So for many years now I've been friends almost exclusively with gay men and straight women. There is a vast shortage of hetero men in my social circle and my group of friends always talks about doing something about that, but we never do.
I mean, really, how am I gonna find a date if I don't know any straight men?

So today at work I'm getting ready to leave and a cute straight male co-worker invited me to a happy hour after work. Now, I already have plans (going to the gay bar for three 4 one's in a little bit), and instead of being all, "gosh, thanks for the invitation, how nice! I have plans, but let me know next time for sure!" I said something lame about how, yeah, I'm already going to have a drink with my friends and I think I mildly insulted the place they were going to.

CarrieMpls said:

You need to join a country club.

You have GOT to work on your people skills.

I think you need to have a talk with Spats. He'll teach you how to get some sacktime.

you're better off not getting involved with someone at work, but on monday you could go up to him and say "I shoulda taken you up on your invite..."...and let things flow from there

StephenColbert said:

But I don't golf.

at least you're not in my shoes and barely know many folks at all...

RebornVirgin said:

PurpleRein said:

See, I'm really not interested in him. I'm just thinking he may have friends.

RebornVirgin said:

stoppit!

Nothinbutjoy said:

I know. It's sad, isn't it. lol.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Dansa stole my shoes. ....meaning...it's the same for me.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

I know. I shouldn't complain. I'm a lucky girl.

Nothinbutjoy said:

you wear chucks too?

I do things like that too. I just don't think before I speak! I hear it in my head and I think its all good, but I cant seem to think about how it would sound to the other person....

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Not anymore....you stole them...

go up to him next Friday and ask if you could take him up on his invite from last week...?

Say what I always say, "It's always happy hour at my place, wanna come over?"


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PurpleRein said:

We'll see. I'm shy. See the 'socially inept' part of the thread title.

I think I'll just casually hang out near that group of folks near my quitting time and see what happens. lol.

CarrieMpls said:

Carrie...sometimes you need to try on a new hat (see the movie "Crossing Delancey"

PurpleRein said:

Do they wear hats in the movie?

CarrieMpls said:

well...yes, one character does..:groan: you're missing the point!

PurpleRein said:

PurpleRein said:

But I like hats. I look very good in them. I don't wear them really, though, I'm afraid. And they're are against my dress code at work.





I see what you're saying. And you're probably right. But it's sooooo uncomfortable to me.

There you go.. ackin' like you TOO GOOD to get a drink with someone.


OK I turn people down all the time, but not like that!

CinisterCee said:

I know, right?

Once I thought about what I said I felt like sich an ass.

CarrieMpls said:

This is one of the best reasons for being friends with guys.

I say ask him to come out with your friends the next time you guys go out.

Yeah, you should try to find a chance soon to ask him to come hang out with you guys, so he'll know it wasn't a personal rejection. So you can get with his friends. Totally.

I think there is a overall shortage of straight men....or maybe its just where I live....I dunno....

Handclapsfingasnapz said: