At what point did you 'grow up'?

At what point did you become a man or a woman?

Have you grown up yet?

Was there a specific event?


These'll probably seem like weird questions but something I posted yesterday reminded of a few things.


A few weeks back, I went to see the George Michael documentary, 'A Different Story', and - at one point - he discusses the exact moment that he 'grew up'. I can't remember the precise details but I'm pretty sure it was in the week his mother died. He described how, overnight, his whole outlook changed and he became a man, so to speak.

Yesterday, I posted something about one of my mates and described her a 'girl'. This 'girl' is 32 in October but - even though it's just a phrase - at what point does this become redundant?

I always remember, years ago - when I used to work in this shop - I'd be on the cash desk and some Mum or Dad would come in with their kids and say "Give the money to the man". I'd be, like, '"Where?? Where's this man??!" almost and, of course, they meant me. Maybe that says a whole lot more about me, perhaps.


So at what point did you grow up?

You lost me at "George Michael Documentary"....

In all seriousness...it was day 2 of basic training in the Air Force.... everything changed for me that day on... (I was almost 19)...

I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to answer this question but - if I had to choose an event - I'd say the ball started rolling when I went to Uni.

pardonme4livin said:

That must be a LOT to deal with at that age...

The day I opened up my mouth to my grandmother and told her to mind her business when it comes to raising my kids.

Romera said:

Whew!

What was grandma's reaction??

onenitealone said:

Oh Oh!!!....I have a guess.....

onenitealone said:

She wasn't happy but since I float her house and my house, she left me alone. She tries to give her two cents now and then but I don't take it anymore. I used to just keep my mouth shut all the time. I was over thirty before I felt people in my family treated me as an adult.

pardonme4livin said:

She's 82 and I'm the only one doing jack shit for her and she has six kids living.

Romera said:

You tell 'er!

Well, they are your kids after all. And I've read before about how much attention you have to give your son.

I hope Grandma listens.

I'd have to say the same as George did, actually... the day my Mum died my life did a complete and utter 360 degree change that day and hasn't really stopped much since

this... from someone who doesn't deal well at all with change

between the ages of 7 and 9...kind of a long story.

fragile said:

and I forgot to add that in many ways I still don't really feel "grown up" ...still feel very childish in different ways

fragile said:

I'm not sure I know anyone who thrives on change, hun. You're not alone.

But looking at the woman you turned out to be, I think your Mum would be VERY proud.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

I think I might know what this refers to - only based on things you've posted before - and, if I'm right,

At what point did you 'grow up'? I am still growing and hope to til the day i die

At what point did you become a man or a woman? I am in a constant state of becomming the woman i intend to be

Have you grown up yet? No ... what exacly IS grown up anyway ??

Was there a specific event? thousands of them daily ..everyday

staying in the flow and aware of constant growth should happen daily

CalhounSq said:

Nah - scrap that.

pfffffthahahahahaha... me?. grow up?.... you gotta be fuckin kiddin'

IAintTheOne said:

Mach said:

I love you, Mach.

No kidding - just before I'd posted this thread, I saw your response on another one and I wondered if you would respond to this. And I thought I might get the sort of response you gave.

And you're absolutely right.

IAintTheOne said:

onenitealone said:

I can only hope so, hon...

onenitealone said:

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

I love you Dej.

IAintTheOne said:

I don't wanna grow up, I'm a Toys R Us Kid....

I'm gonna be 80 years old, living in Kook Mansions, sucking on lollipops and still sliding down bannisters.

onenitealone said:

Mach said:

Back atcha.

in 2 weeks im going to Disney and Knott's and its my very 1st time going to both and im expected to be "Grown????" oh shit nooooo....