Imago said: Fauxie said: Clever in what sense? Does it really make any difference whatsoever whether it's a primary account portraying the person's true personality or an alter facetiously putting it forward? Should I be expected to like him more were he one day to turn around and say 'actually, those weren't my views, I was just putting on an act'? We're just on a Prince fansite. He's either someone I disagree with and dislike or someone pretending to put forward views I disagree with and dislike, and what would that be?? I guess it's just a distraction from interacting with like-minded people, and in that sense might be regarded as a useful service. Or somewhere to aim my b-sides. You're such a girl sometimes. Clever in the sense that he's invented this alter account that is now a borderline Uber-orger, probably overshaddowing his/her primary account. I mean, if I could have done that with EvilWhiteNegro, I would have deleted AB777 ages ago. And from what I've read (which I'll admit is not much since spats doesn't interest me as much as other orgers--WTF? What knid of orger doesn't have an avatar or pictures of himself for me to dote on?), spat's rhetoric isn't too much different from statements made frequently on "The Man Show" which everybody finds hilarious. you're sucha girl sometimes. Oh, that clever. Yes, he can have that and take it wherever he wants. | |
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Back on topic.
I rarely--and I mean, rarely throw tantrums or even get visibly upset anymore. I find that you lose alot of negotiating power appearing upset. But with close friends and family, when I do get pissed at them, I just withdraw from them and cease to communicate with them. I find that it hurts them the most when I deny them an opportunity to communicate with me. It's something I try not to do, becuase it's very distructive. I've learned a long time ago, that silence really can break someone's heart. | |
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Anx said: Fauxie said: An old username was fauxnewbie, which got shortened to faux. Somebody in chat called me Fauxie and I guess it just stuck.
oh for GOD'S SAKE, when did this thread become your myspace profile??!? "... when did this thread become your myspace profile???" At that point Fauxie jumped up from his computer in a state of mild irritation. Didn't Anxiety know that myspace is only for strippers, paedophiles and JerseyKRS? At that moment there was a knock on the door. A voice called out, it sounded like... | |
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I used to argue and argue and argue.....now I stay very quiet. I listen to what the person has to say and then I quietly leave. It drives them nuts.
M MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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Fauxie said: Anx said: oh for GOD'S SAKE, when did this thread become your myspace profile??!? "... when did this thread become your myspace profile???" At that point Fauxie jumped up from his computer in a state of mild irritation. Didn't Anxiety know that myspace is only for strippers, paedophiles and JerseyKRS? At that moment there was a knock on the door. A voice called out, it sounded like... look, i have prince holding on the phone right now, i don't have time for this. | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: I used to argue and argue and argue.....now I stay very quiet. I listen to what the person has to say and then I quietly leave. It drives them nuts.
M yup. People HATE being given the cold shoulder. I don't mean the cold shoulder girls give you when you've pissed them off. I mean the cold shoulder in the sense that they think you've lost interest in what they have to say, or that you can't even be bothered by it. It drives them nuts. | |
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Imago said: MIGUELGOMEZ said: I used to argue and argue and argue.....now I stay very quiet. I listen to what the person has to say and then I quietly leave. It drives them nuts.
M yup. People HATE being given the cold shoulder. I don't mean the cold shoulder girls give you when you've pissed them off. I mean the cold shoulder in the sense that they think you've lost interest in what they have to say, or that you can't even be bothered by it. It drives them nuts. You live, you learn. My ex of 8 years and I used to go at it. The more I yelled at him the quieter he got. It drove me nuts. Now I don't have the energy to argue, it makes me sleepy. M MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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MIGUELGOMEZ said: Imago said: yup. People HATE being given the cold shoulder. I don't mean the cold shoulder girls give you when you've pissed them off. I mean the cold shoulder in the sense that they think you've lost interest in what they have to say, or that you can't even be bothered by it. It drives them nuts. You live, you learn. My ex of 8 years and I used to go at it. The more I yelled at him the quieter he got. It drove me nuts. Now I don't have the energy to argue, it makes me sleepy. M i dated someone who was prone to histrionics, and he would go completely apeshit when i'd get quiet during one of his rants. | |
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Anx said: MIGUELGOMEZ said: You live, you learn. My ex of 8 years and I used to go at it. The more I yelled at him the quieter he got. It drove me nuts. Now I don't have the energy to argue, it makes me sleepy. M i dated someone who was prone to histrionics, and he would go completely apeshit when i'd get quiet during one of his rants. My ex and I would argue in public ( oh sweet sweet toxic love ). Once, we were walking down the street where there were tons of restaurants and stores. I got so mad that I didn't know what else to say so I said "Faggot!!" We both turned around to go our seperate ways and as I did I noticed that we were in front of an ice creamery. There were tons of people staring at us behind a huge window. We laugh about it now. M MyeternalgrattitudetoPhil&Val.Herman said "We want sweaty truckers at the truck stop! We want cigar puffing men that look like they wanna beat the living daylights out of us" Val"sporking is spooning with benefits" | |
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Anx said: What's your favorite thing to scream just before you storm out of a room and slam the door? Do you consider yourself a tantrum thrower? Have you had any memorable tantrums? Or are you more of a sulker? Have you ever lost your temper and realized people were laughing at you carrying on? Did this make you feel better? Thank you, that is all. I do not scream or storm out of rooms, but I am prone to a nice, healthy "f**k you" every now and then. And I do not throw tantrums or sulk - a waste of my energy and of my time. No one has ever laughed at me - at least not while losing my temper or when I was angry. It takes a lot to really make me mad, and even then I stay fairly calm about it so I can think it through to make sure I do not say something I might regret later. I'm not into a lot of drama.... "Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive."
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when i DO throw fits, it's typically because i'm stressed out and frustrated and i want to make myself and other people around me laugh. my tantrums are kinda like that youtube clip of joan rivers at the australian awards show. | |
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Spats said: I don't get into shouting arguments. The best way i have learned to get to the woman more is to just stop talking to her. Cut her off. The shouting and stuff just looks bad. Cut them off and that will really hurt. Just stop talking.
And so what do you do if a guy pisses you off? you seem to always talk first about if a woman does something to you...tell us about if one of your friends or co-workers piss you off.. I will forever love and miss you...my sweet Prince. | |
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Anx said: when i DO throw fits, it's typically because i'm stressed out and frustrated and i want to make myself and other people around me laugh. my tantrums are kinda like that youtube clip of joan rivers at the australian awards show.
I wanna see...I could use a laugh today! What can I do to make you mad? "Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive."
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the little thread that could | |
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cubic61052 said: Anx said: when i DO throw fits, it's typically because i'm stressed out and frustrated and i want to make myself and other people around me laugh. my tantrums are kinda like that youtube clip of joan rivers at the australian awards show.
I wanna see...I could use a laugh today! What can I do to make you mad? these kind of fits are usually inspired more by malfunctioning objects or frustrating tasks than by other people. | |
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Oh, there is one thing I have a bit of a penchant for. I've broken 2 of my wife's mobile phones during arguments by throwing them off the balcony. Both times I nearly cried afterwards because I knew I'd have to pay for a new one. The second time was actually the replacement for the first phone. | |
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missfee said: Spats said: I don't get into shouting arguments. The best way i have learned to get to the woman more is to just stop talking to her. Cut her off. The shouting and stuff just looks bad. Cut them off and that will really hurt. Just stop talking.
And so what do you do if a guy pisses you off? you seem to always talk first about if a woman does something to you...tell us about if one of your friends or co-workers piss you off.. Me and my buddies don't get into fights. | |
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Haha. My mom just texted me she has bought me some Toffifay's. I knew she'd come to her senses about reading that map correctly!
Actually, it was quite good to argue with someone for a while. If you live alone you rarely get to vent out your frustrations with anyone. I need a fight every now and then. One more reason to find a regular girlfriend. | |
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Spats said: missfee said: And so what do you do if a guy pisses you off? you seem to always talk first about if a woman does something to you...tell us about if one of your friends or co-workers piss you off.. Me and my buddies don't get into fights. by buddies you mean your fingers and thumb? | |
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I usually try to keep my arguments with people private because I hate attention-whores. Generally, if someone did something really crappy to me, I like to just acknoledge what they did and remain quiet, and let them beat themselves up with their own guilt.
They can lie to everyone around them to try and put their spin on the story, but they can't lie to themselves. And if someone's really shady, they may get away with what they did to you now, but ultimately the truth about them will bleed through, and they will loose the respect of their peers. | |
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Tom said: I usually try to keep my arguments with people private because I hate attention-whores. Generally, if someone did something really crappy to me, I like to just acknoledge what they did and remain quiet, and let them beat themselves up with their own guilt.
They can lie to everyone around them to try and put their spin on the story, but they can't lie to themselves. And if someone's really shady, they may get away with what they did to you now, but ultimately the truth about them will bleed through, and they will loose the respect of their peers. Nice. A man after my own heart. I've always thought I could influence people so much more by what I didn't do than what I did. | |
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I'm not dramatic like that. I'll tell you what I have to tell you in your face & then I'll walk out w/o words. Hopefully it'll all go calmly, it takes a lot to get me really fired up & yelling @ a mf | |
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Usually I don't throw tantrums. I have screamed at people, but it only happens when I get seriously mad about once a year. But I don't leave the room and slam the door or anything...I don't like to leave the scene of the crime. The last time I got mad at someone I screamed at them by the stairs and I ended up slapping them and then about five minutes later we were cracking up about the ridiculousness of the whole thing.
More frequently, when I'm mad at someone, I talk very quietly so they have to listen to me. It's just something I do; I think I got it from my mother who does the same thing. Mini-biography finished. HE'S COMING AGAIN | |
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CalhounSq said: I'm not dramatic like that. I'll tell you what I have to tell you in your face & then I'll walk out w/o words. Hopefully it'll all go calmly, it takes a lot to get me really fired up & yelling @ a mf
I find that surprising. Thought you would have been just the type. | |
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Novabreaker said: CalhounSq said: I'm not dramatic like that. I'll tell you what I have to tell you in your face & then I'll walk out w/o words. Hopefully it'll all go calmly, it takes a lot to get me really fired up & yelling @ a mf
I find that surprising. Thought you would have been just the type. OMG, seriously??? NO, I'm very direct/stern when I'm angry. I think I've only had a screaming match a few times in my life, and just once when I wasn't a teen I tend to stay away from people who are overly dramatic like that, the shit gets on my nerves | |
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CalhounSq said: Novabreaker said: I find that surprising. Thought you would have been just the type. OMG, seriously??? NO, I'm very direct/stern when I'm angry. I think I've only had a screaming match a few times in my life, and just once when I wasn't a teen I tend to stay away from people who are overly dramatic like that, the shit gets on my nerves You have a straight to the point humour here that's fantastic though. It's not quiet, but it is fantastic. | |
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Fauxie said: CalhounSq said: OMG, seriously??? NO, I'm very direct/stern when I'm angry. I think I've only had a screaming match a few times in my life, and just once when I wasn't a teen I tend to stay away from people who are overly dramatic like that, the shit gets on my nerves You have a straight to the point humour here that's fantastic though. It's not quiet, but it is fantastic. Thanks! | |
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CalhounSq said: Fauxie said: You have a straight to the point humour here that's fantastic though. It's not quiet, but it is fantastic. Thanks! You're welcome. "Because precious Paris should only be posing & smiling? Not grunting & getting nailed like a fucking animal?" Brilliant. You're a superstar. | |
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Fauxie said: CalhounSq said: Thanks! You're welcome. "Because precious Paris should only be posing & smiling? Not grunting & getting nailed like a fucking animal?" Brilliant. You're a superstar. I forgot about that little gem already | |
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Anx said: i used to date someone who had a basket of glass votive candle holders so that when they threw a tantrum, they'd have something to throw against the wall that they wouldn't regret smashing. true story.
And the moment they threw something...I'd be out of there. Christian Zombie Vampires | |
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