How do you do it? What's your vice?

You don't have to say what the void is, I won't - there's too many & they're too obvious

If you have no "void" I applaud you, I can't wait for the day that I'm truly happy w/ my life. Be nice if said happiness lasts for more than a day, lol...

As for me, I've become one of those women I never thought I was, didn't think I'd become & used to laugh @ frankly. I collect things to fill the void, which is code for "I shop" It's not expensive things, it's not things I can't use or don't necessarily "need" - it can be toiletries for God's sake, I just always feel like I need more stuff. And it doesn't make me feel better, it makes me feel worse b/c I beat myself up for wanting so much & repeatedly indulging myself. It's a dumb-ass cycle. It hasn't put me into debt but I suppose it could someday if my work situation changed drastically enough.

The void feels huge tonight... I just spent $200



Your turn - how do you fill the void




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CalhounSq said:

With my thumb.




























I'm banned now, aren't I?

I have a wonderful girlfriend is how.

And great family, loved ones and friends.

Other than that, I try not to do anything to excess and focus on making myself whole through meditation and playing music all the time.

Er, but I DO experience that sense that you're talking about sometimes because my GF is in another country... so I guess I DO sometimes drink a bit and smoke occasionally but I also balance it with exercise and taking care of myself... and also not taking life too seriously. Comedy and humour helps. And sex.... but really, I think the truth of "filling the void" is being totally in love, with someone else, and liking yourself to a good degree too (ie, having good self esteem and confidence) and also just making the most of every moment, because one day (and this is not in a fatalist sense) you won't have as much time to have a GOOD time.

Here endeth the reading.

I flick from here to myspace and back a zillion times hoping someone has taken some notice of me

ZombieKitten said:

shanti0608 said:

Thanks! I was a big cheered up when I read that Fauxie likes my boobs

ZombieKitten said:

I know how u feel- he likes my bum...

shanti0608 said:

did he make a frankenstein picture out of all our bits? I missed the pic and am imagining the worst!

ZombieKitten said:

I guess I missed the pic too..

shanti0608 said:

damn!

ZombieKitten said:

I keep taking it to God in prayer (to paraphrase "What a Friend We Have in Jesus"). I find it works, though I don't always agree with the way He responds. But, on more than one occasion (ha! especially recently), I've prayed:

"Please, change my life, and make it better." Again, He does. I just don't always like the manner in which He chooses to do so.

And, I try to do what I can to get my life there. I try to make decisions that don't sabotage those aspirations. And, I trust, as God makes changes to my life, that He's orchestrating things with those aspirations and dreams in mind. (Psalm 37:4)

I have to confess that I am a comfort eater , its a constant daily battle . And yes I smoke cigarettes and sometimes I buy stuff that I dont need , I guess everyone is the same really

Thanks for the responses so far guys

Pochacco said:

I think the difference is knowing the function of what you're doing, being conscious that you're at it again w/ your fix of choice. Some people just do what they do, I'm not sure how much they ever think about it...

Pochacco said:

i do/did the same basically, although i am one of those few people
lucky enough to not put on weight from what they eat -at all. if i
would put on weight, i would be 300 pounds by now.

and i keep quitting smoking and then taking it up again as soon as
the void needs filling. it's a kind of self controlled destruction
i guess.

but the buying things for no reason, thanks god, i managed to put a
stop to because it was really ruining my financial situation. now i
just hang around the org all day long or drive to mcdonalds for one
cappucino twenty times a week. but hey that's still less expensive
than buying 20 cd's or dvd's and it gives you something to do for a
while as well.

Thanks Isten , honestly Im not a right old misery all the time

I guess from time to time we all seek solice in something or other

smoking eating drinking shopping


Yup, similar to most.

Pochacco said:

the org used to fill the void. but it's not the same anymore.

CarrieMpls said:

You can add pharmaceuticals to that list for me too.

jerseykrs said:

Hahaha

JustErin said:

shush you.

jerseykrs said:

Notorious already took care of that for you.

kidelrich said:

LMFAO, she honestly just sent me music.

I work a lot, play with the kids and animals. When the void feels really big I take really long,hot baths,read in bed and sleep a LOT.

I fill the void with lots of things...but mostly I do it with chocolate chip cookies.

By watching Kylie Minogue videos?

I come here and post like a half-maniac; that makes me feel better.

I go eat something because I don't know what I want and really, it's probably not food, but I go do it anyway.

I write stuff down (lists, songs, anything), sometimes while I listen to music. If not, I listen to music afterward...
I don't know if life would be interesting without a void...and I mean that seriously...if we had everything we wanted and needed, would we be bored?

working on art pieces, listening to music,working on art pieces, working.

let's see listening to music, reading, writing poetry, chatting online with friends, dreaming/fantasizing about someone I have a crush on, exercising, laying out by the pool, going into work on the weekends- (how sad), eating things that are bad for me, dancing, writing in to he local papers editorial section.. God- I am boring..
Oh and sometimes I drink to fill the void..

Oh and I forgot dark chocolate.. good organic dark chocolate!

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