Just got a call from my ex/son's father and he asked me to drive him around while he is here on his work thing.

Here is the conflict:

1. Asshole does not call my child.
2. Tried to get me fired from my job and arrested for child abuse.
3. Is an idiot.
4. So far, the only money I have ever gotten from him was because I finally took him to court after all the years of shit I took from him. (I had to get him to leave me alone and taking his money was the only way to do it.) Basically, he hasn't spent more that $2500 in nine years. My baby is fifteen.

The only reason this is tripping me out is because if I don't help get a ride here, my baby won't see his dad and I know he wants to talk to him. Should this be my responsibility or should I make him wing it his first time in California? (Jackass if from Miami.)

Okay ya'll let's hear it! I have to make some kind of choice in twenty-four hours so that if need be I can switch schedules for one day to make sure this ass doesn't hurt my baby!

Fuck the dickhead, and your baby is better off without him. That's my honest opinion, and I know it won't be a popular one here. But you know, he's had plenty chances to show he wants to be a father, and from what I can tell, has gave TWO shits about it. So fuck his deadbeat ass.

Drive him around? What are you supposed to be, his maid/chaffeur??? What a user

Tell dingbat to rent a car! or better yet ask for money (prepay), make a $$$ off his ass. Don't let him control your life.

You are not beholding to him, you owe him nothing. He caused trouble in your life. You don't need anymore of his shit.

Don't even go there mama....The scrub is not worth it....Cause if he cared he would of been there from day 1.

jerseykrs said:

It really looks like this man is trying to save a few dollars by having you drive him around instead of renting a car.

As much as you want to please your son and protect him, their relationship is not your responsibility. Discuss this with your son.

If your ex is not willing to meet with your son unless you drive him everywhere he wants/needs to go while he is in CA, then he is manipulating you and your son.

The compromise would be to drive him to a meeting with his dad (knowing up front you will stay w/ your son for the meeting.)

Not an easy situation to be sure. Good luck!

Tell him to buy you a car, then you'll drive him around

luv4u said:

I know. I am in still in shock on this one. His audacity is a mother fucker! My child and his well being is what I am thinking of. I can tell my baby is ready to tell his father fuck you in his own way. I am just thinking of my baby right now and what is best for him.

I wouldn't drive him around or help him in any way, but I would tell him that his son wants to see him and see what he says.

If your son wishes to see his father, you should respect those wishes...however, you shouldn't have to make deals in order to get his father to see him.

If he chooses not to see him all you can do is be there for your son.

I'm sorry you and your baby are in this situation.

charlottegelin said:

Better yet...tell him to Fuck off...well that is what I would do anyway. But uhh that is just me.

Nothinbutjoy said:

The meeting will be with his therapist with folks around. I am not to sure about me being there alone with him. It will be supervised by someone. That is for sure. The way I feel right now I want to beat his ass for all the shit he has done to me in the past five years. Dude, called me the day of my sister's funeral at five in the morning talking shit. I have never gotten over that little tidbit.

notoriousj said:

Actually he should buy his son a car, it would redeem him somewhat.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

This guy sounds absolutely toxic. The more you say the more my gut screams DO NOT DRIVE THIS PRICK AROUND!!!!


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If I didn't work where I work, Lord knows it would be "Posse Up" time. My uncle and cousins would love to get a piece of his ass. This would not be the first time I had a street fight with a dude! Mother fucker has me over here eating bullshit!


Thank you, GD! Thank you, Matt, for the org! You are helping me maintain good eating habits! This is some bullshit!

ShySlantedEye1 said:[quote]Just got a call from my ex/son's father and he asked me to drive him around while he is here on his work thing.

Here is the CONFLICT:

1. Asshole does not call my child.
2. Tried to get me fired from my job and arrested for child abuse.
3. Is an idiot.
4. So far, the only money I have ever gotten from him was because I finally took him to court after all the years of shit I took from him. (I had to get him to leave me alone and taking his money was the only way to do it.) Basically, he hasn't spent more that $2500 in nine years. My baby is fifteen.

Can you can spend time with your ex/son's father without having a flashback?
go ahead - but keep in mind - your son is watching.....

How long is he going to be in town?

Sub

charlottegelin said:

No it wouldn't.

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Karma is a bitch

Subliminal said:[quote]

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Three days for work bullshit in Irvine. Yes, I will always have flashbacks when I am around him. He did some wicked shit to me.

Well, I have been through what you've been through and I have a different perspective on it. I would say HELL NO to driving him around, but I would allow my child to see the father even if the father is a piece of shit! Kill him with kindness . Show him that even though he is an asshole your a way betta woman than that. Just a viewpoint from sista to sista .

ShySlantedEye1 said:

not to you, it wouldn't make up for anything

luv4u said:[quote]ShySlantedEye1 said:[quote]

For me or him? The bible has a passage paraphrasing here, the gist is you can beat non-christian ass without penalties. At least that is what I am hoping on.

nurse said:

Exactly, not lowering yourself to his level is way more effective in getting any point across.

charlottegelin said:

Not referring to me. Every gift idiot has sent my son, my child did not like, it was cheap and broke. No imagine his ass trying to buy my baby a car? It would probably hurt my baby!

ShySlantedEye1 said:[quote]luv4u said:[quote]

ShySlantedEye1 said:

Karma will take care of him in time

ShySlantedEye1 said:

probably, well he should just stay away then

nurse said:

I have been the nice guy for years and I am sick of it. He can see his son. That is not the argument. I do not want anything to do with him while he is here.

How long is he going to be in town?

Sub

Three days for work bullshit in Irvine. Yes, I will always have flashbacks when I am around him. He did some wicked shit to me.[/quote]

Go ahead - do it for your son.

P.S. May sure your son's father spends more (quality) time with you son than you!!!

Sub my teeth grit for you!!

Subliminal said:

Go ahead - do it for your son.

P.S. May sure your son's father spends more (quality) time with you son than you!!!

Sub my teeth grit for you!![/quote]

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ShySlantedEye1 said:

jersey is right. he had every chance to be right in the beginning. fuck 'em.

brownsugar said:

High muthafuckin' five.

Fuck him girl. Fuck him right to hell.