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Printablepkidwell said: That's sad about e-harmony but kind of funny if you don't mind my smiling. Society tells us that if we are single, there must be something wrong with us. But in my opinion, some of the best times in life you can have when you are single. And being alone helps you grow and think about what you really want in a relationship. It has taken me a while to realize that but you have to think that some people find love when they are 40 or 50! There is no time limit. Better to be single than married and miserable. A lot of people get into relationships because they fear being alone. Then they make babies, realize they were not meant to be together and get divorces. Or even worse, they stay together and show their children a miserable model of a relationship. 'F' all that! Sorry for the rant. But I say enjoy it. Take some time. Forget about her. There are millions more. Hope this helps. Later.
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AsylumUtopia said: Spats said: No, yoiu have it backwards. That's the reason why i haven't been in a "real relationship". I feel for you. Hang on, you haven't been in a real relationship, so you know what they're about, and why not to be in one ? Go on with yer bad self! I suspect the reason you haven't been in a real relationship (if your attitude and opinions are the same in person as they are here) is that the opportunity hasn't arisen for you yet. When you're ready (i.e. mature enough) you'll want it. And if you don't get it, you'll have the freedom to feel lonely, depressed and unloved to the end of your miserable days. Or something.  His idea of a real realationship and mine are different. I have had relationships where i don't have to answer to anyone. Don't have to tell them what i am doing all the time or when i am going to be back, i don't have to check with them on everything, blah, blah. That's not freedom. His idea of a "real relationhip" is different and sad. | |
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Spats said: AsylumUtopia said: Hang on, you haven't been in a real relationship, so you know what they're about, and why not to be in one ? Go on with yer bad self! I suspect the reason you haven't been in a real relationship (if your attitude and opinions are the same in person as they are here) is that the opportunity hasn't arisen for you yet. When you're ready (i.e. mature enough) you'll want it. And if you don't get it, you'll have the freedom to feel lonely, depressed and unloved to the end of your miserable days. Or something. His idea of a real realationship and mine are different. I have had relationships where i don't have to answer to anyone. Don't have to tell them what i am doing all the time or when i am going to be back, i don't have to check with them on everything, blah, blah. That's not freedom. His idea of a "real relationhip" is different and sad. I've had a few relationships where I didn't have to answer to anyone. They didn't last, they never do. But I reached a point in my life where that wasn't what I wanted anymore. I realised that the 'freedoms' I once considered important are not things I want to do anymore, and consequently aren't a loss of freedom at all. I just replaced one tired old set of activities with another far more enjoyable, fulfilling and rewarding set. Lemmy, Bowie, Prince, Leonard. RIP. |
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AsylumUtopia said: Spats said: His idea of a real realationship and mine are different. I have had relationships where i don't have to answer to anyone. Don't have to tell them what i am doing all the time or when i am going to be back, i don't have to check with them on everything, blah, blah. That's not freedom. His idea of a "real relationhip" is different and sad. I've had a few relationships where I didn't have to answer to anyone. They didn't last, they never do. But I reached a point in my life where that wasn't what I wanted anymore. I realised that the 'freedoms' I once considered important are not things I want to do anymore, and consequently aren't a loss of freedom at all. I just replaced one tired old set of activities with another far more enjoyable, fulfilling and rewarding set. So you want to have to answer to someone, get permission from someone, always check before hand with someone, blah, blah. I don't see anything enjoyable fulfilling and rewarding in it. I am not gonna let a woman have all of that power over me. I don't want a leash around my neck. | |
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There's nothing better then being in love and being in a relationship if there is respect, honesty, caring, committment and understanding...
If you find the right one it is great - if you settle- it is not so great! Anyways- JPW, you'll do fine, you are handsome, just take time to figure out what you really need and want in a relationship and do not settle... In the end- don't listen to any of us- listen to your heart!! 
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JPW said: i know this is shameless photo-whorism...
but ... i'm single again! it's a new, odd feeling it's kind of a relief to be out on my own again anyone else recently become a bachelor/bachelorette?  2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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shanti0608 said: There's nothing better then being in love and being in a relationship if there is respect, honesty, caring, committment and understanding...
If you find the right one it is great - if you settle- it is not so great! Anyways- JPW, you'll do fine, you are handsome, just take time to figure out what you really need and want in a relationship and do not settle... In the end- don't listen to any of us- listen to your heart!!
Always listen to head over your heart. You are just asking for trouble otherwise. | |
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Spats said: shanti0608 said: There's nothing better then being in love and being in a relationship if there is respect, honesty, caring, committment and understanding...
If you find the right one it is great - if you settle- it is not so great! Anyways- JPW, you'll do fine, you are handsome, just take time to figure out what you really need and want in a relationship and do not settle... In the end- don't listen to any of us- listen to your heart!!
Always listen to head over your heart. You are just asking for trouble otherwise. I must say, I agree with Spats here, your heart is just that...your heart. Your head is going to make the rational decision. As much as it sucks, you have to know to listen to the smart option, not the emotional one. | |
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jerseykrs said: Spats said: Always listen to head over your heart. You are just asking for trouble otherwise. I must say, I agree with Spats here, your heart is just that...your heart. Your head is going to make the rational decision. As much as it sucks, you have to know to listen to the smart option, not the emotional one. The smart option always sucks, though. But then, so does the other one. Dammit it all sucks.  |
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CarrieMpls said: The smart option always sucks, though. But then, so does the other one. the other sucks more, we all know this. | |
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jerseykrs said: Spats said: Always listen to head over your heart. You are just asking for trouble otherwise. I must say, I agree with Spats here, your heart is just that...your heart. Your head is going to make the rational decision. As much as it sucks, you have to know to listen to the smart option, not the emotional one. I agree too. And look, we are all single losers! | |
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JustErin said: jerseykrs said: I must say, I agree with Spats here, your heart is just that...your heart. Your head is going to make the rational decision. As much as it sucks, you have to know to listen to the smart option, not the emotional one. I agree too. And look, we are all single losers! I'm not a loser!  | |
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jerseykrs said: CarrieMpls said: The smart option always sucks, though. But then, so does the other one. the other sucks more, we all know this. It does, but if I stuck with my head all the time I would honestly always and forever be alone. And maybe I'm supposed to be, but dammit that's no fun. |
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jerseykrs said: Spats said: Always listen to head over your heart. You are just asking for trouble otherwise. I must say, I agree with Spats here, your heart is just that...your heart. Your head is going to make the rational decision. As much as it sucks, you have to know to listen to the smart option, not the emotional one. Exactly, why do you think that women make so many bad choices with men all the time. Not using their head. | |
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CarrieMpls said: jerseykrs said: the other sucks more, we all know this. It does, but if I stuck with my head all the time I would honestly always and forever be alone. And maybe I'm supposed to be, but dammit that's no fun. Why would you be alone? | |
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CarrieMpls said: jerseykrs said: the other sucks more, we all know this. It does, but if I stuck with my head all the time I would honestly always and forever be alone. And maybe I'm supposed to be, but dammit that's no fun. You honestly think that? Making rational decisions and being a realist does not mean you won't fall in love and be in something great. Actually, I think that listening to your head guarantees that you will be in something great. | |
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JustErin said: CarrieMpls said: It does, but if I stuck with my head all the time I would honestly always and forever be alone. And maybe I'm supposed to be, but dammit that's no fun. You honestly think that? Making rational decisions and being a realist does not mean you won't fall in love and be in something great. Actually, I think that listening to your head guarantees that you will be in something great.  | |
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Spats said: jerseykrs said: I must say, I agree with Spats here, your heart is just that...your heart. Your head is going to make the rational decision. As much as it sucks, you have to know to listen to the smart option, not the emotional one. Exactly, why do you think that women make so many bad choices with men all the time. Not using their head. I agree, except change "women" to "people". | |
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JustErin said: CarrieMpls said: It does, but if I stuck with my head all the time I would honestly always and forever be alone. And maybe I'm supposed to be, but dammit that's no fun. You honestly think that? Making rational decisions and being a realist does not mean you won't fall in love and be in something great. Actually, I think that listening to your head guarantees that you will be in something great. In a way, yeah, I do think that. At least, I have a hard time thinking my head will allow myself to be vulnerable enough to be in a realationship with anybody. I don't share myself easily. If it weren't for getting my head scrambled now and again by my heart (and some guy) I wouldn't even bother, to be honest. |
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Hello People of the Org.
It's come to my attention that you've been lead into letting spazs highjack another thread with his 10 year old boy mentality on dating. You should stop this behavior right now because it's truly unhealthy. Thanks,,, and as you were... News: Prince pulls his head out his ass in the last moment.
Bad News: Prince wasted too much quality time doing so. You have those internalized issues because you want to, you like to, stop. | |
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Spats said: jerseykrs said: I must say, I agree with Spats here, your heart is just that...your heart. Your head is going to make the rational decision. As much as it sucks, you have to know to listen to the smart option, not the emotional one. Exactly, why do you think that women make so many bad choices with men all the time. Not using their head. I guess it all depends how you look at it really.. I try to use my heart and my head to find happiness as much as possible. I was just trying to say that he should not listen to us when it comes to deciding what to do with his life. By the way- listening to just your head can cause trouble as well. I used my head and married someone for what was at the time very rational reasons but I did not really feel it in my heart. Now- I am not happy and our relationship has become a friendship, there's no passion, we just co-exist. If I had listened to my heart I would have stayed seperated from him when I broke up with him when we were dating. Also- I do not look at previous relationships and men I have chosen in the past as mistakes. I have learned a lot about myself in the process and I am a better person now then I was before because of all that I have been through. Life is a learning experience. If I feel love- I go for it as long as the person is a good person and I feel deep down that this person is good for me. It takes your heart and your head. | |
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Spats said So you want to have to answer to someone, get permission from someone, always check before hand with someone, blah, blah.
 It's not about getting permission, or always checking beforehand. It's about mutual respect, which is an essential ingredient in any successful relationship. Those of us lucky enough to have such a thing do not regard letting our partner know where we are and what we're up to as a loss of freedom, just mutual respect, and we expect the same of them. I guess you don't understand this because as you've said yourself you've never been in such a relationship, so you really don't know what you're talking about.
Spats said I don't see anything enjoyable fulfilling and rewarding in it.
Well how would you ? You've never tried it. Spats said I am not gonna let a woman have all of that power over me. I don't want a leash around my neck.
Oh yes, the magical power of women, turning ordinary decent men into emasculated, downtrodden, shrivelled husks of their former selves. You sound like a rebellious child. I would hope for their sake that no woman gives you the time of day until you grow up a bit. MickG said It's come to my attention that you've been lead into letting spazs highjack another thread with his 10 year old boy mentality on dating.
You should stop this behavior right now because it's truly unhealthy. Thanks,,, and as you were... You're quite right Mick, and I've fallen into his trap. 
JPW, Apologies for my part in jacking your thread, I'll stop now. Lemmy, Bowie, Prince, Leonard. RIP. |
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MickG said: Hello People of the Org.
It's come to my attention that you've been lead into letting spazs highjack another thread with his 10 year old boy mentality on dating. You should stop this behavior right now because it's truly unhealthy. Thanks,,, and as you were... Mick, after you have learned how to spell simple words then you can knock me for anything. | |
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AsylumUtopia said: Spats said So you want to have to answer to someone, get permission from someone, always check before hand with someone, blah, blah.
It's not about getting permission, or always checking beforehand. It's about mutual respect, which is an essential ingredient in any successful relationship. Those of us lucky enough to have such a thing do not regard letting our partner know where we are and what we're up to as a loss of freedom, just mutual respect, and we expect the same of them. I guess you don't understand this because as you've said yourself you've never been in such a relationship, so you really don't know what you're talking about.
Spats said Oh yes, the magical power of women, turning ordinary decent men into emasculated, downtrodden, shrivelled husks of their former selves. You sound like a rebellious child. I would hope for their sake that no woman gives you the time of day until you grow up a bit. MickG said It's come to my attention that you've been lead into letting spazs highjack another thread with his 10 year old boy mentality on dating.
You should stop this behavior right now because it's truly unhealthy. Thanks,,, and as you were... You're quite right Mick, and I've fallen into his trap.
JPW, Apologies for my part in jacking your thread, I'll stop now. Bull. I know what i am missing. I have friends in relationhips like that. My buddies are always getting calls as to when they are going to be,home, they have to always check with the nags when he has to make plans, the women only want them to hang out with the boys for only a few days a week, and the list goes on. If you have to check with the girlfriend or wife with almost everything you do then you are not really living. I do what i want, when i want, for as long as i want. I don't answer to women. | |
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Spats said: CarrieMpls said: It does, but if I stuck with my head all the time I would honestly always and forever be alone. And maybe I'm supposed to be, but dammit that's no fun. Why would you be alone? Sorry- guess I will never understand you Spats.. but that's ok.. Didn't you say in another thread that you do not like oral sex?? That is what I really do not understand.. Maybe I read it wrong.  | |
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Spats said: AsylumUtopia said: Spats said
You're quite right Mick, and I've fallen into his trap.
JPW, Apologies for my part in jacking your thread, I'll stop now. Bull. I know what i am missing. I have friends in relationhips like that. My buddies are always getting calls as to when they are going to be,home, they have to always check with the nags when he has to make plans, the women only want them to hang out with the boys for only a few days a week, and the list goes on. If you have to check with the girlfriend or wife with almost everything you do then you are not really living. I do what i want, when i want, for as long as i want. I don't answer to women. Guys can be like that too.....actually EVERY guy I was ever with was like that! | |
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Novabreaker said: I've recently become an EP. In the fall I plan to become a full-length album release.
sometimes i feel like im the only one that appreciates your humor...  Space for sale... | |
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sosgemini said: Novabreaker said: I've recently become an EP. In the fall I plan to become a full-length album release.
sometimes i feel like im the only one that appreciates your humor... Don't worry. My comedy club will open at the end of the summer. Tuesdays are free admission and on fridays you will get 80% off the ticket price if you can prove on a piece of paper that you have been diagnosed of having a severe personality disorder. Actually, I do plan a full-length album release for the fall. That one's a no joke.  | |
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Novabreaker said: sosgemini said: sometimes i feel like im the only one that appreciates your humor... Don't worry. My comedy club will open at the end of the summer. Tuesdays are free admission and on fridays you will get 80% off the ticket price if you can prove on a piece of paper that you have been diagnosed of having a severe personality disorder. Actually, I do plan a full-length album release for the fall. That one's a no joke. bobcat, is that you? Space for sale... | |
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sosgemini said: Novabreaker said: Don't worry. My comedy club will open at the end of the summer. Tuesdays are free admission and on fridays you will get 80% off the ticket price if you can prove on a piece of paper that you have been diagnosed of having a severe personality disorder. Actually, I do plan a full-length album release for the fall. That one's a no joke. bobcat, is that you?  | |
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