Ace said:

even death is no excuse

LleeLlee said:

(erasing newest entry from 'excuses' section of little black book.)

LleeLlee said:

What if you're, like, extremely dead?

Illustrator said:

Ace said:

you can never be too dead

Ace said:

For mostly dead, Miracle Max can help you.

LleeLlee said:

I like `em dead!

fathermcmeekle said:

on the second date? you trollipe!

ummm... girls can be like this to

or at least i did after a drink date from a speed dating thingy...
it was nice, he could have been a great friend but no more
we left it at "i'll call you and we'll do this again"

he called... i didn't answer
he emailed... i didn't reply

i think it says more about the person who doesn't call/reply (ie me in this case)
than it does about the person who wants the second date

so the old adage "it's not you, it's me..." can actually be true

Hasn't happened to me, but I'm just stopping in to say:

Dating SUCKS.

JustErin said:

We can end this conversation with this one statement.

Novabreaker said:

Man I love this thread.

Wow, most me are pussies huh?

To tell you the truth, I've got to wonder about someone I'm getting to know making plans for the next time we get together.

It seems assuming to me, especially for the first date, I mean, c'mon! Let's see how this one ends first before you start making plans for me. Phone skills are next if the date works out.

Slave2daGroove said:

i agree!

sometimes i think the "what are we doing on our next date?" line is a way of reeling the other person in before they have a chance to decide if they're into it or not.

Slave2daGroove said:

Yes, a lot of men are when it comes to confrontation and having to be honest. This is why men have mastered the art of avoidance...it's all to avoid having to deal with the consequences of their actions.

Now that said, I can understand why a lot of guys do it because a lot of women totally lose their shit when they feel rejected or hurt.

I can understand why both sexes act the way they do, but I don't think it's acceptable behaviour.

Anx said:

Ya, I definitely agree with that.

But I thought that Applekisses said the guy was making plans for their next date...?

Slave2daGroove said:

She didn't say most, she said lots. Big difference.

And I won't take away from this that lots of women are cling freaks.

JustErin said:

Y'know, if a women totally "loses her shit" (nice visual, ) when the truth is told to them, that's a BIG sign to me.

But I think the statement that men are pussies (I know it's a generalization) may be true based on your experiences but I find weak people in evey area of life.

People who avoid conflicts are a bad but liars are worse because they don't have the balls to treat you with enough respect to say it like it is. Taking away your choice to deal with the truth of the matter. Sonsabitches

I had a friend who hooked up with another friend of mine, and he did this exact same thing to her. She was quite hurt by it, since she really liked him. She knew him through me and they had got along very well, so she was surprised by all the avoidance tactics, which meant he really had to go out of his way to not bump into her. In the end, he did go out with her on a second date, but by then she was fed up with him already and he stood no chance. I am no longer friends with this guy, his behaviour disgusted me

applekisses said:

I rarely make it to a second date. I've only dated six people, went on second dates with 3 and have only kissed 3 people in my entire life. One of them 2 times, the other 2 times, and the last 2 times. I haven't kissed anyone in 5 years. I went speed dating a few weeks ago. Before that, hadn't dated anyone in 5 years

Moral to this story: you're lucky

LleeLlee said:

That what I'm sayin' That's what John Edward is for

BlackBuddy said:

!!!

BlackBuddy said:

What was it like? Did you find it fun? What kind of people did you meet?

BlackBuddy said:

"I sense you dated some named BB. do those letters mean anything to you? "

JustErin said:

So you want a guy to say something like, "Well, I didn't really have a good time tonight to be honest. And you didn't put out. So have a good life."?

I understand what you mean. It's just that it's tough to slough someone off after they "don't fit." I suppose there could be no mention either way of any future encounters, but even that's sort of awkward -- especially if the other person initiates the doomed plans.

Lammastide said:

Yes, if that's honestly what they were thinking.



I have no problem telling someone that it's just not gonna happen, so I guess that's why I fail to see why it's so hard for others to do it.

JustErin said:

So what sort of thing would you say?

Lammastide said:

If he was a nice guy but I just wasn't feeling it (for whatever reason) I would tell him that I think he's was nice but I'm just not interested in getting to know him on a romantic level.

I usually don't end up going on dates with guys that turn out to be complete idiots, but if I did I would have no problem letting them know that I want nothing to do with them ever again.

JustErin said:

Well that'd be easy -- even fun! I think it's turning down the nice people that is difficult.

Lammastide said:

I look at it this way. I'd rather them feel a little bit of disappointment for a short period of time then get over it than have them sitting around waiting and wondering what happened, and getting angry because I just disappeared. That's just wasting a lot of their time and energy.