i don't know if maybe this year is the worst time of my life. my mother is deteriorating at a rapid rate, and i'm really getting pushed into a corner regarding taking some kind of action. it's become clear that she's not in the state of mind to take care of herself, let alone communicate even the simplest thoughts clearly. she's been to the emergency room at least six times this year alone, and her insurance has run out. her podiatrist is seeing her pretty much pro bono now, but her needs are way more than he can afford to contribute. she's probably going to have at least one foot amputated, and i just learned she's been hiding the fact that she hasn't seen a primary health care physician in over a year, so there are probably loads of other things wrong with her. she's in a hospital right now - she was admitted to an emergency room again last night. the problem gets worse and worse. if i can't find a way to put her in a constant-care setting, all i know to do is move her to chicago and have her live with me...which i don't mind because she's my mom, but it's going to change EVERYTHING, and i'm scared to death of that.

oh yeah, and i got the sickest i've ever been in my life last month, which was most likely the result of an infection i got from cleaning my mother's house after the last time she was admitted to an ER. or was it two times ago? it's hard to keep track.

anyway. is this worse than being trampled as a kid? i don't know.

i don't know if maybe this year is the worst time of my life. my mother is deteriorating at a rapid rate, and i'm really getting pushed into a corner regarding taking some kind of action. it's become clear that she's not in the state of mind to take care of herself, let alone communicate even the simplest thoughts clearly. she's been to the emergency room at least six times this year alone, and her insurance has run out. her podiatrist is seeing her pretty much pro bono now, but her needs are way more than he can afford to contribute. she's probably going to have at least one foot amputated, and i just learned she's been hiding the fact that she hasn't seen a primary health care physician in over a year, so there are probably loads of other things wrong with her. she's in a hospital right now - she was admitted to an emergency room again last night. the problem gets worse and worse. if i can't find a way to put her in a constant-care setting, all i know to do is move her to chicago and have her live with me...which i don't mind because she's my mom, but it's going to change EVERYTHING, and i'm scared to death of that.

oh yeah, and i got the sickest i've ever been in my life last month, which was most likely the result of an infection i got from cleaning my mother's house after the last time she was admitted to an ER. or was it two times ago? it's hard to keep track.

anyway. is this worse than being trampled as a kid? i don't know.

jerseykrs said:

Finding out my wife had an abortion after trying to hide it from me. BTW, I had already had a vascectomy.

The worst things that have ever happened to me are not fit for this message board.

i don't know if maybe this year is the worst time of my life. my mother is deteriorating at a rapid rate, and i'm really getting pushed into a corner regarding taking some kind of action. it's become clear that she's not in the state of mind to take care of herself, let alone communicate even the simplest thoughts clearly. she's been to the emergency room at least six times this year alone, and her insurance has run out. her podiatrist is seeing her pretty much pro bono now, but her needs are way more than he can afford to contribute. she's probably going to have at least one foot amputated, and i just learned she's been hiding the fact that she hasn't seen a primary health care physician in over a year, so there are probably loads of other things wrong with her. she's in a hospital right now - she was admitted to an emergency room again last night. the problem gets worse and worse. if i can't find a way to put her in a constant-care setting, all i know to do is move her to chicago and have her live with me...which i don't mind because she's my mom, but it's going to change EVERYTHING, and i'm scared to death of that.

oh yeah, and i got the sickest i've ever been in my life last month, which was most likely the result of an infection i got from cleaning my mother's house after the last time she was admitted to an ER. or was it two times ago? it's hard to keep track.

anyway. is this worse than being trampled as a kid? i don't know.

Aw, baby. I'm sorry.

She's so incredibly lucky to have you.

Finding out my wife had an abortion after trying to hide it from me. BTW, I had already had a vascectomy.

jerseykrs said:

Damn she sounds like a complete bitch.. better off without her

HereToRockYourWorld said:

i don't know how lucky she is...i live fairly far away and i don't have a car, so what i am able to do is limited. plus, all of this is dredging up a lot of anger because i know this could have been prevented, and i have to fight that and accept that this is just How It Is Now. i'll have plenty of time to be bitter once i know she's in a safe environment.

The worst things that have ever happened to me are not fit for this message board.

CarrieMpls said:

ditto ...for me

Mach said:

co-sign

bluesbaby said:

one thing i am willing to share ...

was helping a lifelong friend burry her 9 month old



fucking HELL that sucked

i don't know if maybe this year is the worst time of my life. my mother is deteriorating at a rapid rate, and i'm really getting pushed into a corner regarding taking some kind of action. it's become clear that she's not in the state of mind to take care of herself, let alone communicate even the simplest thoughts clearly. she's been to the emergency room at least six times this year alone, and her insurance has run out. her podiatrist is seeing her pretty much pro bono now, but her needs are way more than he can afford to contribute. she's probably going to have at least one foot amputated, and i just learned she's been hiding the fact that she hasn't seen a primary health care physician in over a year, so there are probably loads of other things wrong with her. she's in a hospital right now - she was admitted to an emergency room again last night. the problem gets worse and worse. if i can't find a way to put her in a constant-care setting, all i know to do is move her to chicago and have her live with me...which i don't mind because she's my mom, but it's going to change EVERYTHING, and i'm scared to death of that.

oh yeah, and i got the sickest i've ever been in my life last month, which was most likely the result of an infection i got from cleaning my mother's house after the last time she was admitted to an ER. or was it two times ago? it's hard to keep track.

anyway. is this worse than being trampled as a kid? i don't know.

Mach said:

co-sign

CarrieMpls said:

sorry to hear that, Carrie..

oh yeah, and i got the sickest i've ever been in my life last month, which was most likely the result of an infection i got from cleaning my mother's house after the last time she was admitted to an ER. or was it two times ago? it's hard to keep track.

anyway. is this worse than being trampled as a kid? i don't know.

Justin1972UK said:

You mean menstruation?

i don't know if maybe this year is the worst time of my life. my mother is deteriorating at a rapid rate, and i'm really getting pushed into a corner regarding taking some kind of action. it's become clear that she's not in the state of mind to take care of herself, let alone communicate even the simplest thoughts clearly. she's been to the emergency room at least six times this year alone, and her insurance has run out. her podiatrist is seeing her pretty much pro bono now, but her needs are way more than he can afford to contribute. she's probably going to have at least one foot amputated, and i just learned she's been hiding the fact that she hasn't seen a primary health care physician in over a year, so there are probably loads of other things wrong with her. she's in a hospital right now - she was admitted to an emergency room again last night. the problem gets worse and worse. if i can't find a way to put her in a constant-care setting, all i know to do is move her to chicago and have her live with me...which i don't mind because she's my mom, but it's going to change EVERYTHING, and i'm scared to death of that.

oh yeah, and i got the sickest i've ever been in my life last month, which was most likely the result of an infection i got from cleaning my mother's house after the last time she was admitted to an ER. or was it two times ago? it's hard to keep track.

anyway. is this worse than being trampled as a kid? i don't know.

Finding out my wife had an abortion after trying to hide it from me. BTW, I had already had a vascectomy.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

i don't know how lucky she is...i live fairly far away and i don't have a car, so what i am able to do is limited. plus, all of this is dredging up a lot of anger because i know this could have been prevented, and i have to fight that and accept that this is just How It Is Now. i'll have plenty of time to be bitter once i know she's in a safe environment.

Anx said:

I think some of it might have. I think your "how it is Now" thinking is a good place to be. Cuz you can only go forward with that.

Do you think you could really give her the care she needs? It sounds like she needs a live in nurse or something.

superspaceboy said:

the only things i know i could do for her would be to monitor her medications, to make sure she's eating a proper diet and taking care of herself, and to be nearby when there's an episode requiring her to go to the emergency room. even if she lived with me, i would definitely want her to have nurses visiting several times a week. there are certain things i can't and won't do, which may sound callous, but i'd rather have professionals handling certain things than be able to say i'm such a great son because i've taken on everything.