Have been spending time w/ a woman I met a few months ago. We have kissed and it's even gotten to the point where I've had her entirely naked. Then it happens...she says no, she can't do it. However, she continues to call me, tell me she misses me, and sends tons of text messages everyday.

FYI, this has occurred about 5-6 times now. She'll hug, massage, and everything, but when it's time to do the deed, she backs out! What's up w/ this shit? She can't be a virgin, as there is a birth control patch on her inner thigh. I'm thinkin she either has a boyfriend she's hesitant to cheat on OR a freakin' STD!

I'd cut my losses and move on. I wouldn't have the patience to deal with all her issues. She's using you for something, but she's not using you for love

Or maybe she is a women who is concerend about what would happen after the fact if she lets herself go to far. In other words maybe she is scared.

I always crack the fuck up at chicks who'll be NAKED in your bed and then all of a sudden find morals. What the fuck is that? GAMES

It's time to have a heart to heart talk and discuss the subject with her. There should be open communication in a relationship.

luv4u said:

it doesn't sound like a relationship to me.

ImLikeTheGoochLookin said:

Don't get offended but... is that YOU in your avatar?

PANDURITO said:

That guy is way too nice. Don't give him a bad name

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

but you can get naked and mess around without having sex, no?

I hate it how it's assumed that sex is always on the menu.

Natsume said:

SIX TIMES?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

oh, I'm just speaking in general terms, not really responding to the first post.

sorry, I was trying to type, and my boyfriend was hella talking and I got distracted!

Man, just take that sex, just playin'. Seriously just ask her about it, if your not scared. Ask her what's the damn hold up.

Natsume said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

then i guess there should be a discussion before there is a seventh time!!
and preferably that time should be initiated by her.

something's going on but it doesn't mean he should ditch her. he digs her, she digs him... but there is a reason why she stops herself from going any further

i don't think anyone can read minds here so... ask her!

emm said:

Well yeah, she could have some major trust issues or something but if she's skanky enough to go to bed with the gooch, she's probably just a playa

ImLikeTheGoochLookin said:

You are one patient person my friend...

who knows...its probably one of two things:

1) She has issues with sex

or

2) She's fuckin somebody else...

She's playing games with you.

I'd move on.

Jettison her ass.

I do not know but when I am truly attracted to someone- there's no stopping me especially once my clothes are off...

Kick her teasing ass to the curb.

Gooch, take her out shopping and/or buy her gifts & flowers.

SHANNA said:

Awwwww romance

Umm, have you ever bothered to ask the broad WHY she does this shit?

There's either something dramatic going on or she's full of shit & just fucking w/ your head. Flat out ask her what the fucking deal is already...

When she's naked take pictures and then wank over them at home.




jk!

hey um... do you look anything like your avatar?

might be a clue...

i kid!



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CalhounSq said:

yeah, there could be something traumatic underlying - maybe she has the patch because she does want it with you gooch, but is working up the courage

charlottegelin said:

But even if there is something traumatic behind it you don't want a woman with major sex issues.

Spats said:

Or a man w/ major sex issues I'm sorry, a boy...