See, 'cause you're sweet like that.

thesexofit said:

OMG, I can't believe you just said all that! And way to be hard on yourself.

Yes, it's a long list but it's my wish list, it's not like everything I listed is mandatory. No one so far has even been able to fill them all, and who knows if I will ever find someone that will be able to.

...but that's ok.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Oh goddamnit. There goes my chances. I even take the spiders outside, but no, I can't be bothered to drink tea.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

I used to just squash 'em, without a second thought! now i'll even just escort them out of my view. at my last place, there were a lot, and i would talk to them and tell them they weren't welcome to live in my house, and that after fair warning, i was likely to kill them. they mainly left, but sometimes i did do some squishing!

Novabreaker said:

Tea is the best. But then, the tea in england is proberly the best in the world. (i have no idea if thats true)

Breathing!!! .....or not

Novabreaker said:

Tea is the best. But then, the tea in england is proberly the best in the world. (i have no idea if thats true)

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Absolutely! I probably take baths 5 times as often as I take showers.

I'm cleaning up my hard drive, and I came upon this wish list that I wrote up. . . I was thinking about all of the things I want in a partner.

I bet I'm not the only one who has done this.

Anyway, thought I'd share:


"You laugh and cry with ease. You love to touch and be touched. You are deeply, wildly sexual, and we find each other sexually intoxicating. You love to play, but you can be serious. We love to talk to each other, and we love to be quiet together. You are quirky, and you like that in me. You are smart. . . wicked, crazy smart. . . and unpretentious about it. You are introspective. You believe in yourself. You know you're wonderful. You don't believe in not telling other people that they're wonderful if it's true. You don't get bored, except maybe by television. You are funny, with a deep dark twist. You are thoughtful, but you can let it go. You are honest. You don't play games with people. You have a filthy mouth. You mostly don't take yourself too seriously. You are down to Earth except when you're not. You take baths. You love to travel, and you love to be at home. You care about your surroundings, and have aesthetic opinions. You have your own style. You LOVE music. You want an urban life, with moss and saltwater on the side. You are gentle, and you are kind. You are open to people who aren't like you. You want to be your own person, but hold your life's partner close to who and where you are. You are beautiful, and you have multidimensional views of beauty. You live for emotional intimacy. Your friends are deserving of your time, and you give it to them. You respect your mother. You like animals, and you're the type of person who carries a spider outside in a cup. You take the time to find creatures in the clouds. You like tea and rain. You have tremendous integrity."

I think the most important quality to me is flexibility (oh, get your minds out of the gutter...though that's important too, ho ho ho).

Knowing that sometimes we won't be able to get enough of each other and sometimes we might be totally sick of each other and sometimes it might be more about the sex than the companionship, and other times we might feel more like buddies than lovers...relationships aren't static for me. They're fluid. I can't be around someone every day and feel exactly the same things for them all the time. I can always value them and respect them and be there to help and support them, but roles change from time to time, and I don't believe in fighting that reality. It's hard to find people who understand that and can ride with the highs and lows and changes in a relationship instead of trying to fight and deny them.

There's a bunch of other stuff, most of which has already been mentioned on this thread, that's important to me as well, but the flexibility piece is the most important to me.

-Has to be really pretty.
-Has to have a nice body and be in good shape.
-Blonde hair would be prefered but black or brown will do.
-Either my height or slighty shorter. Not too short.
-Good sized breasts. Not too big not to small.
-Full Lips
-Have Cute nose. No big noses.
-No glasses. Wear contacts if needed.
-Must have modern day views. Not into gender roles
-Good table manners. Good manners in general.
-Not into drama. Save the drama for your mama
-No issues. No neediness
-Must not want to get married or have kids
-Must be nice.

I hate to do this, but...

"...don't give me your 'wish list'...love is free from all this..."


I used to make lists like these...and what I realize now is that no one person can fill that description...of course I have standards and get along better with some than others, but I don't want to limit myself by getting TOO specific about what I want. I could be missing out on some wonderful people

[buncha shit]

I like a girl that can take a punch.

Anx said:

love wish lists

Mach said:

To each their own. I can see what you mean, but I doubt she's got it framed as an actual check-off list. She just felt like sharing, right? It was touching and at least she knows what makes her tick. Or something like that, ugh.

I'd be jazzed and would tap around in a sparkly top hat if I came across someone willing to join in on my air-horn drive-bys. I fancy me a goofball.

I think the most important quality to me is flexibility (oh, get your minds out of the gutter...though that's important too, ho ho ho).

Knowing that sometimes we won't be able to get enough of each other and sometimes we might be totally sick of each other and sometimes it might be more about the sex than the companionship, and other times we might feel more like buddies than lovers...relationships aren't static for me. They're fluid. I can't be around someone every day and feel exactly the same things for them all the time. I can always value them and respect them and be there to help and support them, but roles change from time to time, and I don't believe in fighting that reality. It's hard to find people who understand that and can ride with the highs and lows and changes in a relationship instead of trying to fight and deny them.

There's a bunch of other stuff, most of which has already been mentioned on this thread, that's important to me as well, but the flexibility piece is the most important to me.

Oh well, I'm on a dating thread kick this morning, so I might make a list of my own here as well. Maybe it'll sort out some questions in my own head as well...

- Must like me. Sounds dumb and obvious, but this really is a big plus. Must like me as a person - not just as another representative of the male sex. Must be attracted to my inconsistencies as well, you're not going to be able to change me into a regular guy.

- As far as looks go, I could give a rat's ass with what kind of looks they were born with. However, what matters to me is what they've choosen to come up with what they got. Beauty is mostly a construction these days anyway, and a sense of style is a sign of a well-developed aesthetic mind. I like overt femininity, I make no secret of that. And I like the woman to be comfortable with hers and not view it as just another "woman's chore". I don't want the woman to emphasize her feminity because of insecurity though, or in order to please men. If they like to change their style depending on their mood and period, be playful with it, that's a huge plus. Style, not genetics. That's what I say. You can come off scruffy from time to time too, you don't have to wear high heels and fake lashes when taking out the garbage.

- If you must look trashy sometimes, do it with a sense of parody. I really don't know what to think of women who take sexiness seriously. Not outrightly equating sexiness with trashiness here of course, but you know what I mean.

- Must be able to put up a good fight. I was raised in a very... ehm, vocal household and I am used to pretty fierce arguments inside four walls. I just don't want the poor girl to feel threatened or inable to deal with my tantrums. Fight back, don't put up with my shit.

- I like a girl that's a bit of a spaz. Just something I like.

- Unfortunately, I can't stand drunk women. So a modest approach to alcohol is a must. Yeah, I end up smoking weed myself from time to time with my friends (since we're art students and all...), but that's my problem. Not hers.

- Deriving from the last one: if she wants to go out clubbing, then she really should go out clubbing. Not think she's really living it to the max by sitting at a table somewhere at a trendy uptown bar with her three student friends. And then doing that lame crap three or four nights a week, wasting all her money on that. Go to a gig, somekind of an event, do something. Don't pretend to have fun when you're obviously not having any. I hate that in a person.

- Conversations! Wit! Humour! I have no idea what it would be like if I ended up with someone who wouldn't understand sarcasm. Sounds like a disaster from the beginning. I like it when sometimes a certain moment could be like it was a scene from a sitcom. It can be a b-rate sitcom, doesn't have to be Seinfeld. Shouldn't be like Seinfeld at all, on a second thought.

- Must be able to take in an endless array of compliments from me. Get prepared for huge amounts of them.

- No racism, no homophobia. Not even a hint at "people with no money are just lazy, don't want to work, just want to live on our expense and have no ambitions" - mentality. No bullshit like that, or you're ousted from my life immediately.

- Yeah, you guessed it. As a student, I have no money. Deal with it. I'll still get you birthday and christmas presents, and spend silly amounts on them. Don't worry.

- Don't compare me to your ex-boyfriend. I am not him, and most likely I have very little in common with him. Don't expect me to be able to read your mind. I can't tell what's going on in your mind exactly - for I am not you. We are two different physical entitities, and I am not just another chapter in your life.

- An ability to prepare food for herself. I'm not looking for a cook and a maid for myself, I just find it odd that some women can't these days even heat up a meal for themselves, but have to go over to a restaurant of some sort each day to fill up their stomachs.

- Must be able to deal with my eccentricities and leave me alone if I want to be alone. For I am crazy. No, I really am. I'm not kidding.

- A nice smile from time to time.

- Of course the ability to withstand loud NOISE music would be prefered, since I'm part of that scene over here. I think I am good at what I do, I love what I do and I am not planning to stop anytime soon however. I might be asking to much here, I don't know. I'm still single. Must tell of something.


[Edited 5/22/06 1:31am]

I'm cleaning up my hard drive, and I came upon this wish list that I wrote up. . . I was thinking about all of the things I want in a partner.

I bet I'm not the only one who has done this.

Anyway, thought I'd share:


"You laugh and cry with ease. You love to touch and be touched. You are deeply, wildly sexual, and we find each other sexually intoxicating. You love to play, but you can be serious. We love to talk to each other, and we love to be quiet together. You are quirky, and you like that in me. You are smart. . . wicked, crazy smart. . . and unpretentious about it. You are introspective. You believe in yourself. You know you're wonderful. You don't believe in not telling other people that they're wonderful if it's true. You don't get bored, except maybe by television. You are funny, with a deep dark twist. You are thoughtful, but you can let it go. You are honest. You don't play games with people. You have a filthy mouth. You mostly don't take yourself too seriously. You are down to Earth except when you're not. You take baths. You love to travel, and you love to be at home. You care about your surroundings, and have aesthetic opinions. You have your own style. You LOVE music. You want an urban life, with moss and saltwater on the side. You are gentle, and you are kind. You are open to people who aren't like you. You want to be your own person, but hold your life's partner close to who and where you are. You are beautiful, and you have multidimensional views of beauty. You live for emotional intimacy. Your friends are deserving of your time, and you give it to them. You respect your mother. You like animals, and you're the type of person who carries a spider outside in a cup. You take the time to find creatures in the clouds. You like tea and rain. You have tremendous integrity."

HereToRockYourWorld said:

Baby, if this person has a twin gay brother PLEASE put in a good word for me

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Oh, with my luck he IS gay. I'll give him your number.