Quite often in the "must haves", women insist that their male partners be smart and funny. Brains rank up there in the top 3.

From what I've observed/heard, many straight guys seem to want intelligence in a woman sort of as an afterthought--"attractive, fun, sweet, smells good, smiles at my jokes, not a golddigger: oh, and smart would be nice".

Is this just nature/evolution? Or do you guys really not get bored and annoyed by someone if she looks/acts nice enough?

Mmmm....that question is too smart.

Only if her name's Ann Coulter or Condi Rice

I think the majority of heterosexual men wouldn't want a woman to outsmart them

althom said:

You fooled your wife good, didn't you?

Dewrede said:

Tell me more about that!

majority no
but sometimes u get lucky and you find the men that thrive on intelligence

AnotherLoverToo said:

Must be insecurity

Dewrede said:

but see that wouldn't take too much effort...so i guess they should rethink things huh?

i think that men do like intelligent women but frankly i think that looks are gonna be involved in order to get to the brains.

StephenColbert said:

I love you, Stephen

SammiJ said:

I think most men dont want a woman that is smarter than them.

I certainly am an exception to this though. My wife is better educated and way smarter than me.

Personally, I cannot stand stupidity and dullness in a woman. If there is no intelligence then their physical attractiveness dives several points fairly rapidly.

Of course, I could never be fussy because most women are way smarter than me anyway

Quite simply "No."

bkw said:

Don't be stupid, Brett!

AnotherLoverToo said:

I love you too.

VOTE Keyes 2008!

nurse said:

sad innit?

AnotherLoverToo said:

brownsugar said:

gee i guess i overestimated men

bkw said:

Modesty is so attractive on you...

brownsugar said:

AnotherLoverToo said:

SammiJ said:

Yes it is . Oh-and don't make more money than your significant other-all HELL will break loose .

so tell me men, what is this about?

WHY is it like this? is it an overcompensation type thing?
are you really that self-conscious and cowardly that the only thing that'll make u feel better is having a dumb girl for a companion?

i may sound harsh, but it's only cuz i dont get it


so go ahead, explain.
i'm a smart woman...don't be afraid.

nurse said:

now THAT i fully agree on

Most of the resounding "no"s have been women speaking on behalf of men, not men actually saying it.

brownsugar said:

This is probably a different issue than intelligence though. Men are traditionally brought up to be the "bread winner" and can feel like a failure if they arn't. Once again, i dont get this. I can think of nothing better than my wife bringing in the big money (we earn about the same on a pro-rata basis anyway).

I like a woman who's smarter. It makes the conversations more interesting. I want to be with someone I can learn from and with.

bkw said:

Very smart observation.

Maybe some men feel intimidated by smart women because they are stupid.