missfee...I've been married for 17 years now...and i feel a relationship goes through stages.
certainly a relationship takes alot..I mean..alot of work, and honesty in communication.
when you first date someone, it's exciting and new and it's easy to feel all lovey dovey
then as you get to know someone better, the feelings begin to change to contentment.
At a wedding such as you attended..it's easy for the marrying couple to feel those look into your eyes and yadda yadda yadda feelings..it's a very emotional (hopefully) time.
It's after being married for awhile that the challenge comes.
thankfully, I look at my wife now, and I feel so damn grateful to be with her..so I have those feelings you've described..but it took time for me to get there.
there's someone for you. I promise

Spats said:

And men don't??

missfee said:

my pleasure ... we all needs hugs and understanding

CarrieMpls said:

I've seen it too. I find Europeans very romantically inclined looooong after the honeymoon phases, but it's not just restricted to this continent. Case in point; I was having dinner with my best friend from NYC, he was in Paris on a business convention. We invited his boss and assistant to dine with us...and the boss had to be in his 50's...a middle aged Brooklynite who had been married to the same girl since the 1970's. When the table discussion turened to love and relationships he admitted full on that evn though he was enjoying his first trip to Paris, inside he was crushed that his wife wasn't there to share it. He missed her terribly and was looking forward to calling home when we got back to the hotel. Then as we were finishing dinner, he does the darndest thing: as we all order our designer coffees and expressoes he simply requests a tea pot of hot water and a cup. When the waiter arrives with it, this man,six feet tall, robust, and a Lexington Avenue company head (eith all the stereotyping that implies), suddenly smiled shyly and said; "she really loves me...she gives me these to take on the road and remember her by" and takes a little chamomile teabag out of a ziplock & proceeds to brew his own tea with it..."we just started drinking these because we're getting older and it helps our stomachs, but every little sip reminds me of our home and our life together..."


...you know er all just sat there like a bunch of dumbfounded idiots ...

he was an example in the living flesh how true and lasting love can soften the hardest of hearts

ufoclub said:

This is true.....

luv4all7 said:

I think I've seen many a HOT GUY of any income with a hot girlfriend. I also know one couple where the guy's charisma lies in his humor, and he doesn't make much money, but his girlfriend that lives with him is like a model, and she told me she thought he would be so much fun to be in a relationship with after helping him out with some comedy videos he was making.

purplerein said:

There it is.
That's beautiful PR.

purplerein said:

thanks for the wisdom

it's sought of hard to think that that kind of love that i saw yesterday at the wedding is rare, because my parents were soul mates until my father passed away.....so i have this thing in my head that i will meet that love of my life or i have already and just don't know it.
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Ottensen said:

It doesn't have to be so rare. People just don't take the time to cultivate these romantic impulses, and that's a pity.

missfee said:

I was just responding to the fact he was being blamed. His courage and his brains were questioned because he did not want to stay with you and i was just asking why is it his fault. You two were just not meant to be.

Just being realistic that true love is very hard to find and it is rarely found. So don't set yourself up to be letdown.

purplerein said:

Exactly. That couple you saw at the wedding won't be looking at each other the same way after she starts letting herself go with kids and what not. Mariages decline over time. Divorce rate is at it's highest right now.

shanti0608 said:

Not like women do. Women get wet over compliments on their looks. Even though i am told here that looks don't matter. If they didn't people would not care if people thought they were attractive.

Ottensen said:

The guy is whipped and a wimp.

ufoclub said:

It was because was hot. If he was ugly AND poor. It would be different.

Spats said:

no, the comedy guy is nerdy, awkward, and poor, and he has a live in modelesque girlfriend, at least for now!

Spats said:

You do not get hot if a woman compliments your looks?
Well- I am not one of those hot babes you talk about so I have to rely on my personality and I do the same when I find a man attractive- it is not all about the looks for me..
A goodhearted honest man that knows how to treat a woman is what turns me on...

shanti0608 said:

No i don't. Maybe it's because they have always complimented me on stupid things. I have been complimented on my Mouth (Yes, my mouth. Huh?) shoulders, legs, hair. That's supposed to impress me??? Where do women learn this shit? If they want to get me hot then just jump me. Words and compliments are not gonna do it.