SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

There's people I've come across that totally grind on my nerves for no good reason. I just get irritated by everything they do; the way they talk, their mannerisms, their personality, their attitude. They could be totally kind-hearted, nice people, that for whatever reason irk the living shit out of me. I guess it's just a clash of personalities or something, no big deal. And I'm sure I have the same effect on some people as well. If I sense someone really doesn't like me, even if I've done nothing bad to them, I guess in a way I can understand, I've been there before as well. I don't really take it personally, I just avoid them alltogether.

Though I try to not let it bother me too much, the truth is that if someone doesn't like me - and especially if I've never given them a specific reason not to - it does bother me.

CalhounSq said:

I understand exactly what you mean.

In fact, that very thing happened to me on this site recently.

In my opinion, unprovoked hostility or unnecessary interaction for the sole purpose of being rude and nasty just means that person must be secretly craving the attention of the one they're bothering/attacking/insulting.

WillyWonka said:

Oh man, that is sooooo true.

butterfli25 said:

agreed. It isn't about how they see you it is about how you see you.

WillyWonka said:

That's funny b/c I could so be accused of this on the Org Hadn't realized the irony

GlamSlamKidjr said:

There it is..... I would have added a few !!!!! and a though for added emphasis....

If someone doesn't like me, I'm fine with that. Just leave me alone. I know if I don't care for someone, I'm not going to pay them any attention. I mean, that's just the right way to handle that.

just comes to show that everybody is different...you walk around in life doing what you can to be happy for yourself, then you have other people around you...most will like you, some will not...

but at the end of the day, if you can still look yourself in the mirror with a smile...then the ones who don't like you are really missing out on a good thing...but its not your problem

just keep your head up, keep doing what you are doing, and dismiss the ones who keep bringing you down.

You grow to realise that you just can't please everybody and really there is no point doing so! Just keep on being yourself- i mean the amount of people who do like you and appreciate you should outdo the crap energy from those who just don't. I'm a pretty peaceful human being...so i'm usualy a bit like 'alrighty thennn' if someone has a problem with me. Cause that'z just it- it isn't my problem. Just a shame that some ppl refuse to be multi-compatible. But it takez all kindz to make the world go 'round, so there you have it.

Number23 said:

You two should hang out together.

gemini13 said:

Prison doesn't appeal, but if i ever get blueprints tattooed to my body to break a loved one out, Mick's the guy I'll 'hang with' to get there.

As a pastor, there are always people that don't like me. You do everything right or wrong, you don't do enough, you do too much, you don't cut your hair often enough...


and it makes it harder, but its the nature of the beast, so to speak.



Don't let people who don't like you make you question yourself negatively, just think of what is so wrong in their own lives they have to act out on someone else..... use their dislike as a tool to make yourself better.

Altough there is a lot of inherent jealousy and subculture wars going on in all alternative music genres these days, I can't help finding it quite funny that the chillout scene is also so schismatic. How funny is that?

Novabreaker said:

Right? I find it completely strange. That people who dedicate to chill...you know relaxing peaceful music could be so cliquey!

Like there is this gal who dj'ed for me once (also ran in the same circles as me) and I recall the thank you emails being wierd. First she was like "thanks for letting me play" I asked her to play again...and then she had a request regarding removing this partition instead of having to crawl under the table to get to the DJ area (I know it's sorta ghetto, but it's not my bar) I told her there was nothing I could do about removing the wall. The emails turned into "You know I didn't have a good time...didn't like the vibe etc" I was perplexed. Next thing I know, she wouldn't speak to me...unless I said hi first. I mean really, I'd see her at this monthly thing she dj'ed and it is not like there were a lot of people there. Wouldn't even say come over and say hi.

SHe is part of this yearly campout...we never get asked to play, even though we are like one of the only chill contingents in the city...that is active. Which make the snubs a bit more stinging.
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If people don't like me because of who I am or what I stand for. . . what I look like, or who my friends are. . . I don't fucking care.

What bugs me is when somebody doesn't like me and won't tell me why. It shouldn't. But it does. Because, honestly, people who understand me usually like me ok, so if somebody doesn't, I tend to assume it's a misunderstanding.

That sounds pretty arrogant. But it's true!

to be really really honest, when i'm put in groups of people i don't know, i just assume nobody likes me. i think part of it is a confidence thing (obviously), but part of it is a vibe i get in chicago, like "welcome to our clique, who the hell are you and why should we care?"

of course, i've been here a few years and have made a few good friends in the city, so i hope i don't come across that way when we're hanging out and a new person comes on the scene.

Posthumous said:

Co-Fucking-Sign...got that vibe the three years I lived there sometimes to.

notoriousj said:

I love living in Chicago, but socially, I often feel like this city is one cold-hearted, tough nut to crack.

Posthumous said:

I agree.

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slicksight said:

I just cutted them loose. I am not going to kiss ass to anyone who doesn't care or seemed like they don't like me. I did a lot of that in high school and ended up got a lot of disappointments and I was hurted. Anyway that what happened to my recent former friend. We haven't spoken with each other in awhile. And we spoke for a bit recently. I was so thrilled to chat with her again after a couple years we havent seen each other. Since high school, I tried everything to be nice to her and stuff and tried to be her biggest supporter. I am the girl who is very compassionate and also a good listener not to mention have a huge heart. But each time she acted so weird and stuff like she doesn't want to talk to me or want to be my girl and all. She didn't acted like this when we were good friends in school. And I like "Well take care and be that way then". I just don't have time for crap like that.

HobbesLeCute said:

I feel the same way! It takes me a long time to trust people and also to feel comfortable around them. Perhaps because I been burned too many time by fakers.