with all this brokeback mountain/oprah/Down Low stuff going on, my best friend at work's wife has insinuated that maybe something more than workplace friendship is going on Granted, we do have lunch together 3-4 times a week (when we work the same schedule), but other people are always welcome to join us (hell it's only, mcdonalds or wendy's)
her first comment was about 2 months ago and my buddy called his wife at home from my cell phone. i guess she asked who he was going to lunch with and he said me, so he gives me the phone and she says something to the effect of "i know you want my man, but you can't have him" so i'm like WTF ? my buddy said ignore it.


the second time was this past weekend. my buddy went on a scheduled vacation, but had death in the family just prior to going on vacation and he missed a big inventory day at work. he called me the next day and told me why he was absent and i told him people at work concerned for him and passed on their condolences. i called him saturday evening just to get him up to speed on what to expect when he came back monday, and his wife answers the phone. i said hi to her and that i was just calling because everybody at work was concerned that our coworker was doing okay because of the sudden death. her response--"ii'm his wife--i got this covered over here" again i'm like WTF?.
my coworker came back monday afternoon and he came and sought me out and i told him, as a friend, i was a little offended by his wife's insinuations. he just said that's how she is and don't take it personal. we'll have lunch this week, but i'm not calling his house ever again
[Edited 5/24/06 4:45am]

Then maybe you SHOULD stop sleeping with him.

RebornVirgin said:

even if i jumped the fence, my boy looks like notorious BIG, so that ain't gonna happen

Are you attracted to him?

mess with her mind and tell her you guys are going on a fishing trip , several hundred miles away.


She seems to have issues...or maybe it was just the stress from the death in the family, but she seems to be afriad/jelous of your friendship with her husband. Not necessarily on a homosexual level .

Imago said:

uh, no.

meltwithu said:

What does Oprah have to do with it?

newpower99 said:

she was wigging out before the death. it just kinda irritates me that grown men can't be friends without a whole bunch of drama. we don't hang out/talk really unless we're at work

meltwithu said:

Then it doesn't matter much what she thinks. She's just being crazy. Although 100% of married, straight men, will go both ways with their best friend if the opportunity presents itself.

100%

NDRU said:

she keeps having these shows telling women how their men are cheating on them with other men (i'm guessing the whole Steadman thing gave her inspiration)

Jus' tell her that you don't need that kind of shit from her, especially after you & your friend spend all day breaking your backs at work.

Oh wait,
that wouldn't help, now would it ....?

meltwithu said:

I see. Well, as Imago said:

"Although 100% of married, straight men, will go both ways with their best friend if the opportunity presents itself.

100%"

Imago said:

she's a dead ringer for queen latifah in set it off

As long as you know what's up, don't worry about her.

M

newpower99 said:

I agree. My best friends ex-wife was the same way.She never really said anything, but I felt these crazy ass vibes from her whenever I would go over to there place.Like she was initiating some kind of competition between she and I. That was bugged. I stopped going around her. I think its says much more about her level of self confidence than anything else.

Imago said:

I know it doesnt help my case by responding with an eyerolling emoticon, but are you being facetious, or do you really believe that?

unkemptpueblo said:

are you proposing?

Imago said:

Maybe your co-worker is a reformed homosexual and she feels he might slip

I told my boyfriend I want to visit a friend in either s.f. or l.a. this weekend and his first response is "are you planning on cheating on me?"



some people are just stupid.

She needs to checked... & don't blame Oprah, his wife is wacko for coming out the left w/ shit like that. Even if she's been burned before (he's cheated or is bi) she really shouldn't blurt that shit out to a coworker who's simply going to lunch w/ her husbands stankin' ass...

Natsume said:

You should have said;

"Well yes, actually. Of course I am going to another city to cheat on you, I had all the other men in THIS city."

And then just smile angelically.

NDRU said:

HamsterHuey said:

I attended a health festival at which he was the speaker. I was one of few straight, black men in the audience. By the end of his speech on his experience and book (replete with attacks on black fraternities), it was interesting to be black, straight and decidedly un-D.L. Sisters felt wounded by bad decisions made by brothers of that D.L. persuasion (and rightly so).

But, I thought it was interesting, how suspicion for sleeping around had expanded to include closeted gay sex, too.

Sounds like she's the one with issues.

well you know that you aren't married to her so her attitude isn't your problem...it's your homeboy's problem....if he isn't bothered by it, then why should u be?

missfee said:

i think he's a little bothered by it too, but won't say anything to me about it.

meltwithu said:

even if he is bothered, its still his problem, he has to hash that out with the wife....

ThreadBare said:

He's got some interesting things to say. Unfortunately, it's spoken through such an egomaniacal filter that the message is lost.

meltwithu said: