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PrintableJustErin said: Spats said: Yeah but i would have been playing into her game. Nope, can't do it. What she should have done is ask for my number. I would have given it to her and then she could have called me to go out and i would have gone.. Everything would have worked out fine. But like most women she wanted me to come to her. Or i should have just given her my number so that would force her to do the calling. You do realize that by doing this you are playing the "game" just as much as she is. If you wanna see her, call, if not don't. She should do the same. It really doesn't have to be about games at all. Why people make their (dating) lives so difficult is beyond me. I would like to see her again but not on those terms. I am not playing a game. I don't approach women and do the asking out anymore. That's not a game with me. It's the way i am now. | |
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CalhounSq said: JustErin said: You do realize that by doing this you are playing the "game" just as much as she is. If you wanna see her, call, if not don't. She should do the same. It really doesn't have to be about games at all. Why people make their (dating) lives so difficult is beyond me. In "Spats' world" any woman who wants anything is automatically playing a game or pigeon holed into some role - needy, controlling, whatever he can think up. Women are the enemy to him. He wants them to come to him, give him sex (exactly the way he wants it) & get the fuck out. He has no idea how full of shit this is. He really should just save up for whores & be done with it.  Women are not the enemy to me. What's wrong with wanting them to come to me? It's about time women did the approaching. And what's wrong with wanting sex from them? And the only time i ever told them to get out is if they started crap with me. It's my home so i have very right to do that. | |
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Spats said: JustErin said: You do realize that by doing this you are playing the "game" just as much as she is. If you wanna see her, call, if not don't. She should do the same. It really doesn't have to be about games at all. Why people make their (dating) lives so difficult is beyond me. I would like to see her again but not on those terms. I am not playing a game. I don't approach women and do the asking out anymore. That's not a game with me. It's the way i am now. See, I don't like to make the first move myself because I find a guy that makes the first move shows confidence, and that's really sexy to me...but once I have actually hung out with the person I'll call them if I wanna see them. It would be silly to just sit back and wait. If he wants to see me and is free he should call and ask if I am free too. To me, to not do that seems like game playing or the guy lives by some silly set of rules. If some guy I liked did that I would get really turned off and would move on to someone else. I like things to flow naturally, not as per some rulebook. | |
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I would never go out with a girl that bites dust. That's a disgusting habit!  When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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Spats said: Women who have their shit together are independant, strong, not old fashioned, do not believe in gender roles and do not "need" lots and lots of attention. They are hard to find. As they wouldn't be caught dead with...  | |
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bkw said: I would never go out with a girl that bites dust. That's a disgusting habit!
but dust is not fattening
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charlottegelin said: bkw said: I would never go out with a girl that bites dust. That's a disgusting habit!
but dust is not fattening
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JustErin said: Spats said: I would like to see her again but not on those terms. I am not playing a game. I don't approach women and do the asking out anymore. That's not a game with me. It's the way i am now. See, I don't like to make the first move myself because I find a guy that makes the first move shows confidence, and that's really sexy to me...but once I have actually hung out with the person I'll call them if I wanna see them. It would be silly to just sit back and wait. If he wants to see me and is free he should call and ask if I am free too. To me, to not do that seems like game playing or the guy lives by some silly set of rules. If some guy I liked did that I would get really turned off and would move on to someone else. I like things to flow naturally, not as per some rulebook. I wouldn't call them rules but there are certain things i will not do. And approaching women is one of them. I prefer they do it. It's about time women started doing it. Women claim they want to be equals, or modern day women, well prove it. Most women are not backing up those words. And it's a big turn on when they do. Women usally are the ones who decide if a relationship goes anywhere because they make the guy do all the approaching and first moves. I like having that power to decide if anything is going to happen. | |
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JustErin said: Spats said: I would like to see her again but not on those terms. I am not playing a game. I don't approach women and do the asking out anymore. That's not a game with me. It's the way i am now. See, I don't like to make the first move myself because I find a guy that makes the first move shows confidence, and that's really sexy to me...but once I have actually hung out with the person I'll call them if I wanna see them. It would be silly to just sit back and wait. If he wants to see me and is free he should call and ask if I am free too. To me, to not do that seems like game playing or the guy lives by some silly set of rules. If some guy I liked did that I would get really turned off and would move on to someone else. I like things to flow naturally, not as per some rulebook. | |
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JustErin said: Spats said: I would like to see her again but not on those terms. I am not playing a game. I don't approach women and do the asking out anymore. That's not a game with me. It's the way i am now. See, I don't like to make the first move myself because I find a guy that makes the first move shows confidence, and that's really sexy to me...but once I have actually hung out with the person I'll call them if I wanna see them. It would be silly to just sit back and wait. If he wants to see me and is free he should call and ask if I am free too. To me, to not do that seems like game playing or the guy lives by some silly set of rules. If some guy I liked did that I would get really turned off and would move on to someone else. I like things to flow naturally, not as per some rulebook. | |
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Spats said: JustErin said: See, I don't like to make the first move myself because I find a guy that makes the first move shows confidence, and that's really sexy to me...but once I have actually hung out with the person I'll call them if I wanna see them. It would be silly to just sit back and wait. If he wants to see me and is free he should call and ask if I am free too. To me, to not do that seems like game playing or the guy lives by some silly set of rules. If some guy I liked did that I would get really turned off and would move on to someone else. I like things to flow naturally, not as per some rulebook. I wouldn't call them rules but there are certain things i will not do. And approaching women is one of them. I prefer they do it. It's about time women started doing it. Women claim they want to be equals, or modern day women, well prove it. Most women are not backing up those words. And it's a big turn on when they do. Women usally are the ones who decide if a relationship goes anywhere because they make the guy do all the approaching and first moves. I like having that power to decide if anything is going to happen. How much success does this reap? You think that this will filter out all the, "crap," but what does this leave you with. And, if a woman does approach you what other criteria will you use to ultimately dismiss her? | |
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sj1600 said: Spats said: I wouldn't call them rules but there are certain things i will not do. And approaching women is one of them. I prefer they do it. It's about time women started doing it. Women claim they want to be equals, or modern day women, well prove it. Most women are not backing up those words. And it's a big turn on when they do. Women usally are the ones who decide if a relationship goes anywhere because they make the guy do all the approaching and first moves. I like having that power to decide if anything is going to happen. How much success does this reap? You think that this will filter out all the, "crap," but what does this leave you with. And, if a woman does approach you what other criteria will you use to ultimately dismiss her? That's how i got most of my girlfriends.  There are women out there that like guys who play hard to get. That's who i have hooked up with. They are not the majority though. Most do the "old fashioned" routine of waiting for him to do what they think men are supposed to do.
When a woman does approach i judge her looks. If she is hot or at least very cute then i am in. I will dismiss them if they are plain janes or ugos. | |
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sj1600 said: Spats said: I wouldn't call them rules but there are certain things i will not do. And approaching women is one of them. I prefer they do it. It's about time women started doing it. Women claim they want to be equals, or modern day women, well prove it. Most women are not backing up those words. And it's a big turn on when they do. Women usally are the ones who decide if a relationship goes anywhere because they make the guy do all the approaching and first moves. I like having that power to decide if anything is going to happen. How much success does this reap? You think that this will filter out all the, "crap," but what does this leave you with. And, if a woman does approach you what other criteria will you use to ultimately dismiss her? | |
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Spats said: sj1600 said: How much success does this reap? You think that this will filter out all the, "crap," but what does this leave you with. And, if a woman does approach you what other criteria will you use to ultimately dismiss her? That's how i got most of my girlfriends. There are women out there that like guys who play hard to get. That's who i have hooked up with. They are not the majority though. Most do the "old fashioned" routine of waiting for him to do what they think men are supposed to do.
When a woman does approach i judge her looks. If she is hot or at least very cute then i am in. I will dismiss them if they are plain janes or ugos. 
Spats, I don't know whether to laugh or cry! | |
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sj1600 said: Spats said: That's how i got most of my girlfriends. There are women out there that like guys who play hard to get. That's who i have hooked up with. They are not the majority though. Most do the "old fashioned" routine of waiting for him to do what they think men are supposed to do.
When a woman does approach i judge her looks. If she is hot or at least very cute then i am in. I will dismiss them if they are plain janes or ugos.
Spats, I don't know whether to laugh or cry!  | |
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sj1600 said: Spats said: That's how i got most of my girlfriends. There are women out there that like guys who play hard to get. That's who i have hooked up with. They are not the majority though. Most do the "old fashioned" routine of waiting for him to do what they think men are supposed to do.
When a woman does approach i judge her looks. If she is hot or at least very cute then i am in. I will dismiss them if they are plain janes or ugos.
Spats, I don't know whether to laugh or cry! he IS entitled to his preferences and at least he's being honest | |
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XxAxX said: sj1600 said:
Spats, I don't know whether to laugh or cry! he IS entitled to his preferences and at least he's being honest Absolutely, I'm not taking the piss - just having a laugh and a discussion with him!  | |
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sj1600 said: XxAxX said: he IS entitled to his preferences and at least he's being honest Absolutely, I'm not taking the piss - just having a laugh and a discussion with him! and that's the best way to enjoy spats. he's smart, outspoken, and definitely a few standard deviations from the norm. more power to Spats! he reminds me of someone i used to know.....right down to the coffeeshop thing and all.....  [Edited 5/16/06 10:29am] | |
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uPtoWnNY said: Same 'ol story....meet girl, date for a while, have a great time, then girl gets upset because I have no intention of buying a place together and getting married(ever). Where is it written that you have to live with the person you're dating? Seesh!! I always seem to attract women who want to get hitched - just my luck.
You don't have to stack up single with a woman if you don't want to. And if you ever decided to get married at all, write up/type up a pre-nuptial agreement. | |
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Spats said: sj1600 said: How much success does this reap? You think that this will filter out all the, "crap," but what does this leave you with. And, if a woman does approach you what other criteria will you use to ultimately dismiss her? That's how i got most of my girlfriends. There are women out there that like guys who play hard to get. That's who i have hooked up with. They are not the majority though. Most do the "old fashioned" routine of waiting for him to do what they think men are supposed to do. I used to approach guys first who played hard to get. Then time after time...I realized they were a bunch of assholes. When I closed that phase in my life for good, I ended up getting married. It still needs some work though.  | |
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XxAxX said: sj1600 said: Absolutely, I'm not taking the piss - just having a laugh and a discussion with him! he's smart I really can't agree with that part | |
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heartbeatocean said: Spats said: That's how i got most of my girlfriends. There are women out there that like guys who play hard to get. That's who i have hooked up with. They are not the majority though. Most do the "old fashioned" routine of waiting for him to do what they think men are supposed to do. I used to approach guys first who played hard to get. Then time after time...I realized they were a bunch of assholes. When I closed that phase in my life for good, I ended up getting married. It still needs some work though. I seldom ever need to do it but I actually will approach a guy if I haven't been able to get his attention from a distance. If he doesn't bite immediately I'm so outta there. Playing hard to get is just lame. If you're into me, show it. If you don't show it I'll just assume you're not interested and I'll disappear. I seriously have no time or patience for shit like that. Like XxAxX, I think Spats is smart and I too know someone that is so much like him I was almost convinced it was him for a while. | |
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i don't think i'm the marrying type...perhaps its that i haven't met the right guy but i get bored and restless around the 2 year mark. i already have a child and don't want anymore. i get lonely now and then but i value my time and my space....maybe i'm the perfect girl...
you're only as old as you feel..............so how old do i feel 
Now that food has replaced sex in my life, I can't even get into my own pants. | |
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lillith said: i don't think i'm the marrying type...perhaps its that i haven't met the right guy but i get bored and restless around the 2 year mark. i already have a child and don't want anymore. i get lonely now and then but i value my time and my space....maybe i'm the perfect girl...
I think more and more of us are realizing that marriage ain't what it's cracked up to be. I can't see myself getting hitched either. A long term relationship, for sure...but no marriage. | |
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JustErin said: lillith said: i don't think i'm the marrying type...perhaps its that i haven't met the right guy but i get bored and restless around the 2 year mark. i already have a child and don't want anymore. i get lonely now and then but i value my time and my space....maybe i'm the perfect girl...
I think more and more of us are realizing that marriage ain't what it's cracked up to be. I can't see myself getting hitched either. A long term relationship, for sure...but no marriage. I get annoyed when folks think there's something wrong with me because I'm not a believer in marriage. Sometimes I want to tell people to STFU, leave me alone and worry about your own useless life. | |
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uPtoWnNY said: JustErin said: I think more and more of us are realizing that marriage ain't what it's cracked up to be. I can't see myself getting hitched either. A long term relationship, for sure...but no marriage. I get annoyed when folks think there's something wrong with me because I'm not a believer in marriage. Sometimes I want to tell people to STFU, leave me alone and worry about your own useless life.
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uPtoWnNY said: JustErin said: I think more and more of us are realizing that marriage ain't what it's cracked up to be. I can't see myself getting hitched either. A long term relationship, for sure...but no marriage. I get annoyed when folks think there's something wrong with me because I'm not a believer in marriage. Sometimes I want to tell people to STFU, leave me alone and worry about your own useless life. and how many folks tell you don't worry, you just haven't found the right girl yet 
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JustErin said: heartbeatocean said: I used to approach guys first who played hard to get. Then time after time...I realized they were a bunch of assholes. When I closed that phase in my life for good, I ended up getting married. It still needs some work though. I seldom ever need to do it but I actually will approach a guy if I haven't been able to get his attention from a distance. If he doesn't bite immediately I'm so outta there. Playing hard to get is just lame. If you're into me, show it. If you don't show it I'll just assume you're not interested and I'll disappear. I seriously have no time or patience for shit like that. Like XxAxX, I think Spats is smart and I too know someone that is so much like him I was almost convinced it was him for a while. I can't help it but i love watching a woman work hard to get my attention. Because women rarely work hard to get guys attention. It's a perverse pleasure for me i guess. I get off on watching them give me hints that they are interested and then watching them wonder why i am not responding. Watching the frustration. Is that sick? I think women get extra interested when a guy isn't coming on to them because they are so used to men doing that.
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XxAxX said:[quote] sj1600 said: Absolutely, I'm not taking the piss - just having a laugh and a discussion with him! and that's the best way to enjoy spats. he's smart, outspoken, and definitely a few standard deviations from the norm. more power to Spats! he reminds me of someone i used to know.....right down to the coffeeshop thing and all.....
Thanks XxAxX. Some of that is not intentional and some of it comes naturally. But I am not gonna tell anyone which is which. [Edited 5/17/06 11:13am] | |
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