Romera said:

Thanks ya'll! After a good nights rest and a box of Pop Tarts, I have decided to tell Numb Nuts to fend for himself like I did when I went to visit in Miami. I was just hella pissed! for him! A great big to you guys!

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Hey BSugar! What's poppin?

ShySlantedEye1 said:

hey nuthin much, takin' a breather between finals. i have a class at 630 (its 4:38pm in chicago) and its my last for the summer!!! . when i get a chance i'll post my beginning digital photos. but yeah girl you don't need toxic bitches in your life your son will understand.

hopefully you feel better because of the support you have here.

It's possible that the dad is a hero to your son just because your son doesn't really know him, he just fills in what he doesn't know with fantasy. Let your son meet his dad, and find out what a true asshole he is. YOU however, aren't responsible for the transportation

he needs to be a man and find his own damn way to see his child, you've cut him enough slack over the years. you may not think it's fair to your child, but it's not fair to your child that your ex has been such a no-good cheapskate over the years. no way would i help him out. he needs to understand the value of making an effort and making sacrifices for the sake of his child. if he really wants to see the kid, he needs to figure it out for himself. as the child of a butthole absentee father myself, that's just how i feel about it.

Thank you! You could be my saving grace. I bought this digital computer and am trying to figure what I can do with 100 and 200 capabilities on this thing! Oh shit, how much time do have for this cake? Baking from scratch takes me a while but I do know some quick tricks you can use that taste awesome.

Has this brotha even noticed the price of gas?

DRIVE ME AROUND!

Oh hell no...

PurpleRein said:

My baby is already asking me questions about his father and he has not liked the answers I have given him. And the lack of gifts on birthday and holidays pretty much clued my baby in on his dad. I think it is just confrontation time between the two.

Revolution said:

That was the first thing that came to my mind and the thought of losing pay to switch my schedule was not appealing! From Bixby Knolls to Irvine to Pasadena and back. That is fifty bucks right there.

Anx said:

ShySlantedEye1 said:

if and when your son sees with his own eyes what an a-hole his dad is, he'll need your love and support...he might become angry at you...but hold him tight, don't let him go

The pissed off at Mom bullshit has already started. He is now seeing what is going on and beginning to apologize for his actions. I just keep praying.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

he sounds like he's being raised right...you're a good mom

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Firstly, you're the mother whom expects her children to address you as "Ma'am", aren't you? You were quite vocal in the "Spanking: Yes or No?"thread, I seem to remember... Interesting that your child's father attempted to arrest you for child-abuse.

Secondly, you shouldn't be bad-mouthing your son's father to him - whatever your personal feelings towards your ex. How can you decry the lack of involvement in your child's life when you have stated:



You know, be careful what you wish for and all that...

Thirdly, it seems the confrontation is between you and your ex-partner. You should be thinking about what's best for your child, regardless of his father's supposed short-comings.

Justin1972UK said:

Let me make this quick and simple. I have never disrespect my son father in front of him! And I mean mother fucking never! Two, Dingbat wants me to "make" my son call him every month. I will not do that. It is my baby that I am thinking of. I have subjected myself to a lot of bullshit so that they can stay in contact. Him calling my job and cursing me out has nothing to do with the welfare of my child. Telling my boss he is going to shoot him and me if he does not get me to call him when he wants. What the fuck is that? If I am not working and not getting child support who will be there financially for my child? He does not think of that. He just is an ass. Quits his job so that he does not have to pay child support for all of his four plus children. His theory is if he can't have my son he would rather see him in a foster home. He told his sister that he was going to find a girlfriend and get custody of all his children and make her take care of them. When he get's upset, he takes it out on folks around him including his children. If he doesn't have a woman or money in his pocket, he does not want to around anyone. My child does not want to be with his father if all he is going to do is drop my baby off at his current girlfriends house. It is because I kept my mouth shut that has caused the present confusion. I do not wish my son to get involved in our argument. His father makes it a point to discuss grown folks issues with my son and putting guilt trips on him. Dude had my child messed up with that mess and will not let him do it again. As far as him doing dumb shit to get me arrested, he has the same feelings as I do when it comes to being strict. He tried to use anything he could think of to get custody of my son. The funny part is the fact that when my son was asked by the judge about his parents activities, my baby told the court that his father does drugs and drinks excessively. I had no intentions of going that far but turnabout is fair play. Karma I guess. I do everything for the greater good of my baby. I appreciate all opinions whether I agree with them or not. It get's me closer to what I have to do by narrowing down my options. Do you have children? Just curious.

I did not mean to be so fucking long winded.

my mom and my dad used to try to play me against each other all the time after they got divorced. it was like watching those campaign smear ads on television. "your dad SAYS he can't afford to buy you that death star playset for christmas...is that why he just got cable television WITH HBO and cinemax?" or "your mom is supposed to be a stable caretaker for you, but all i ever see her do is scream at me. do you think a screaming woman is stable?"

shit, i was nine years old. whoever bought me a new star wars figure that week could sway my vote.

but as an adult, i look back on the whole thing as a farce, and i really wish they wouldn't have done that to me. what's more of a mindfuck is, everything both of them said was pretty much right, though described through a desperately slanted point of view.

i think divorced parents are a lot more sophisticated now than they were in the '70s when i was a kid.

Anx said:

My parents got divorced during the 70's and I don't remember them ever fighting in front of me. My sister said she remembers one argument but I don't remember anything. The only time I remember my mother showing her ass in front of us, was when my dad brought his fiance' to my birthday party. I think my aunt took her in the bathroom and slapped the shit out of her. My auntie did not play with acting out in public. My mom is nuts and I didn't figure out until now why my dad left her. Guilt trips, pity parties and emotional outburst over bullshit is crazy! Ergo, their divorce. From how my dad handle stuff I learned the most. One of the reasons why I won't do stuff in front of my baby. Now if you got a bar of chocolate some where, I got your back! I am cheap!

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Uh, he can take the fucking Metrolink to Irvine

ShySlantedEye1 said:

It's natural for your son to feel that way..... I was in a similar situation with my parents, but the difference is, my dad didn't want custody of me.

But I witnessed myself what my dad, as well as other men/deadbeats put my mom and all these moms through. In the passing years he's mellowed down, but when I was a kid, he was a muthafucka..... didn't give a damn about anyone but himself and thought he didn't need ANYBODY, including a kid. But what goes around, comes around.

But in the meantime Mama and I got on just fine, and later she had my sisters.....

But I praise you, as well as my mom, and others for bein strong women. Just hold on..... your baby will be 18 in no time; and trouble doesn't last always.

from the very small amount of info posted ...


I dont think I would feel the need to drive him anywhere

Mach said:

very well said....








walk away from that shit girl
and flip him off while you do it

Romera said:

Don't get me started. Don't EVEN get me started.

If he wants to see his child make that lazy ass rent a car or hop on a God-damn bus. Doesn't anybody know how to take a damn bus anymore.


There. I've said it. I respect the choice that you make though.

wooo that took a lot out of me....

Oh yeah, props to you for doing your thing without him!!!!!



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[Edited 5/10/06 9:19am]

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Girl, I think you answered your own question with this statement.


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