Monday, theres no way Im going to Belfast for 6 weeks. I'd be surprised if I made it in tommorrow

susannah said:

ok think of it like a "sliding doors" moment... what if? I know it's hard sweetie but you're a strong person and you can do this!! it will pay off and you'll have 6 weeks to enjoy Belfast!!! and PAID too! I know you'll have to work still but it's SO worth it from a travellers point of veiw, trust me

go for it

Natisse said:

I just really dont want to go. At worst I'd end up going for a week then leaving, I only need to give my work a weeks notice and Ive already applied for about 20 other jobs! Just waiting now...and looking for more. Thanks for making it look nice, but I just dont want to work here anymore, let alone go. I hate this, Im close to snapping...

Thanks u

susannah said:

oh sweetie I know what you mean... but hang in there because if for no other reason than it's a job. in this day and age noone can be complacent,really, about work and money. and who knows? you might just enjoy Belfast

Natisse said:

ok...I will try thanks Natisse

susannah said:

I hope you're ok hon

I have decided. Tommorrow is my last day at work.





I think.


I can find a crappy new job soon! Cant I? Im only lookig for bar or shop work.


Oh buggery.

Tell the bastards to shove it up their bahts.

Whoa!

First of all, I haven't been round much lately, susannah, so I'm not really familiar with the situation; I hope work's not getting you down.

Secondly, I can totally understand why you're feeling this way - that is totally direspectful. If they told you 3 weeks, it should be 3 weeks. If I was in your shoes I'd be feeling exactly the same way.

My only advice would be to echo what Natisse has already said: maybe you should give it a shot, see how you feel. You may be pleasantly surprised. It could be a great opportunity. It's not often you get to go away with work - paid - and get a real feel for the place. You may end up loving it.

If you don't like it or you're unhappy, then you can always come back. That option will always be there. At least then you'll have given it a shot and there'll be no 'What if's...?'. But it may be worth continuing to look for a new job just to keep your options open. You never know what might turn up.


I'm not exactly recommending you do this but - if it was me - I know I would tell them how I feel. Politely and tactfully, obviously, but I'd make my feelings known. That depends on the relationship you have with your bosses, of course.


Try not to worry, hun, and I really hope things work out well. And you know where we are if you need us.

Take care.

onenitealone said:

and there it is

listen to the man, Sus we're only saying this because we care about you and don't want you to do anything you'll regret in a few days time... hang in there sweetie xx

Natisse said:

I still think she should tell them to stick it up their bahts.

Natisse said:

Thanks you guys

I know youre both right, Im just such a stubborn little cow I dont wanna do it!

And ONA, I havent been around much either lol, but you havent missed anything. Im just looking for another job, a stress free one so I can bear to stay at uni for the next year. Then travel. I dont want to start my "career" yet, I just wanna chill!

My boss is just a wee boy, I mean, hes the worst man-manager Ive ever seen. Not quite David Brent, but getting there! Ive been here 3 hours now and he hasnt said a word to me, I dont just wanna go up to him and say "so how come in my inbox theres flight tickets for 6 weeks of work, when I agreed to 3?" A good boss would have said to start with. Im just not interested in working for him anymore, Im really not motivated. I cant remember if I said before but Im also not motivated because not only do I earn the same as a checkout girl would, they only paid me 1/5 of my wages at the end of last month, and I have to wait until the end of this month for the rest! I have just emailed HR asking for the reimbursement of the £181 in charges I have incurred from living on unpaid cheques.

Thanks for listening you guys, just when I came in here I really felt like I would stand up and leave, I needed to be talked down! Feel a bit better now, but I dont want to go there on Monday, I never did. I have no money to live on while Im there (beans on toast here), they havent told me anything about it, and I dont fancy the work itself much. I just want one of those random jobs people can find in a day, in a bar or something. I mean its silly things, I have a really bad tooth which needed taking out a year ago, and its hurting again now so ive made an appointment for Thursday - and Im meant to be in belfast. 3 weeks was bad enough to wait, but I sure as hell cant wait 6 weeks to go to the dentist. But how the hell do I get out if it? just seems hopeless

Wow

Ill shut up now. Thanks guys

And bahtmaster - dont encourage me!! I wanna But I wont!

susannah said:

Awww, love. Sounds like you've had a few things on your plate recently.

PLEASE don't think you have to 'shut up', though ; we're here to listen and if venting makes you feel better, that's all that matters. We all need to do it sometimes.

I TOTALLY understand why you don't want to do it. Totally. I'm exactly the same way as you - stubborn. There's nothing I hate more than having to do things I don't want to. Unless it's something like a wedding or something like that - things you should go to. If it's something I feel I'm being pressured into or something I don't want to do, my immediate reaction is to go against it. And it doesn't sound as if your employer has been completely upfront with you either.

Just try to get some breathing space, go into it with an open mind and see how you feel next week. You never know - this time next week you may be telling us how much you love Belfast and want to move there! You never know. Just please don't do anything too rash - better to find a job whilst you're in one, rather than starting again from scratch. But DON'T take any bullshit off your employer. Your opinion counts for something.

Don't forget we're here to listen, hun.
[Edited 7/13/06 5:31am]

onenitealone said:

Thanks Alun

Ive been talking to my colleague who i get on with really well, I could tell him anything and trust him with it, and I know that he plans to leave soon as well. But as great as he is, he's always like "stay here, get your degree, get your masters, blah blah blah, I know its crap but do it" because he regrets not doing it when he was younger. He says Im mad to leave, I should stay, itll be fun. But then he forgets how young I am and is like "oh my god. Im with you, leave, have fun!" So now I dont know what to do.

The bottom line is, my boss has left for the day and I dont know if he'll be in tommorrow. I should bloody well hope so because I have a lot of questions to ask when im supposed to be getting on a plane on Monday morning. And what about my dentist appointment?! thats important!

I just dont want to work here anymore, and its difficult to find a new job and hand in notice etc when Im meant to be going away for weeks. Im also a little hacked off that the time Im away for has doubled, I didnt agree to that - remembering I dont want to work here anyway.


I really dont know what to do.

susannah said:

Orgnote coming...

onenitealone said:

Thanks

susannah said:

Sent...

You all need more baht in your life.

TheBahtMaster said:

Come and bahtter me up.

onenitealone said:

TheBahtMaster can organise that for you.

I want a baht to hit my boss with

I think you should do what you feel is best for you..


If you don't like it, then don't stay.. The only one you have to please is
yourself!

Good luck with your decision.

susannah said:

There's always a chair.





Feeling better, hun?

Ax

sag10 said:

Thanks

My heads still mush, but Ill make a decision in time

susannah said:

I'm going to call both you and Alun tonight hon I promise on my own life... hang in there

onenitealone said:

What Id actually like to do is slash is tyres!

Im ok...my heads mush though. I really, really dont know what to do. But Im just going to keep my head down until it comes to me. I suppose I have until 4 o clock tommorrow

Thanks for the loveliest orgnote Ill keep you updated

Natisse said:

Aw thanks honey Shame we couldnt have a conference call!

I hope youre feeling better

Well, for all those who cared

A wee update. I was miserable last night worrying myself silly over this, but I felt better today. I spoke to my boss this morning and told him one by one the things which where in the way of me going to Belfast, and by doing so reminded him just how crap a boss he is for not telling me anything!

So now he's all confused and stressed but he's going to fix everything. Lets see if he does shall we! I also haev some other things to tell him after he deals with the first few.

But as my mother reminded me, I only hate the idea of going so much because its so disorganised and therefore stressful for me. So if he fixes everything, (doubtful) I will give it a shot!!

Thankyou for your attention, over and out