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PrintableSpats said: shanti0608 said: I do not know about the women you have met but when I like a guy- he knows it... 
No games about it...  Then you are in the minority. Most women are lousy at it. They think they are good but they are not. What do you do? I work for a clinical research company- I do a little bit of everything there.. answer phones and care for the patients.. As far as communication goes- it comes down to understanding. You have to want to understand and communicate with that person. All women are different and all men are different. I have found that most men do not have good skills when it comes to paying attention and women feel like if they are too forward then they are going to be considered a slut. Women cannot win really unless they find someone that understands them. | |
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playing games sucks. | |
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kidelrich said: playing games sucks.
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TMPletz said: kidelrich said: playing games sucks.
That too. j/k. kinda. | |
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kidelrich said:
That too. j/k. kinda.That's okay. Not everyone can be a geek like I can. | |
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Savour said: the way the hand brushes the knee
the way the eyes meet detailz iz fun The way you smell after you crawl against me after a hot night of passion... |
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HamsterHuey said: Savour said: the way the hand brushes the knee
the way the eyes meet detailz iz fun The way you smell after you crawl against me after a hot night of passion... Just had to ruin the mood huh???  | |
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shanti0608 said: Spats said: Then you are in the minority. Most women are lousy at it. They think they are good but they are not. What do you do? I work for a clinical research company- I do a little bit of everything there.. answer phones and care for the patients.. As far as communication goes- it comes down to understanding. You have to want to understand and communicate with that person. All women are different and all men are different. I have found that most men do not have good skills when it comes to paying attention and women feel like if they are too forward then they are going to be considered a slut. Women cannot win really unless they find someone that understands them. I meant what do you do to show you are interested. Ask most men and they will tell you that they would appreciate if the woman would just come out and say she is interested in hooking up with him. | |
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Spats said: shanti0608 said: I work for a clinical research company- I do a little bit of everything there.. answer phones and care for the patients.. As far as communication goes- it comes down to understanding. You have to want to understand and communicate with that person. All women are different and all men are different. I have found that most men do not have good skills when it comes to paying attention and women feel like if they are too forward then they are going to be considered a slut. Women cannot win really unless they find someone that understands them. I meant what do you do to show you are interested. Ask most men and they will tell you that they would appreciate if the woman would just come out and say she is interested in hooking up with him.  most men completely miss the non-verbal signals women are sending out.
In my case my guy wanted to do the chasing and if I had come on strong he would have been put off, he even told me that. Mind you he is excellent at reading a vibe, so my non-verbals were very clear to him. | |
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shanti0608 said: HamsterHuey said: The way you smell after you crawl against me after a hot night of passion... Just had to ruin the mood huh??? Ayedunno what mood you're in, but my mood is SPIFFY! |
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Spats said: shanti0608 said: I work for a clinical research company- I do a little bit of everything there.. answer phones and care for the patients.. As far as communication goes- it comes down to understanding. You have to want to understand and communicate with that person. All women are different and all men are different. I have found that most men do not have good skills when it comes to paying attention and women feel like if they are too forward then they are going to be considered a slut. Women cannot win really unless they find someone that understands them. I meant what do you do to show you are interested. Ask most men and they will tell you that they would appreciate if the woman would just come out and say she is interested in hooking up with him. Oh- sorry, didn't catch what you meant.. ha!!
I guess it depends on the person and how they are. It is about reading them and knowing what they are like. I have never been one to come on really strong unless I know that is what they like. You have to pick up on what they like and do not like. With my husband I had to be the more aggressive one because he was shy and inexperienced at relationships. If you are with someone more in tune with you and your feelings then it usually comes naturally. It is something that sometimes takes time, effort and interest. I have always been pretty picky so when I do care for someone I am prepared to find out what they like and what they need then I do my best at expressing how I feel for them. Like cards, letters, emails, texts- sometimes little things mean a lot- just depends on the person... | |
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For that matter, "men being bad at reading women's signals" is also because even if a woman you personally know would be sometimes sending out clear messages physically and even saying something outright, they can behave completely different the next time you meet them. Even totally indiffetently, or saying something that a person that's not interested in you would not necessarily bring into open discussion. And as a guy, you can never really know were you just imagining something based on the previous time you met her. It's confusing to say the least, and you don't want to make an ass out of yourself by assuming that someone wants to have a relationship with you because she just happened to give some extra attention to you the last time you met. Even more risque with beautiful women, they get that thing all the time.
And as far as these so-called "signals" and depending on them go.. aren't women just great at making men feel guilty and inadequate for not being able to read their minds?    | |
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Novabreaker said: For that matter, "men being bad at reading women's signals" is also because even if a woman you personally know would be sometimes sending out clear messages physically and even saying something outright, they can behave completely different the next time you meet them. Even totally indiffetently, or saying something that a person that's not interested in you would not necessarily bring into open discussion. And as a guy, you can never really know were you just imagining something based on the previous time you met her. It's confusing to say the least, and you don't want to make an ass out of yourself by assuming that someone wants to have a relationship with you because she just happened to give some extra attention to you the last time you met. Even more risque with beautiful women, they get that thing all the time.
And as far as these so-called "signals" and depending on them go.. aren't women just great at making men feel guilty and inadequate for not being able to read their minds?  | |
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Novabreaker said: For that matter, "men being bad at reading women's signals" is also because even if a woman you personally know would be sometimes sending out clear messages physically and even saying something outright, they can behave completely different the next time you meet them. Even totally indiffetently, or saying something that a person that's not interested in you would not necessarily bring into open discussion. And as a guy, you can never really know were you just imagining something based on the previous time you met her. It's confusing to say the least, and you don't want to make an ass out of yourself by assuming that someone wants to have a relationship with you because she just happened to give some extra attention to you the last time you met. Even more risque with beautiful women, they get that thing all the time.
And as far as these so-called "signals" and depending on them go.. aren't women just great at making men feel guilty and inadequate for not being able to read their minds? You speak the damn truth.  | |
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ZombieKitten said: Spats said: I meant what do you do to show you are interested. Ask most men and they will tell you that they would appreciate if the woman would just come out and say she is interested in hooking up with him. most men completely miss the non-verbal signals women are sending out.
In my case my guy wanted to do the chasing and if I had come on strong he would have been put off, he even told me that. Mind you he is excellent at reading a vibe, so my non-verbals were very clear to him. I once told a guy, that was a friend, straight out that I wanted to have sex with him. He laughed, said it would be very nice, but that it was never gonna happen due to certain circumstances. 
Talk about a slam to the old ego. Stupid rye used to make me do silly things. I swore that I'd never allow myself to be that bold again. | |
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I ASSURE YOU THAT GUY...
Isn't like most men. Now, name and address please.
JustErin said: ZombieKitten said: most men completely miss the non-verbal signals women are sending out.
In my case my guy wanted to do the chasing and if I had come on strong he would have been put off, he even told me that. Mind you he is excellent at reading a vibe, so my non-verbals were very clear to him. I once told a guy, that was a friend, straight out that I wanted to have sex with him. He laughed, said it would be very nice, but that it was never gonna happen due to certain circumstances.
Talk about a slam to the old ego. Stupid rye used to make me do silly things. I swore that I'd never allow myself to be that bold again. M.2.K
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papaa said: I ASSURE YOU THAT GUY...
Isn't like most men. Now, name and address please.
JustErin said: I once told a guy, that was a friend, straight out that I wanted to have sex with him. He laughed, said it would be very nice, but that it was never gonna happen due to certain circumstances.
Talk about a slam to the old ego. Stupid rye used to make me do silly things. I swore that I'd never allow myself to be that bold again. I'm thinking that he thought I just wasn't his type. He was probably just using the reason he gave me as an excuse to let me down gently. He also turned down an incredibly smoking hot girl after she kinda did the same thing some time later. So maybe he just despises aggressive women. Whatever the reason was, the rejection sucked. | |
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OR MAYBE...
He wasn't ready to release his internal homo. 
To err is human, to repeatedly decline strong sexual overtures from women is shall we say... fierce.
JustErin said: I'm thinking that he thought I just wasn't his type. He was probably just using the reason he gave me as an excuse to let me down gently. He also turned down an incredibly smoking hot girl after she kinda did the same thing some time later. So maybe he just despises aggressive women. Whatever the reason was, the rejection sucked. M.2.K
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