I sent a simple email explaining that I'm not, um, romantically interested.....my life is so screwy sometimes.....


http://www.yousendit.com/...4C1137BB71

jerseykrs said:

Change the girl's voice to mine and you have my standard 'wtfisupwithyou' phone call. I like to place it after the second date. By this time, they've changed their home address and I've made one appearance on a Cops or Unsolved Mysteries episode.

guess your email wasn't simple enough

kidelrich said:

Do you get the quiver in your voice also??

jerseykrs said:

She's just being honest with you about the way she feels, as far as I can tell. I would need to know more about your background, how you met, what you have done together, etc. Also, pics would be nice.

jerseykrs said:

I get very emo over girls. This much is true.

She's a perfect example of the classic emotional catastrophe. Their numbers are growing with each new emo band that gets signed to a major label.

Be very afraid.

JustErin said:

She's 34!!!

jerseykrs said:

Unfortunately a mature age is not immune to this alarming trend.

JustErin said:

Um, Jersey is part of the problem.

kidelrich said:

HAHAHA, I sooooo am not!! I'm fucking grounded in reality!!!

jerseykrs said:

These creatures typically attempt to pair bond with their own kind. Perhaps you need to take a good hard look at yourself.

kidelrich said:

that's what im saying
it's not a one sided thing
not to put blame on anyone here because we dont know the whole situation
i think there was a glitch in the communication breakdown


jersey hun, are u sure u were clear on what u wanted 2 say?
i mean it is quite possible she's taken it farther than expected, but that doesnt mean she's crazy, cut her some slack...
and perhaps u were extremely clear on your thoughts with her jersey hun, but maybe it's one of those situations where u really gotta keep repeating it for it 2 register with her

we don't know the whole situation so instead of writing off either side as this n that, ask more questions...after all it was posted for us to read...

jerseykrs said:

Did you lead her on or something? Come clean.

kidelrich said:

sometimes guys are so dumb they don't realize they're doing it...so

Here's the whole situation. You start out being friendly with someone, clearly stating you don't want anything else. They constantly bring up how much they like you and want more, and then you finally have to say bluntly that won't be happening. So there it is.

jerseykrs said:

If you said it bluntly, then you've put it out there. BUT...

If you made up some excuse to make it easier on yourself(or if you thought doing so would make it easier on her), then you shouldn't be surprised. Most people aren't completely honest with each other. Even the ones who say they are. Me=experience on this topic.

Moving in the middle of night has a certain charm to it.

jerseykrs said:

well?
there's nothing more u can do now is there.

kidelrich said:

I am an honest person, I would rather hurt someones feelings with my honesty than lie about something. Most people DON'T want to hear why you are not interested in them, yet they still ask. So, when I honestly tell them why, it gets turned around. Whatever, I, for one, find this message funny. Damn bleeding hearts on this board today.....

jerseykrs said:

Did you say bluntly that it won't be happening?

Send her a link to this thread so she can see how you react to pressure!

applekisses said:

hence the voicemail.

jerseykrs said:

It sounds like you did as well as anyone could.

jerseykrs said:

OK, I didn't get that the voicemail was a response to you saying 'no way'.

jerseykrs said:

Well, she's obviously not getting the message.

kidelrich said:

souded more like a voicemail before the email...

applekisses said:

then again...

All I know is that for her to treat it so seriously means that she's probably had her heart crushed before. I can see the humor I guess, but I'm not in a humorous mood, so I just feel bad for her. Life isn't easy.

kidelrich said:

yeh, i didnt find it funny either.

i can't believe you actually posted that for all of us to hear.

i'm sorry, that just seems wrong.

poor girl, maybe she'll get some self esteem and move it along



however, i do know what you are saying, some people really NEVER get it even when you are very blunt about not being into them. I've dealt with men, well one particular man, who kept on asking me out even though i repeatedly turned him down. he was nice but i just wasn't interested. it got to the point where i just had to ignore him completely and not even talk to him because every time i did he would ask me out.


it can be maddening.
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