i tend to believe that not only can you have great sex with someone for years and years and not really even like that person that much, but that it will generally last longer than a passionless relationship that "soulmates" might have. do you agree or disagree?
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meltwithu said:

bad sex...when your with a person u love sex doesnt matter

i think this question is too complicated

Mazerati said:

That's a load of crap.

Spats said:

Mazerati said:

>snort<

in the long run I don't see how either could work

Bad sex. If its really a great relationship it should get better

Spats said:

maybe in the crap world you live in but not mine

susannah said:

you would think so, but if it never did it would place great strain on the relationship

ZombieKitten said:

Yeah, well in that case I guess you can either actively try to make it better or give up!

Either Both are a 60 second marathon for me.

senik said:

I don't even want to go there...

Been in a passionless relationship for 10 yrs...ok, 9 1/2- first 6 months sex was alright..

If it's a GREAT relationship, the sex will get there too. Or you'd at least both acknowledge it needs improvement and compromise on solutions.

companionship is more lasting than good sex. even if you're with someone with whom the sex is great, it's going to get boring after a while and you're going to eventually reach a stage where you quit appreciating it as much. companionship can weather all kinds of new experiences (of course, so can good sex, i suppose...).

OK. so it's been pointed out to me I'm completely besotted by my husband (true) but I must admit it started as a purely physical thing.
and over the years we discovered we were very similar and heding in the same direction. And although the physical part of the relationship is now something that has to fit in with all the rest of the stuff that goes on around here, it is STILL worth writing home about. If it wasn't there, to be honest I would not have stuck around as long as I have.

ZombieKitten said:

i think it just depends on the people involved. some people really need that emotional connection before they can even think of doing anything physically and for others it is the opposite. I don't think I would be able to have a physical relationship first and then have it develop into something like marriage. The emotional connection would have to be there first. but that's just me. others are different.

JasmineFire said:

I was of the same opinion, but then I met this guy. I think it's a fluke to be honest.

ZombieKitten said:

most things in life are.

JasmineFire said:

that is a nice way of seeing things you know, that way when you hope for something to happen, there is a good chance it will! Someone who writes sceenplays recetly told me that things in movies have to be "believable" but that doesn't seem to apply to real life!

ZombieKitten said:

well, the truth is stranger than fiction. maybe that's why whenever i tell people a story about something that happened in my life they always think that i'm lying...

JasmineFire said:

really?

weird things happen all the time

meltwithu said:

niether. imo why settle for less than a great connection with great sex.

ZombieKitten said:

this is true but i guess some people live more sheltered lives than me. there are just simply things that they aren't willing to accept as being true. either that or i just come across and being stupid and untrustworthy. whatever fits, i guess.

meltwithu said:

for me... you cant have GREAT sex if the relationship sux ...thats just for me though

and also...if the relationsip is GREAT the sex would not be bad..it too would be great

thats just how it works in my life though...i know people that have supposed GREAT sex with someone they dont really care for...

good for them

meltwithu said:

oh ... i disagree

meltwithu said:

Both are absolute deal breakers for me, but I too think that most could stay longer with a person you kinda dislike but have great sex with than a totally passionless relationship.

You can still have incredible physical chemistry with someone that you don't really like in all other aspects but I don't think you can ever have anything even remotely sexually satisfying with someone that doesn't get you all hot and bothered, even if they are the nicest person on earth.

Or at least, I have never been able to do it and I know I never will. I refuse to settle in any kind of way.

Mazerati said:

I have to agree with this. Good Sex can peter out at anytime in a relationship. What happens when you are like 60?

Spats said:

Like your response, which didn't even attempt to answer the question.