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Gaijins' Groupies Something that amazes me here in Japan is how easy it would be to have casual sex. I could sleep with a new woman every day if I wanted to. And it's not because they find me specifically attractive or interesting - the percentage that does is probably the same as in my own country - but because I'm caucasian.
Gaijins (= the slightly derogatory Japanese word for foreigners) are treated as rock stars by the women here. I don't know how many white morons I've seen walking down the street with their arms around a gorgeous Japanese lady. These are the types of guys that barely know how to tie their own shoelaces, let alone how to treat a woman. They probably know it too, and I'm sure that's why they decided to move to Japan in the first place. They expected the stereotypical swooning, demure, submissive Japanese women to throw themselves at their feet as soon as the plane touched down in Tokyo, and guess what - that's exactly what happened, no matter how unbelievable it may seem. I'm not sure if it's because the women find us "exotic", if they think we have bigger dicks, if they think we will bring them back to our own countries, if they think we're more likely to treat them well than Japanese men would, or if it's simply curiosity that killed the cat. Either way, it's a rather weird situation that frankly is a turn-off for me. I love women who go for what they want, but I'd prefer it to be me and not some sort of ethnic magic that I'm apparently radiating. I know that it sounds like a dream come true to be in this situation, but the fact that I'm very isolated here because of the cultural barrier and the language barrier makes these women's advances seem even more bizarre from my point of view. Like a few weeks ago, when a beautiful lady who didn't even understand enough English to answer "how are you?" still insisted on getting into my car and going for a drive with me. And no, she wasn't a prostitute. She was a member of the administrative staff at the school where I was working at the time. So ladies, what do you make of this? Why do you think these women behave like they do? Would you do the same if a guy from an ethnic background that appealed to you arrived in your home town? And guys, apart from the obvious "just go for it!" comments that I'm sure to get from some of you, how would you handle the situation?  | |
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I'm moving to Japan. | |
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jerseykrs said: I'm moving to Japan.
Yeah, just imagine how well a guy who does know how to tie his shoelaces could do when these morons get classy Lucy Liu-look-alikes... . | |
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retina said: jerseykrs said: I'm moving to Japan.
Yeah, just imagine how well a guy who does know how to tie his shoelaces could do when these morons get classy Lucy Liu-look-alikes... . That's what I'm talking about!  | |
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anyhow, I would say that its the novelty factor, you're different and thats what appeals to them. Its like wanting to have the latest exclusive gadget, a status symbol.  | |
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LleeLlee said:
anyhow, I would say that its the novelty factor, you're different and thats what appeals to them. Its like wanting to have the latest exclusive gadget, a status symbol. Oh great, I'm a Lexus. 
You're probably right though; they think it makes them look cool if they're seen capturing a rare species. Then they can show it off to their friends. "I found this blonde thing last week. He's 185 cm tall". "Oh really, that's good for you, but mine is 190 cm and named Jörgen".
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retina said: LleeLlee said:
anyhow, I would say that its the novelty factor, you're different and thats what appeals to them. Its like wanting to have the latest exclusive gadget, a status symbol. Oh great, I'm a Lexus.
You're probably right though; they think it makes them look cool if they're seen capturing a rare species. Then they can show it off to their friends. "I found this blonde thing last week. He's 185 cm tall". "Oh really, that's good for you, but mine is 190 cm and named Jörgen".
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LleeLlee said: retina said: Oh great, I'm a Lexus.
You're probably right though; they think it makes them look cool if they're seen capturing a rare species. Then they can show it off to their friends. "I found this blonde thing last week. He's 185 cm tall". "Oh really, that's good for you, but mine is 190 cm and named Jörgen".
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now you know how some women feel.  | |
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oh, and I think it's the big dick factor
because if they end up with a gaijin they will probably have to get a job HA HA HA HA! | |
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Interesting
No comment apart from that though! | |
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LleeLlee said: retina said: Oh great, I'm a Lexus.
You're probably right though; they think it makes them look cool if they're seen capturing a rare species. Then they can show it off to their friends. "I found this blonde thing last week. He's 185 cm tall". "Oh really, that's good for you, but mine is 190 cm and named Jörgen".
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now you know how some women feel. I knew you were going to say that. | |
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ZombieKitten said: oh, and I think it's the big dick factor
because if they end up with a gaijin they will probably have to get a job HA HA HA HA! True, actually! A friend of mine who teaches conversation in Nagoya said that the women in her classes all seem interested in white men, but they're worried that they might have to work if they hook up with one. If they marry a Japanese man though, they will almost certainly spend all their days in beauty salons and shopping malls instead and apparently they're happy with that. | |
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susannah said: Interesting
No comment apart from that though! Well, it's a lot better than nothing at all. | |
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retina said: susannah said: Interesting
No comment apart from that though! Well, it's a lot better than nothing at all. Well Im grateful for your random stories about Japan, its better than travel books! Hope youre enjoying it ok  | |
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retina said: LleeLlee said:
now you know how some women feel. I knew you were going to say that. | |
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susannah said: retina said: Well, it's a lot better than nothing at all. Well Im grateful for your random stories about Japan, its better than travel books! Hope youre enjoying it ok me too. |
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retina said: ZombieKitten said: oh, and I think it's the big dick factor
because if they end up with a gaijin they will probably have to get a job HA HA HA HA! True, actually! A friend of mine who teaches conversation in Nagoya said that the women in her classes all seem interested in white men, but they're worried that they might have to work if they hook up with one. If they marry a Japanese man though, they will almost certainly spend all their days in beauty salons and shopping malls instead and apparently they're happy with that. I'm moving to Japan! | |
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applekisses said: retina said: True, actually! A friend of mine who teaches conversation in Nagoya said that the women in her classes all seem interested in white men, but they're worried that they might have to work if they hook up with one. If they marry a Japanese man though, they will almost certainly spend all their days in beauty salons and shopping malls instead and apparently they're happy with that. I'm moving to Japan! I was thinking the same. |
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This is exactly why Gulliver got all the little people in his travels.
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And why he got the Houyhnhnms.
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CarrieMpls said: applekisses said: I'm moving to Japan! I was thinking the same. It's really fascinating. If you go into a shopping mall during the day, everybody in there is female. They're wearing make-up and clothes so perfect that it must have taken them hours to get ready (the only flaw is their teeth; most Japanese have very poor dental hygiene), and they're carrying at least three bags from exclusive stores. They also walk with their toes pointing inwards in order to look "cute" and when they come home in the evening they have to cook dinner and keep it warm until their husbands decide to come back from their mistresses' place. So bear in mind that all this is also part of the package if you want to live a woman's life in Japan.  | |
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: I was thinking the same. It's really fascinating. If you go into a shopping mall during the day, everybody in there is female. They're wearing make-up and clothes so perfect that it must have taken them hours to get ready (the only flaw is their teeth; most Japanese have very poor dental hygiene), and they're carrying at least three bags from exclusive stores. They also walk with their toes pointing inwards in order to look "cute" and when they come home in the evening they have to cook dinner and keep it warm until their husbands decide to come back from their mistresses' place. So bear in mind that all this is also part of the package if you want to live a woman's life in Japan.  good lord ...i'll PASS  | |
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Mach said: retina said: It's really fascinating. If you go into a shopping mall during the day, everybody in there is female. They're wearing make-up and clothes so perfect that it must have taken them hours to get ready (the only flaw is their teeth; most Japanese have very poor dental hygiene), and they're carrying at least three bags from exclusive stores. They also walk with their toes pointing inwards in order to look "cute" and when they come home in the evening they have to cook dinner and keep it warm until their husbands decide to come back from their mistresses' place. So bear in mind that all this is also part of the package if you want to live a woman's life in Japan. good lord ...i'll PASS Me too!! | |
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: I was thinking the same. It's really fascinating. If you go into a shopping mall during the day, everybody in there is female. They're wearing make-up and clothes so perfect that it must have taken them hours to get ready (the only flaw is their teeth; most Japanese have very poor dental hygiene), and they're carrying at least three bags from exclusive stores. They also walk with their toes pointing inwards in order to look "cute" and when they come home in the evening they have to cook dinner and keep it warm until their husbands decide to come back from their mistresses' place. So bear in mind that all this is also part of the package if you want to live a woman's life in Japan. I honestly wouldn't mind a life like that. Minus the mistress part, of course.
I adore fashion, I adore creating new outfits and such and just don't have the time (or money) to do as much as I would like. For me it's a somewhat creative outlet. Of course, if I didn't have to work and had no children I'd likely also spend many hours volunteering as I'd still need to feel like I'm contributing something. |
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CarrieMpls said: retina said: It's really fascinating. If you go into a shopping mall during the day, everybody in there is female. They're wearing make-up and clothes so perfect that it must have taken them hours to get ready (the only flaw is their teeth; most Japanese have very poor dental hygiene), and they're carrying at least three bags from exclusive stores. They also walk with their toes pointing inwards in order to look "cute" and when they come home in the evening they have to cook dinner and keep it warm until their husbands decide to come back from their mistresses' place. So bear in mind that all this is also part of the package if you want to live a woman's life in Japan. I honestly wouldn't mind a life like that. Minus the mistress part, of course.
I adore fashion, I adore creating new outfits and such and just don't have the time (or money) to do as much as I would like. For me it's a somewhat creative outlet. Of course, if I didn't have to work and had no children I'd likely also spend many hours volunteering as I'd still need to feel like I'm contributing something. I wouldn't mind living a life like that minus the walking pidgeon-toed thing! | |
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retina said: CarrieMpls said: I was thinking the same. It's really fascinating. If you go into a shopping mall during the day, everybody in there is female. They're wearing make-up and clothes so perfect that it must have taken them hours to get ready (the only flaw is their teeth; most Japanese have very poor dental hygiene), and they're carrying at least three bags from exclusive stores. They also walk with their toes pointing inwards in order to look "cute" and when they come home in the evening they have to cook dinner and keep it warm until their husbands decide to come back from their mistresses' place. So bear in mind that all this is also part of the package if you want to live a woman's life in Japan. well blackened teeth did used to be all the rage in the olden days! | |
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ZombieKitten said: retina said: It's really fascinating. If you go into a shopping mall during the day, everybody in there is female. They're wearing make-up and clothes so perfect that it must have taken them hours to get ready (the only flaw is their teeth; most Japanese have very poor dental hygiene), and they're carrying at least three bags from exclusive stores. They also walk with their toes pointing inwards in order to look "cute" and when they come home in the evening they have to cook dinner and keep it warm until their husbands decide to come back from their mistresses' place. So bear in mind that all this is also part of the package if you want to live a woman's life in Japan. well blackened teeth did used to be all the rage in the olden days! What do you mean, it's all the rage now!  | |
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retina said: ZombieKitten said: well blackened teeth did used to be all the rage in the olden days! What do you mean, it's all the rage now!  gross! | |
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