MickG said:

I am hugely attracted to my husband and he treats me very well! He swept me off my feet - SO different to all the other guys I had known. Mr Niceguy all the way. It helped immensely that he was sex on a stick as well

MickG said:

i agree. i think subconsciously women either want to control or be controlled. some even consciously want this. i think a lot buy into the cliche that all men are bastards, so any guy who acts normal couldn't possibly be for real.


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JustErin said:

I'm not interested in anyone else!!!

MickG said:

You're asking me that?

ZombieKitten said:

yeah that question applys to mostly american women

jerseykrs said:

Ok, NOW you're lying.

mrdespues said:

SOME women maybe, and maybe there is truth in the hot ones looking for a bad boy, and that could be because if she could have anyone she wanted, she would try to get the one that didn't seem to want her so much, the one that is different - a challenge? masochistic? issues? who knows!

JustErin said:

It was directed to the starter of the thread in aid to help one ponder the reality of the statement. I'm not asking you, but I would like you to ask yourself.

JustErin said:

how would they find out about that? i don't know.. .telling someone you're not attracted to them because of their weight is so crushing... ..i used to be overweight due to pills and my ex would always give me shit about it... i'm normal weight now, but at the time... it's just unkind, in my opinion... i can't really see it being a reasonable thing to say unless you know the person REALLY well and you are sure they can take the truth!

MickG said:

so why ask the canadian!

ZombieKitten said:

Maybe I ment North American women

mrdespues said:

They would find out because they share the same friends.

JustErin said:

, I think they think this thread is about you!

JustErin said:

ok well, still i'd say ANYTHING but the weight thing, unless you are really good friends to begin with and could suggest maybe losing a bit would increase their chances in general?

MickG said:

I am sure Australian women or European ones are the same I am just a freak!
If you are a hot guy (and when I say hot, it can be that certain sexy something not necessarily just physically attractiveness - you know, the twinkle in the eye) it doesn't matter if you are nice or not, you won't have any problems getting girls.

MickG said:

Ok, I started the thread and I just asked myself that question and I answered "Wtf? What a dumb question. You're not attracted to men that do not treat you well".

JustErin said:

I think how explicit you should be in your explanation, and precisely how said explanation can or should be presented in regards to the physical attraction aspect, depends greatly on your current relationship with this person.

jerseykrs said:

I know, and I am now being accused of being attracted to assholes because I supposedly do not find an overweight guy attractive.
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JustErin said:

mmmm... okay, talk to me in 20 years then.

do I smell coffee?

JustErin said:

did you read my post about the overweight person is going to assume that the overweight thing is the issue no matter what reason you give them?

that's why they also have emoticons that look like this




fuking hell ... who's nightmare should I be dealing with already?

mrdespues said:

Ok, it's not like I think saying "you're just too fat" is an acceptable thing to say. I just think you should be able to say "I'm not attracted to you" without being labelled mean.

If it was someone that most people would consider to be gorgeous would it then be ok to say you are just not attracted to them?

MickG said:

Talk to you in 20 years? What exactly are you trying to say? There's no need to be passive aggressive, just say what you mean.

ZombieKitten said:

Yes, I agree that this is probably what they will think but I think they deserve to hear the truth.

JustErin said:

it's all in the wording, i think... "not attracted" is different than "your weight is a problem"... i'm sure you'll handle it with grace and care, considering all you've said....

Can we jack this thread yet?

mrdespues said:

I totally agree with you. It's all in how you say it.

And I am not the one in this situation...Jersey is.

JustErin said:

I think they do too they will appreciate the honesty, for otherwise they will think they are being lied to as usual. It doesn't have to be "you are too fat" but "I'm just not attracted to you" would be enough, they will fill in the blanks.

ZombieKitten said:

No it won't. It will lead to other questions, that will lead to hurt feelings or agrevation if you don't answer them. It would just be easy to say good bye, I will call you when I need a ride.

ZombieKitten said:

It might not even be a case of the person being fat therefore you're turned off.

Sometimes you just don't feel it, know what I mean?