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went to a wedding 2day...now i need help and it was beautiful. Just absolutely beautiful. A friend of mine that i graduated from college with got married...her and her fiance has been together since high school.
she and her now husband, looked so happy and sure of themselves at the alter. He looked into her eyes like he knew that she was his best friend, his better half, the one he can relate most to and you can tell that he is madly in love with her. He WANTED to be with her. and when she looked into his eyes she showed how much she loved him, how much she could relate to him, and she understands him. all of this i gathered by just looking at them looking at each other at the alter, and also how they were at the reception. but something bothered me. i couldn't help wondering when that special guywold come into my life that would look at me with such emotion like this guy did with my friend. then i just felt like crying, like i sort of wished why didn't my last beau think that about me, why couldn't i had been special enough for him???? I don't think bad or low of myself or upset at myself, its just why....we were so close, we were like best friends and he threw it all away because i guess he's in that dumb dumb phase guys have when they feel like they either: 1) realize out of the blue that they don't want to commit 2) realize that they can't handle the stress and give and take of a relationship 3) realize that they probably aren't good enough to be with someone special (or whatever, someone told me that this could be a possiblity too) i was always there for him, i always wanted to be there for him, and just wanted to support him....but somehow its like that still wasn't good enough for him??? If that isn't what is? i'm confused? i guess i'm having a relapse or something??? I just don't get it. there i have vented for the evening. [Edited 6/24/06 20:05pm] I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Don't fret sweetie. It has nothing to do with you. Guys feel they must get a certain amount of money or have reached a plateau in their lives before they get married. They fail to realized we love them for their heart not their wealth. Most of us anyway. Don't worry. We love you! Wanted: Virtual Sugar Daddy to help me buy stuff on Farmville and move up the ranks. Use of Viagra not authorized. Get your two minutes and go! | |
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ShySlantedEye1 said: Don't fret sweetie. It has nothing to do with you. Guys feel they must get a certain amount of money or have reached a plateau in their lives before they get married. They fail to realized we love them for their heart not their wealth. Most of us anyway. Don't worry. We love you!
What crap that it is. If you want a good looking woman you have to have money or will have money in the future. | |
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missfee said: and it was beautiful. Just absolutely beautiful. A friend of mine that i graduated from college with got married...her and her fiance has been together since high school.
she and her now husband, looked so happy and sure of themselves at the alter. He looked into her eyes like he knew that she was his best friend, his better half, the one he can relate most to and you can tell that he is madly in love with her. He WANTED to be with her. and when she looked into his eyes she showed how much she loved him, how much she could relate to him, and she understands him. all of this i gathered by just looking at them looking at each other at the alter, and also how they were at the reception. but something bothered me. i couldn't help wondering when that special guywold come into my life that would look at me with such emotion like this guy did with my friend. then i just felt like crying, like i sort of wished why didn't my last beau think that about me, why couldn't i had been special enough for him???? I don't think bad or low of myself or upset at myself, its just why....we were so close, we were like best friends and he threw it all away because i guess he's in that dumb dumb phase guys have when they feel like they either: 1) realize out of the blue that they don't want to commit 2) realize that they can't handle the stress and give and take of a relationship 3) realize that they probably aren't good enough to be with someone special (or whatever, someone told me that this could be a possiblity too) i was always there for him, i always wanted to be there for him, and just wanted to support him....but somehow its like that still wasn't good enough for him??? If that isn't what is? i'm confused? i guess i'm having a relapse or something??? I just don't get it. there i have vented for the evening. [Edited 6/24/06 20:05pm] Why was it his problem? Why was he dumb? What makes you think he didn't feel good enough. Trust me. if a guy says that he's lying. Maybe he just wasn't ready to spend the rest of his life with one person. it's not a crime. And we'll see if that new husband still feels the same way in a few years. No such thing has a dream marriage. | |
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Spats said: missfee said: and it was beautiful. Just absolutely beautiful. A friend of mine that i graduated from college with got married...her and her fiance has been together since high school.
she and her now husband, looked so happy and sure of themselves at the alter. He looked into her eyes like he knew that she was his best friend, his better half, the one he can relate most to and you can tell that he is madly in love with her. He WANTED to be with her. and when she looked into his eyes she showed how much she loved him, how much she could relate to him, and she understands him. all of this i gathered by just looking at them looking at each other at the alter, and also how they were at the reception. but something bothered me. i couldn't help wondering when that special guywold come into my life that would look at me with such emotion like this guy did with my friend. then i just felt like crying, like i sort of wished why didn't my last beau think that about me, why couldn't i had been special enough for him???? I don't think bad or low of myself or upset at myself, its just why....we were so close, we were like best friends and he threw it all away because i guess he's in that dumb dumb phase guys have when they feel like they either: 1) realize out of the blue that they don't want to commit 2) realize that they can't handle the stress and give and take of a relationship 3) realize that they probably aren't good enough to be with someone special (or whatever, someone told me that this could be a possiblity too) i was always there for him, i always wanted to be there for him, and just wanted to support him....but somehow its like that still wasn't good enough for him??? If that isn't what is? i'm confused? i guess i'm having a relapse or something??? I just don't get it. there i have vented for the evening. [Edited 6/24/06 20:05pm] Why was it his problem? Why was he dumb? What makes you think he didn't feel good enough. Trust me. if a guy says that he's lying. Maybe he just wasn't ready to spend the rest of his life with one person. it's not a crime. And we'll see if that new husband still feels the same way in a few years. No such thing has a dream marriage. can't you manage to say one nice thing to anyone?? or better yet... just disappear. | |
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fantasyislander said: Spats said: Why was it his problem? Why was he dumb? What makes you think he didn't feel good enough. Trust me. if a guy says that he's lying. Maybe he just wasn't ready to spend the rest of his life with one person. it's not a crime. And we'll see if that new husband still feels the same way in a few years. No such thing has a dream marriage. can't you manage to say one nice thing to anyone?? or better yet... just disappear. I have said nice things to people here before. | |
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Spats said: fantasyislander said: can't you manage to say one nice thing to anyone?? or better yet... just disappear. I have said nice things to people here before. i mean besides complimenting hot blondes and big boobs. | |
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At least, he didn't love you the way you love him. And that's harsh and yucky and difficult to deal with, but better you know it now than waste more time with someone who isn't what you want them to be or isn't honest with you about their feelings. You deserve someone who's head over heels in love with you, who'll look in your eyes the way you saw happen today, and so on. He wasn't it. |
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CarrieMpls said: He didn't love you.
At least, he didn't love you the way you love him. And that's harsh and yucky and difficult to deal with, but better you know it now than waste more time with someone who isn't what you want them to be or isn't honest with you about their feelings. You deserve someone who's head over heels in love with you, who'll look in your eyes the way you saw happen today, and so on. He wasn't it. Exactly. It was not his fault. Just wasn't meant to be. But don't hold your breath for "Head over heals in love" or "Looking into your eyes with undying love". That is romance novel BS. That shit does not last. | |
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fantasyislander said: Spats said: I have said nice things to people here before. i mean besides complimenting hot blondes and big boobs. I have complimented a few women here who are not blonde. | |
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Ex-Moderator | Spats said: CarrieMpls said: He didn't love you.
At least, he didn't love you the way you love him. And that's harsh and yucky and difficult to deal with, but better you know it now than waste more time with someone who isn't what you want them to be or isn't honest with you about their feelings. You deserve someone who's head over heels in love with you, who'll look in your eyes the way you saw happen today, and so on. He wasn't it. Exactly. It was not his fault. Just wasn't meant to be. But don't hold your breath for "Head over heals in love" or "Looking into your eyes with undying love". That is romance novel BS. That shit does not last. There was a time I'd have agreed with you. But actually, that 'BS' does exist. I've seen it. But as far as I can tell, it's utterly, utterly rare. |
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Spats said: fantasyislander said: i mean besides complimenting hot blondes and big boobs. I have complimented a few women here who are not blonde. every once in a while you say something that truly entertains me... ok... BEYOND physical appearance. have you complimented anyone beyond what they look like? | |
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Spats said: ShySlantedEye1 said: Don't fret sweetie. It has nothing to do with you. Guys feel they must get a certain amount of money or have reached a plateau in their lives before they get married. They fail to realized we love them for their heart not their wealth. Most of us anyway. Don't worry. We love you!
What crap that it is. If you want a good looking woman you have to have money or will have money in the future. I've seen some hot women married to car mechanics, beer delivery guys, etc, as opposed to oil tycoons. My art book: http://www.lulu.com/spotl...ecomicskid
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ufoclub said: Spats said: What crap that it is. If you want a good looking woman you have to have money or will have money in the future. I've seen some hot women married to car mechanics, beer delivery guys, etc, as opposed to oil tycoons. i wouldn't care if my love was a streetsweeper... doesn't matter what he does. i don't love him for his money. | |
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ufoclub said: Spats said: What crap that it is. If you want a good looking woman you have to have money or will have money in the future. I've seen some hot women married to car mechanics, beer delivery guys, etc, as opposed to oil tycoons. I haven't. | |
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fantasyislander said: ufoclub said: I've seen some hot women married to car mechanics, beer delivery guys, etc, as opposed to oil tycoons. i wouldn't care if my love was a streetsweeper... doesn't matter what he does. i don't love him for his money. You say that now. But you didn't go out looking for a streetsweeper. What does your loverboy look like? | |
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fantasyislander said: Spats said: I have complimented a few women here who are not blonde. every once in a while you say something that truly entertains me... ok... BEYOND physical appearance. have you complimented anyone beyond what they look like? | |
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Spats said: fantasyislander said: i wouldn't care if my love was a streetsweeper... doesn't matter what he does. i don't love him for his money. You say that now. But you didn't go out looking for a streetsweeper. What does your loverboy look like? absolutely gorgeous... blonde hair, blue eyes... and when he looks at me with love in his eyes i just melt. when i first got to know him i didn't even know what he did, had no idea how much money he made. actually, i don't even know now how much he makes. and before you ask... no i won't post pictures. some parts of my life i like to keep private. | |
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fantasyislander said: Spats said: You say that now. But you didn't go out looking for a streetsweeper. What does your loverboy look like? absolutely gorgeous... blonde hair, blue eyes... and when he looks at me with love in his eyes i just melt. when i first got to know him i didn't even know what he did, had no idea how much money he made. actually, i don't even know now how much he makes. and before you ask... no i won't post pictures. some parts of my life i like to keep private. Well there ya go. He's great looking. Women love that to. A great looking streetsweeper would be easier to take than a fat and bald one. | |
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Spats said: fantasyislander said: absolutely gorgeous... blonde hair, blue eyes... and when he looks at me with love in his eyes i just melt. when i first got to know him i didn't even know what he did, had no idea how much money he made. actually, i don't even know now how much he makes. and before you ask... no i won't post pictures. some parts of my life i like to keep private. Well there ya go. He's great looking. Women love that to. A great looking streetsweeper would be easier to take than a fat and bald one. ah... but he wasn't as attractive to me when we first met. i thought he was good-looking... but i think he's even more gorgeous now. | |
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Ex-Moderator | Spats said: fantasyislander said: absolutely gorgeous... blonde hair, blue eyes... and when he looks at me with love in his eyes i just melt. when i first got to know him i didn't even know what he did, had no idea how much money he made. actually, i don't even know now how much he makes. and before you ask... no i won't post pictures. some parts of my life i like to keep private. Well there ya go. He's great looking. Women love that to. A great looking streetsweeper would be easier to take than a fat and bald one. fat and bald streetsweepers |
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Spats said: fantasyislander said: every once in a while you say something that truly entertains me... ok... BEYOND physical appearance. have you complimented anyone beyond what they look like? I don't know any of the people here personally so i can only compliment on looks. And women love to be complimented on their looks. | |
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Missfee - the guy might just be too young and immature. That's what it sounds like to me. It's actually sort of a mark of maturity on his part to recognize this in himself... and it does you a favor in the end.
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Mach said: thanks, i needed that. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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ShySlantedEye1 said: Don't fret sweetie. It has nothing to do with you. Guys feel they must get a certain amount of money or have reached a plateau in their lives before they get married. They fail to realized we love them for their heart not their wealth. Most of us anyway. Don't worry. We love you!
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Spats said: ShySlantedEye1 said: Don't fret sweetie. It has nothing to do with you. Guys feel they must get a certain amount of money or have reached a plateau in their lives before they get married. They fail to realized we love them for their heart not their wealth. Most of us anyway. Don't worry. We love you!
What crap that it is. If you want a good looking woman you have to have money or will have money in the future. thanks for trying to come on to my thread to ruin it by talking that same old bullshit about things being the woman's fault...but unfortunately you haven't accomplished that because I have ignored your comments. Thanks and have a great day. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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CarrieMpls said: He didn't love you.
At least, he didn't love you the way you love him. And that's harsh and yucky and difficult to deal with, but better you know it now than waste more time with someone who isn't what you want them to be or isn't honest with you about their feelings. You deserve someone who's head over heels in love with you, who'll look in your eyes the way you saw happen today, and so on. He wasn't it. thanks Carrie I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Heiress said: Missfee - the guy might just be too young and immature. That's what it sounds like to me. It's actually sort of a mark of maturity on his part to recognize this in himself... and it does you a favor in the end.
It's not you, it's him. New doors will open for you, never fear... Thanks heiress I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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