applekisses said:

The ink rubed off from my arm!

Beware of sending mixed signals.
Perhaps he's not really sure you want him to call again.
I give the Check Peck of Encouragementwhen I want a second date.

JustErin said:

It was wierd and fun at the same time. Definitely met interesting people I would never meet in a club. No love matches though. Just friends I am getting to know

I agree w/ the "men are pussies" statement but I have an out for these guys (though the tactics still irritate the shit out of me)... MAYBE the sense of rejection a guy feels every time he asks a woman to dance @ a club/gets blown off when he approaches a woman is part of why they don't wanna put that feeling on another person

Okay, I don't believe for a second the guy is actually caring more about the woman's feelings than his own, but I thought I'd float the idea

I really do think a lot of guys say whatever they think women want to hear - make it all comfortable until you're out of dodge & then disafuckingppear. It's some cowardly shit...

But women can be iffy when it comes to being rejected... SOME women... some of us just want the truth no matter what it is...

Maybe that's it - we look @ each other as "men this" & "women that" w/o taking the individual into account & asking ourselves, "Can this person deal w/ this?"

I've had this happen to me once but honestly I knew it wasn't going anywhere so I was baffled that dude was saying all this cutesy shit about "next time" Bitch please Just keep it open & loose - you had a good time, MAYBE we'll get together again... something...

We lost each others numbers but I gotta say I'm glad I wasn't all giddy about him b/c I would have been sitting around wondering what happened

On my first date, a guy kept saying things like, "we can go shopping together for this...etc." and while I was enjoying myself, the assumption that we were now buddies sort of took me out of the moment.

Then we discussed at length having a 'listening party' at his house where we would share our creative work with each other... I was like, "I'd like to do that." And sent him an email about it.

But I had some red flags going on as well with this guy, so had mixed feelings. I really didn't KNOW if I wanted to or not. Then a great upheaval happened in my personal life and I realized I had no time or interest for this thing and never called him back.

He had also helped me move to a new apartment, and was not-so-subtley trying to guilt-trip me into another date.

Anx said:

exactly, blech

Slave2daGroove said:

Every time I get on these threads and read shit like "women are clingy and men are avoiders", I'm like... "Wha?" Am I part of this human race or not? because this is so TOTALLY not my experience of life.

heartbeatocean said:

Oh I hate that. Making those "we really are good material for friends" hints already at a first date. I once asked out a girl who started that already in about 10 minutes to the "date". I mean, geez, give me at least a marginal opportunity to introduce something about myself to you.

Novabreaker said:

was that before or after you got hammered and groped each other, as you do over there

ZombieKitten said:

Novabreaker said:

you don't remember?

j/k

this is why formal "dating" per se is retarded.

people should just hang out, be friends and see what develops... less drama.

if there's no romance, in the end, perhaps you can end up with a beautiful friendship?

works for me, anyway... even after 10 years of marriage!

even romances should have a strong layer of friendship, IMHO. if ya have no interests in common, why be together, ya know?

(all this just my opinion of course... maybe others see things differently... but as i said, works great in the long run)

ZombieKitten said:

She broke my heart.

Oh, my. Did I just show a weak side to myself in public?

Now I have to shoot all of you.

Ace said:

That's just way too goth for me.

BlackBuddy said:

Anx said:

I agree too...but, the confusing part is when they do that and then never contact you again. I'm not saying I would have dug this guy in the long run, but the behavior is just whack.

applekisses said:

yeah, that's kind of weird and dumb. if i were in your shoes, i'd just feel like i'm better off writing off such a flakewad.

Novabreaker said:

Actually, now that I think of it, he started this on the third date. But it still threw me a bit because he had already picked out a store for me to get a dresser, and I had no desire to go shopping with him for a piece of furniture. I'm really picky and like to take my time looking with not a lot of opinions on the matter.

Anx said:

I want a box of Anxy!

JustErin said:

there's nothing worst than a coward

missfee said:

How about a serial killer?

Novabreaker said:

How about the Bush Administration? Herpes? A shark attack?

CalhounSq said:

YUP!!!

I have to admit that i am like that. I have never acted like there are going though to be other dates though. I would rather never answer there calls or never call them again then come out and say " I don't find you attractive or i am bored with you." And let's face it. Women don't wanna here the truth a lot of the time.

Spats said:

It's true, a lot do not, but some of us would prefer to just be told the truth, no matter how shitty it might be. We can get over it.

I'm totally like that. I'd rather vanish off the face of the Earth than have to hurt someone face to face.....I hate that about myself. I don't know how to say no.

luv4all7 said:

i'm that way too...and not that this justifies anything, but i hate being put in a position by someone where i have to reject them to their face. i think there's a graceful way of going about this kind of thing without having to look someone in the eye and say "i don't find you attractive." it just seems like an unfair ultimatum for both people involved, especially when the one imposing the ultimatum may not have the confidence to deal with that moment of rejection.

Anx said:

Do u also break up over the phone? I do, and I think that makes me kinda cowardly, but I can't help it!

luv4all7 said:

That's pretty lame IMO. I've done my breakups face to face, it's so fucking impersonal any other way...