Graycap23 said: Mach said: when hell freezes over I hear you. That leads me to a second point. Why do so many women accept the anti-abortion movement? I have NEVER understood that. Men should NOT be making laws that effect women's bodies. You so rock! | |
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Spats said: Graycap23 said: What about in situations where the husband does NOT want kids and the wife does? Any woman who wants kids is a dumbass for having sex with a guy that does not want kids. the having sex part no, pressuring to have a baby yes. | |
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JustErin said: Romera said: What I don't get is how men don't get the labels that women do when they abandon their kids.
Are you kidding me? Deadbeat dads are looked at as the scum of the earth, and rightfully so. Basically, women have the legal right to choose if they want to raise their child or not, men are not given these same choices. If a man is forced to support a child he did not wish to have, so should a woman (if she decides to not raise it herself.) Ok, that's putting it really simply. I know it's really much more complicated than that, but I think it's about responsibilty on both their parts. No one should be able to just walk away. That's where it gets complicated for me. If either wants to walk away, they should NOT have the kid in the first place. | |
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JustErin said: Romera said: What I don't get is how men don't get the labels that women do when they abandon their kids.
Are you kidding me? Deadbeat dads are looked at as the scum of the earth, and rightfully so. Basically, women have the legal right to choose if they want to raise their child or not, men are not given these same choices. If a man is forced to support a child he did not wish to have, so should a woman (if she decides to not raise it herself.) Ok, that's putting it really simply. I know it's really much more complicated than that, but I think it's about responsibilty on both their parts. No one should be able to just walk away. when my parents divorced me and my sister stayed with my mother while my dad (who lived a few blocks down) kept my younger brother and sister, my mother had to pay child support i know alot of women who children by men who have simply walked away. and its very hard to acquire child support from someone who is unemployed. as for paying for a child that he did not wish to have it goes back to what was said before-use protection or don't do it. its not complicated t all i dont' think. | |
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Spats said: Graycap23 said: What about in situations where the husband does NOT want kids and the wife does? Any woman who wants kids is a dumbass for having sex with a guy that does not want kids. How about... any man who doesn't want kids should do everything in his power not to get a woman pregnant. Do you ever put ANY responsibility on the man? But that's just in general... In the case of people who are married but want different things it's really a gamble - they're BOTH idiots for marrying b/c the shit will come up & be a major issue... . [Edited 5/12/06 9:28am] | |
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Romera said: alwayslate said: divorce and give up all parental rights. and don't come looking for handouts when junior gets drafted into the NBA. Brings to mind Shaq's real dad. Asshole. yup, that is precisely who i was referring to. and let's not forget Tupac's father. These are the same bums that wanna show up on Graduation Day and at weddings and awards ceremonies looking for a congratulatory pat on the back from the child they refused to raise. The same bitch-ass men who wanna sell lies to tabloids and shit when the kid grows up and gets rich and famous talking 'bout "well i tried to be around for them but their mother did this and their mother did that and she wouldn't let me in the kid's life and boohoohoo..." yeah i think just like people are always claiming abortion as a way out of parenthood for women, give men a way out, too. Just make it so that it is documented that they made the choice and that they STAY out forever; regrets or not. and they can't blame MOM for them never being around for the child. | |
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alwayslate said: Romera said: Brings to mind Shaq's real dad. Asshole. yup, that is precisely who i was referring to. and let's not forget Tupac's father. These are the same bums that wanna show up on Graduation Day and at weddings and awards ceremonies looking for a congratulatory pat on the back from the child they refused to raise. The same bitch-ass men who wanna sell lies to tabloids and shit when the kid grows up and gets rich and famous talking 'bout "well i tried to be around for them but their mother did this and their mother did that and she wouldn't let me in the kid's life and boohoohoo..." yeah i think just like people are always claiming abortion as a way out of parenthood for women, give men a way out, too. Just make it so that it is documented that they made the choice and that they STAY out forever; regrets or not. and they can't blame MOM for them never being around for the child. | |
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CalhounSq said: Spats said: Any woman who wants kids is a dumbass for having sex with a guy that does not want kids. How about... any man who doesn't want kids should do everything in his power not to get a woman pregnant. Do you ever put ANY responsibility on the man? But that's just in general... In the case of people who are married but want different things it's really a gamble - they're BOTH idiots for marrying b/c the shit will come up & be a major issue... I agree. Any guys who do not want kids should stay far away from women who do want them. That's what i do. Any woman i am with who shows interest in wanting kids in the near future is crossed off my list. It's over. But the woman is the one who is going to carry it so it's a much bigger risk for her. Which makes her the dumber one if she does it. . [Edited 5/12/06 9:28am] | |
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Spats said: CalhounSq said: How about... any man who doesn't want kids should do everything in his power not to get a woman pregnant. Do you ever put ANY responsibility on the man? But that's just in general... In the case of people who are married but want different things it's really a gamble - they're BOTH idiots for marrying b/c the shit will come up & be a major issue... I agree. Any guys who do not want kids should stay far away from women who do want them. That's what i do. Any woman i am with who shows interest in wanting kids in the near future is crossed off my list. It's over. But the woman is the one who is going to carry it so it's a much bigger risk for her. Which makes her the dumber one if she does it. Do you ever answer the question at hand or do you just go off on your own bullshit? How is it "dumber" for the woman if the woman is the one who wants the child? She's getting what she wants so how is she dumber in that instance? Simply b/c in your world the woman is always the dumb one? | |
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CalhounSq said: Spats said: I agree. Any guys who do not want kids should stay far away from women who do want them. That's what i do. Any woman i am with who shows interest in wanting kids in the near future is crossed off my list. It's over. But the woman is the one who is going to carry it so it's a much bigger risk for her. Which makes her the dumber one if she does it. Do you ever answer the question at hand or do you just go off on your own bullshit? How is it "dumber" for the woman if the woman is the one who wants the child? She's getting what she wants so how is she dumber in that instance? Simply b/c in your world the woman is always the dumb one? She is the dumber one because if she has sex with a man that does not want kids then she can very easily wind up a single parent or glued to a man who will resent her and the kid forever. Either way she is making her life difficult. Why put yourself in that position? It's stupid. | |
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Spats said: CalhounSq said: Do you ever answer the question at hand or do you just go off on your own bullshit? How is it "dumber" for the woman if the woman is the one who wants the child? She's getting what she wants so how is she dumber in that instance? Simply b/c in your world the woman is always the dumb one? She is the dumber one because if she has sex with a man that does not want kids then she can very easily wind up a single parent or glued to a man who will resent her and the kid forever. Either way she is making her life difficult. Why put yourself in that position? It's stupid. That must be a risk she's willing to take going in. So if she has the kid she wants (even while putting her marriage in danger, which they were both willing to do by not seeing eye to eye on kids in the first place) I don't see how SHE'S the dumber one. He'll be the one coming out of pocket w/ child support should they divorce. | |
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brownsugar said: as for paying for a child that he did not wish to have it goes back to what was said before-use protection or don't do it. its not complicated t all i dont' think.
Telling humans not to have sex is UN-realistic. | |
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Graycap23 said: brownsugar said: as for paying for a child that he did not wish to have it goes back to what was said before-use protection or don't do it. its not complicated t all i dont' think.
Telling humans not to have sex is UN-realistic. thats not what i said. i said use protection. | |
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CalhounSq said: Spats said: She is the dumber one because if she has sex with a man that does not want kids then she can very easily wind up a single parent or glued to a man who will resent her and the kid forever. Either way she is making her life difficult. Why put yourself in that position? It's stupid. That must be a risk she's willing to take going in. So if she has the kid she wants (even while putting her marriage in danger, which they were both willing to do by not seeing eye to eye on kids in the first place) I don't see how SHE'S the dumber one. He'll be the one coming out of pocket w/ child support should they divorce. Then it makes her dumb and a bitch for knowingly having sex with a man who does not want to have kids. She is about as selfish as it gets. | |
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brownsugar said: Graycap23 said: Telling humans not to have sex is UN-realistic. thats not what i said. i said use protection. protection is NOT 100% | |
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Spats said: CalhounSq said: That must be a risk she's willing to take going in. So if she has the kid she wants (even while putting her marriage in danger, which they were both willing to do by not seeing eye to eye on kids in the first place) I don't see how SHE'S the dumber one. He'll be the one coming out of pocket w/ child support should they divorce. Then it makes her dumb and a bitch for knowingly having sex with a man who does not want to have kids. She is about as selfish as it gets. damn why she gotta be a bitch it takes two ya know? | |
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brownsugar said: JustErin said: Are you kidding me? Deadbeat dads are looked at as the scum of the earth, and rightfully so. Basically, women have the legal right to choose if they want to raise their child or not, men are not given these same choices. If a man is forced to support a child he did not wish to have, so should a woman (if she decides to not raise it herself.) Ok, that's putting it really simply. I know it's really much more complicated than that, but I think it's about responsibilty on both their parts. No one should be able to just walk away. when my parents divorced me and my sister stayed with my mother while my dad (who lived a few blocks down) kept my younger brother and sister, my mother had to pay child support i know alot of women who children by men who have simply walked away. and its very hard to acquire child support from someone who is unemployed. as for paying for a child that he did not wish to have it goes back to what was said before-use protection or don't do it. its not complicated t all i dont' think. That's not what I am talking about. What I am saying is, a woman can decide to give up her child as soon as it's born. If she chooses not to raise it, she can basically abandon it, no questions asked. A man does not have this choice. The woman gets to decide for him whether he will be responsible for the care of that child or not. He has NO say what-so-ever. The argument that if you don't want kids, you should have used protection is a valid one. However, it should also apply to the woman. If she didn't want to have children she should have used protection. If she didn't, and she has a child, she should held responsible for that child just as much as a man is, even if she decides she doesn't want to raise it. It is all very complicated. It's all about the rights of each individual, including the rights of the child. | |
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Graycap23 said: brownsugar said: thats not what i said. i said use protection. protection is NOT 100% okay well then dont do it | |
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Spats said: CalhounSq said: That must be a risk she's willing to take going in. So if she has the kid she wants (even while putting her marriage in danger, which they were both willing to do by not seeing eye to eye on kids in the first place) I don't see how SHE'S the dumber one. He'll be the one coming out of pocket w/ child support should they divorce. Then it makes her dumb and a bitch for knowingly having sex with a man who does not want to have kids. She is about as selfish as it gets. Why do you keep ignoring the man's responsibility in this??? HE would be DUMB for getting her pregnant in the first place!!! | |
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JustErin said: brownsugar said: when my parents divorced me and my sister stayed with my mother while my dad (who lived a few blocks down) kept my younger brother and sister, my mother had to pay child support i know alot of women who children by men who have simply walked away. and its very hard to acquire child support from someone who is unemployed. as for paying for a child that he did not wish to have it goes back to what was said before-use protection or don't do it. its not complicated t all i dont' think. That's not what I am talking about. What I am saying is, a woman can decide to give up her child as soon as it's born. If she chooses not to raise it, she can basically abandon it, no questions asked. A man does not have this choice. The woman gets to decide for him whether he will be responsible for the care of that child or not. He has NO say what-so-ever. The argument that if you don't want kids, you should have used protection is a valid one. However, it should also apply to the woman. If she didn't want to have children she should have used protection. If she didn't, and she has a child, she should held responsible for that child just as much as a man is, even if she decides she doesn't want to raise it. It is all very complicated. It's all about the rights of each individual, including the rights of the child. well i agree that it should also apply to women. my statement was just dont have a baby. period. and that will satisfy both parties. and it just so happens that throughout history the woman is often left with the most responsibility in raising a child so unfortunately the man sometimes gets the short end of the stick when it comes to the welfare of the child. | |
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brownsugar said: Spats said: Then it makes her dumb and a bitch for knowingly having sex with a man who does not want to have kids. She is about as selfish as it gets. damn why she gotta be a bitch it takes two ya know? Because she does not care that the guy does not want to have kids and will still have sex with him knowing she can easily get pregnant. | |
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Spats said: brownsugar said: damn why she gotta be a bitch it takes two ya know? Because she does not care that the guy does not want to have kids and will still have sex with him knowing she can easily get pregnant. and thats why whomever really doesnt want to have a child should use protection if they deal with some one like that....damn i feel like i'm talkin in circles | |
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CalhounSq said: Spats said: Then it makes her dumb and a bitch for knowingly having sex with a man who does not want to have kids. She is about as selfish as it gets. Why do you keep ignoring the man's responsibility in this??? HE would be DUMB for getting her pregnant in the first place!!! Yes he would be dumb for having sex with a woman who wants kids. That's why i am advising guys who don't want kids to stay away from women who do. That's what i do. | |
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brownsugar said: JustErin said: That's not what I am talking about. What I am saying is, a woman can decide to give up her child as soon as it's born. If she chooses not to raise it, she can basically abandon it, no questions asked. A man does not have this choice. The woman gets to decide for him whether he will be responsible for the care of that child or not. He has NO say what-so-ever. The argument that if you don't want kids, you should have used protection is a valid one. However, it should also apply to the woman. If she didn't want to have children she should have used protection. If she didn't, and she has a child, she should held responsible for that child just as much as a man is, even if she decides she doesn't want to raise it. It is all very complicated. It's all about the rights of each individual, including the rights of the child. well i agree that it should also apply to women. my statement was just dont have a baby. period. and that will satisfy both parties. and it just so happens that throughout history the woman is often left with the most responsibility in raising a child so unfortunately the man sometimes gets the short end of the stick when it comes to the welfare of the child. Well, you certainly don't have to explain that to me. I am a single mom. I'm just very annoyed by people who do not take responsibility for their own actions. But I suppose "taking responisbility" can be pretty subjective. This is why I find the whole issue to be very complicated. | |
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i really, really wish that a required class in high school for ALL teens should be 1) the human body - procreation 101 - kids should know exactly what their bodies do and how; and 2) civic law - paternity suits 101.
guys would probably be too scared to ever have sex if they were to understand that, once the sperm leaves their body, they have NO rights when it comes to deciding what happens next. the law is certainly skewed in favor of the woman in these matters (for the good of the resulting child); the guy cannot force a woman he's impregnated to have an abortion, but he can be forced to udnergo DNA testing to prove paternity, and he can be forced to pay child support. | |
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Graycap23 said: Mach said: when hell freezes over I hear you. That leads me to a second point. Why do so many women accept the anti-abortion movement? I have NEVER understood that. Men should NOT be making laws that effect women's bodies. I agree, she carries it for about 9 months and squeezes it out, and has so much pain. | |
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JustErin said: brownsugar said: well i agree that it should also apply to women. my statement was just dont have a baby. period. and that will satisfy both parties. and it just so happens that throughout history the woman is often left with the most responsibility in raising a child so unfortunately the man sometimes gets the short end of the stick when it comes to the welfare of the child. Well, you certainly don't have to explain that to me. I am a single mom. I'm just very annoyed by people who do not take responsibility for their own actions. But I suppose "taking responisbility" can be pretty subjective. This is why I find the whole issue to be very complicated. I have a son and a daughter.....I almost have to TEACH them 2 entirely different things when it comes to this subject. | |
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Women who play games, manipulate and lie to get pregnant should be flogged in the streets. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Women who play games, manipulate and lie to get pregnant should be flogged in the streets.
No doubt. There are SEVERAL of them running around. Especially if they "think" you have some money. | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Women who play games, manipulate and lie to get pregnant should be flogged in the streets.
I agree! They should just do what those gals in the lesbian bar were talking about! | |
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