I am asking this because about a year + ago my ex left me three days before I had returned from overseas. We were talking everyday that I was gone, then when I told her I was coming back she stopped talking, then broke it off three days b4 I got back. 1.8 years down the drain. Any ideas anyone?

actionthisday said:

that sounds weird

ZombieKitten said:

Everyone says that, then asks "were you cheating?"

actionthisday said:

I would have asked was SHE cheating?

actionthisday said:

There is always a reason.

ZombieKitten said:

She said no. But people say a lot of things.I went to her apartment to gather my stuff later on, didn't appear to be anything different...

JustErin said:

yep.

actionthisday said:

As far as you know was she mentally stable? Was she prone to making rash and often regretable decisions? What has she said to explain herself since? How long were you gone?

too many questions

ZombieKitten said:

Not too many questions, just need closure. She was kinda odd, but not Zodiac killer odd, She made good choices. When I asked her why she just started crying an saying I love you

actionthisday said:

so you never got an explanation? Maybe she wanted to take things to the next level but didn't feel you wanted to and this was a test? You were supposed to say "I can't live without you" and propose? (I'm clutching at straws here! ) or maybe she had been thinking about breaking up for a while and had no real reason?

ZombieKitten said:

That's the best I have heard so far. Yeah I suck at the whole women testing me thing...but she seemed so happy.

It's been more than a year, and you haven't had these questions answered?

ThreadBare said:

yup.

Probably some underlying reason that she didn't have to deal with or face while you were so far away ...whatever reason that may be. Sorry I can't offer anything better...

You have to move on

luv4u said:

Yup. Sometimes we just don't get the answers we are looking for.

Most women fuck around at the dick of the week's house. Rarely do women cheat at home. If they do you would never notice the signs unless she wants you too. It is possible that you all have grown apart. Someone may have been more supportive to her while you were gone. After being overseas myself after while that phone shit gets old. You just want someone to hug you everynow and then. Especially, if there is no talk of us making this permanent. What would be the point of dragging our relationship out? Think about it..

actionthisday said:

That isn't no reason. That is her other boyfriend, the real boyfriend, was more importaint then you. You were played.

As for me, no, no one has ever left me for no reason. This might have something to do with me still being with the same woman for 15+ years.

actionthisday said:

I think you need to find out, now that things have cooled down after so long she can probably tell you without crying?

Theres never not a reason

but he still may never get the reason (anytime soon). It's hard to move on without knowing the truth about something like this...but sometimes, just moving on to bigger and better things or in this case...a much better woman would help you to forget about this chick.

and then when you are finally happy, and at the point of not even thinking about this situation, that is most likely the time when this chick will pop back up either wanting to give you an explanation, wanting to be friends, or wanting to be with you again. This is when you listen to the explanation (if you still care to know) and then walk away from her sorry ass....

missfee said:

So incredibly true. That's why it's important to move on, and make sure you're not dependent upon another human for your peace, happiness and fulfillment -- as tough a standard as that can be.

actionthisday said:

Whats for you wont go past you.
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I had a girlfriend that went home for Christmas break and the plan was for her to work on Howard Dean's campaign for a couple of months.. She sent me an indifferent email right before she left for home and I never heard from her again.

My 3 long term girlfriends all did. It's kind of left me a bit deflated and non commital to relationships now. Once bitten, twice shy.

Um, no, they all had good reason to leave me.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

life can be a bitch

jerseykrs said:

supp playa

Savour said:

hahahah

Savour said:

I'm not complaining. It's a blessing in disguise to some extent. It's made me a bit tougher when it comes to people letting you down.