.....sometimes, when it comes to fucking. Iam lucky to get any, but damn, some expect so much. Some expect a huge porn dick, hours of intercourse (zzzzz), and doing it multpile times a night. I have been with some demanding girls, and its not fair. Not all are like this of course.


I think women place a too high standard on sex. Dont they realize that the man does alot of the work and cant get it right everytime


One girlfriend was really cool about me not being all that in bed, as luckily she wasn't too good either. Stuff like getting in back-breaking positions which didnt work, not being too good at oral, u know, we learnt alot together, but still, with internet porn being watched by many girls, they place a high expectation sometimes, and can be, and have been very mean to me personally with my performance


Rumours going on my block about me being crap in bed and not built to her standard etc... is something that killed me in the inside. Some women are fucking mean. I guess that flashback in time is something i'll never fully recover from, and iam a guy with no pride in myself in the first place.


So i can never be excellent in bed, so what? Women need to just be a bit more considerate or just use their dildo to satisfy them.

some women ... yes

Men do most of the work?

This is news to me.
[Edited 6/15/06 19:44pm]

JustErin said:

I think thats fair. If u ain't got the size, its gonna be harder to satisfy, and women seem to think its ur fault for what god gave u. Wheres that logic?

thesexofit said:

where's your logic?

thesexofit said:

What does size have to do with doing most of the work though?

Honestly, dicksize has nothing to do with satisfying a woman.

SammiJ said:

blaming a man for having a small dick is not only humiliating, its also reDICKulous as its something u are born with. Theres so many dick pumps and dick building companies around, as they trick men into buying their shit, because men think women have to have a big dick. Now where did they get that idea from?

thesexofit said:

so you've been put into the book of spats
shame on you for generalizing the way you have
you just look like an ass now
stop whining.

JustErin said:

Tell that to the girl on my block, i did not say every woman, but so much emphasis is on cock size, and its tough on guys like me. I dont want u to feel sorry for me (i know u wont) but seeing porn everywhere, it kinda gets to u. As i said, some women do care, and these unfortunately are women i have come across with. Iam glad u are different. I enjoy sex, i just wish this world was not so obsessed with porn. Porn is not sex, its fake.

I watched the Bruce Bruce comedy show and he made a good point about women and foreplay. For me foreplay is not fiddling with my hot zones for hours it is mostly mental. It could be from him calling me at weird times saying he was thinking of me, telling me how good I look when I know I don't, just being playful during the day type shit. And truth be told by the time he get's in from work I am on him like white on rice. Hell, at this point let someone come up to me and tell me how small I am! Fucking hell, I will probably orgasm on the spot. The high school shit we all did like writing notes and hiding it in places that you knew they would find. By the time you got your parents car keys you all barely made it out of the driveway dress trying to get to it. You guys are making it more than what it is or you guys are coming in contact with some truly lazy and crazy women. I will pray for you, Sex!

SammiJ said:

Damn Sammi!

SammiJ said:

Sorry, but when a girl has humiliated me, telling her girlfriends how shit i was, when only about 17 years old, is something no one should have to go through. I have even heard girls talking about it on the phone. I dont brag about my shit, but damn, some girls do. As mach said, "some women...yes"

Iam not generalising when this has been experienced, by me, on more then a couple of occasions.

thesexofit said:

ok if youre not generalizing change the title to some women then
and im sorry u were so embarrassed then but you're a grown man, it's time to man up and move on
regain some of that confidence and you wont have so many problems with women

thesexofit said:

Well, it's too bad that you've had women like that.

Sure, women would prefer a big cock but most guys are just average in size and we know that. I've never turned a guy away for being anything other than huge and I don't know of anyone who has. Well, that's a lie...I've know some that have turned away pinky sized members.

There is so much more to sex than dick in poon. Most women don't even get off from intercourse. And being bad in bed really doesn't have much to do with with size of your meat lance.

JustErin said:

damn that was funny

thesexofit said:

Sweety, if this has happened more than once then you need to learn some new tricks! Get out the Kama Sutra, find someone to teach how to properly perform oral sex and learn the techniques to bring a women emotionally to her knees! All it will take is one girl singing your praises to shut the others up. They will want to know what you have learned. Trust me, she was talking trash about one aspect of sex which happens to be the only one "she" knows. You have to come with the whole package. Romance, skill, technique, mental foreplay and being a caring and considerate man. Sounds like a lot but when you have the person wrapped around your dick, it will be all worth it. You are young and have time to fix the damage. You just can't be around those chicks until you get it together. Hope this helps.

listen sexy, the girls you have been out with don't have much to compare with at their age their first exposure to sex may very well have been porn how about trying out some girls who live further away?
Everyone, stop being mean to my org son! being gossiped about, especially performance in bed, would be very humiliating indeed, you'd only wish it upon your worst enemy. However, luckily more mature women are not like that

SammiJ said:

OK, point taken. I did say some women though. My current girlfriend and i are going great at the mo' sex wise, but u know, shit comes back to haunt me sometimes, and as sad as it is for women to hear, men will think a bigger dick is better. Its just our mentality. Sad but true.


I bet no bloke will come on this thread, so this thread will die now. U girls think iam frontin', but no man is gonna talk about this on here. Even blokes in a silly place like this will front and girls, u love it. I've had some mentally damaging experiences (i know i sound very melodramatic, but when ur 17, that shti matters). Yeah, iam 20 now, and in a stable relationship, but u know, iam just saying, some women are very mean. Even shit like "sex in the city" was talking about dick sizes. Bloody media. I hate it.


If i look at porn (which is rare), it cant be stuff with a guys dick. "That dick is huge" i think to myself. Also, seeing a girl suck a dick does not turn me on. I guess iam softcore LOL. I guess i can blame porn for this paranoia men have. I just hope young girls dont grow up thinking all men are 10" hard.

U know, as sad as it sounds, sometimes i think (as does every average-small man) that i had a bigger dick, just to please the girl iam with. Sounds pathetic to u girls to hear me whine doesn't it?


As i said, no man on here has the bottle to dicuss this, even though this is a forum and not some date site LOL

thesexofit said:

ohh im sure you'll be seeing spats here in a bit
but i get what your saying, just try to control the anger/resentment u have when expressing your feelings, or else it gets all muddled and things come out wrong

SammiJ said:

? If carmen electra said Prince was small, then u know, maybe it ain't all bad. I have had sex many times, but, i guess, as i have had more then a few one night stands, that they expect a real good time first time. And the bitching was around when i was around 17,


My girlfriend says iam great (iam not boasting), but then, so have other girls. I just think maybe they are lying to not make me feel bad. Girls lie to actually to make u feel better sort of thing. Which is nice, but i need to know.

I honestly think iam quite good in bed, particually with the shit i've been given LOL. It ain't easy and certainly wasn't easy to begin with. As i said, i had a long term girl who was a bit rubbish in bed like me, and so i have got better as it were (u know, longer, more foreplay, new positions etc...)

Nope, no guys on this thread

my first time was with a virgin, it was great what we learned together in 5 years!

dude, aren't u just 19?
dont expect to be a sex guru now...
you don't stop learning about sexuality
it's a lifelong thing 2 learn...
if you're not happy with your sex life/sexuality then its on YOU to change it...
dont blame the other half... feedback is feedback, and if you're not trusting what they're saying as the truth, then maybe u shouldnt be trusting yourself to be in a sexual relationship

SammiJ said:

Preach on, my sista! You better say that then, Reverend!

i have never left a woman unsatisfied, so i can't relate, sorry.



seriously






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Her: - "Is that it? You came already?"

Me (panting tiredly): - "huff....y...huff..yeah..huff.....Didn't..huff..you?...huff"

Her: - "No."

Me: - "huff..Really?..huff. Damn. huff..that..huff...that's ..fucked up."

With the way women get judged all day/all night about everything under the fucking sun I can't say I'm crying for you here I'm not happy this is happening but you might want to be a bit more careful about who you sleep with if this really concerns you (maybe choose someone who cares about YOU & might not be so eager to hurt your feelings) & learn some new shit (like how to make her lose her shit via oral). Hell, get a vibrating cock ring that stimulates her clit while you're fucking her

Make the best of what you got dude... & please don't blame Sex & the City - women have been discussing men's dicks/balls/habits forever, y'all just didn't realize for some silly ass reason

I actually think more MEN are corrupted by porn than women But don't worry, any chick who grows up thinking 10" cocks grow on trees will get her rude awakening soon enough

CalhounSq said:

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Well said!

You are only 20, so if you give up on your technique now then what are you going to do with the other 60 years of sex that you have in front of you? As was said, get your new girlfriend to teach you how to perform brilliant oral sex. Trust me, a skill like that and no-one will care how big your dick is. And it may be an average size but, whatever, you just need to get your confidence together and forget the bitch with the big mouth.

Also, if I think back to my partners when I was 20, they all had a lot to learn but then so did I. No-one new their arse from their elbow at that age.


Afterthought edit.
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