A friend has just pointed out to me I need to nurture myself. At them moment I am doing the same damned thing everyday of my life - weekends are indistinguishable from the rest of my week. She feels I am in danger of losing myself. I agree. I need a passion, a challenge, a regular escape from the humdrum.

But what?



What do you do? To stimulate your brain? To energise yourself? To soothe your soul?

I lost myself along time ago...when you find a hobby let me know so I can try it.

notoriousj said:

I never really found myself in the first place, I feel like everything I do is because I have to, not really want to. I have kind of lost any burning desire for anything

ZombieKitten said:

Yeah, well I lost a desire to do what I once loved (photography) have not picked up my camera in 2 years...will do it again someday maybe...right now what I was is not who I am and its fucking torturous.

notoriousj said:

oh no!

I have a passion for graphic design, but it is very time consuming and it's what I do for a job, not a pastime. I like photography, but I just couldn't see myself doing it unless someone told me to (like a client wanting a shot of something).

I am unmotivated, tired, lethargic, braindead, lacking in confidence

ZombieKitten said:

I feel that way too...plus a few other choice words.

ZombieKitten said:

Byron said:

Puff Puff Pass G...your fuckin up the rotation.

No! I don't want another baby yet

ZombieKitten said:

Does that mean that was involved in the conception of your children??...lol

The org!

Try to start better threads!

Btw, to more seriously answer your question, I would suggest volunteer work (amazing the effects of devoting time and energy to helping others)...lots of reading (particularly books that make you think about the realities of life, like philosophy books)...take a class involving something you've always wanted to learn about or learn how to do...and if you're looking for very small things that can have a re-energizing effect, do simple things like changing the route you take to the store, each week find a restaurant you've never eaten at before and try it out, mail Byron some Tim Tams...things like that.

Byron said:

thanks Byron for seiously thinking about this for a minute.

I am looking after my kids most of the time, so leaving the house by myself (to do voluntary stuff) is kind of out of the question for me at this time, as is paid work outside of home.
Reading makes me unbelievably sleepy, since I have conditioned myself to falls asleep from reading it was a cure for my insomnia and I don't dare change that!
I have the short course brochures, and I would love to dance, but I don't want to press myself up against someone who is NOT my husband, and he's not into it, and would have to look after the kids anyway.

restaurants - not crazy about doing this all by myself, don't have the money to go to places where they cook better than I do.



it is next to impossible getting someone willing to babysit my kids.

Byron said:

Funny I have Tims Tams somewhere in the mail system on the way to me

notoriousj said:

Byron said:

If you twist my arm...I can share when they show up Also I may have found a place here in Washington that I might be able to use as a source...I have to check it out more and see whats up with that...


listen to me I sound like a addict lookin for their next hit...Tim tam withdrawls...

notoriousj said:

Don't worry he's bribing um I mean asking nicely for me to send him some to

Ocean said:

I keep thinkin you are imago cause of your avatar... vice versa for him...

notoriousj said:

It's really quite easy ..I'm the one with all the quality posts while his r and ....I hope he doesn't log on now

Take up smoking!

althom said:

ZombieKitten said:

Oooohhh! Now you're sexy.

jogging

embroidery

puppetry

gardening

gourmet cooking

skydiving

scuba diving

guitar lessons...

???

or just go back to school... learn a language. like hebrew, or chinese...

But seriously, I think learning a new language might be fun. I'm thinking of learning japanese myself one of these days.

Heiress said:

ooh you mean one with a different alphabet and a lot of history? Sounds like it would be interesting!

Now I don't have much uninterrupted time for concentrating, maybe something less intensive?


I did take guitar lessons for years and never improved same with piano.

painting

drawing

gardening

walking

knitting

creative childrens stuff

learning a new language

art sets your mind free...
try out different arts and crafts
ANYTHING, pottery (or just fooling around in clay), painting, FINGERpainting ( ), doodling, try out a new instrument, go book shopping ( ) take up knitting (i wanna do that this year), crocheting, latch hooking, plastic canvasing, make collages, take random pictures and turn it in2 a story that means something 2 u...start writing, write poetry, or your thoughts...


just dont ever lose yourself

ZombieKitten said:

oh, you have to practice a LOT.

i think SammiJ's art idea sounds really good.

Heiress said:

I used to play my guitar for about 5 hours each day, I was obsessed, but I was crap!

Byron said: