And what are your experiences from them?


Have they pulled you down, or made you stronger?

With each one (2) for me...I feel more of a man than I ever did b4.

paisleypark4 said:

relationship meaning romantic type ...

or ALL relationships ?

0, zilch, nada, niguna.

All relationships are "real" in my eyes...they may be at different levels of intensity and effect my heart and soul to different degrees, but they're all real.

So with that, I guess I've had five total...and each one has made me a better person.

Mach said:

Something that was defining..that meant something..not no 2 or 3 month thing that ended cuz it got tired...

I've had quite a few... I'm very much a relationship person.

Though I think, as I get older, I find myself not counting some that I had counted before. Some stick with you and others don't.

paisleypark4 said:

so you mean romantic ...

i have many many relationships... best friends, siblings parents and children i have known for yrs... MY parents ... all beautiful relationships

romantic ... 3 very serious ones lasting not shorter then 3 and 1/2 yrs ...the present one lasting 20yrs thus far

eac has helped to make me what i am and even though there may have been some ugly moments within them... i would not change a thing

i learned a lot for every aspect of each one ...

Natsume said:

I would say "yeah I know" but I have only had 2 in the past

Dont u hate them people that wanna jump in a relationship the first time u do anything with them?

Only one and it was ten years of hell-I do believe that I can have a meaningful relationship. I just don't want to at this time .

3 women


strange but true

MikeMatronik said:

You kept saying: "One more to make sure..."

PANDURITO said:

3, i guess.

the first one taught me about everything i wanted in a relationship;

the second one taught me about everything i don't want in a relationship;

the one i'm in now is teaching me about the incredible amount of work required to have what i want in a relationship.

one 3 years, at a very important period of both our lives (18-21) Therefore its hard to pinpoint what I learned from the relationship and what I learned from life in general But it was very important to me, and I know it affected me...

Saying that though, foolish young girl that I am At the moment I feel like I learned more from a recent brief affair that ended in heartache!

Three or maybe, probably, none. Ask me on my deathbed or when I'm under the wheels of a bus or choking for oxygen when they throw me out the spaceship or something.

After two years and a half, I'm in a very grey zone at the moment. The man, who I saw as the future father of my children, has betrayed me and even continued this betrayal after the 'confession'. We see each other, but I'm very very disappointed right now. Each evening I pray the answer will be sent to me the next day... but there just isn't a straight answer: I love him very much, but he's done an awful thing.

So I'm not sure what I'm learning out of this relationship... I just hope in the end it will make/have made me stronger.

I've been in a relationship for 2 years before. It ended because the passion, the special bond, wasn't strong in the end. He just wasn't the man for me. We're still very good friends. We learned a lot from each other, and when I compare these two relationships, I have to admit I seem to be very unbalanced: with Jan I was the dominant one, with Francisco I'm rather scared.

Between these two relationships I've had a 'relationship' with a married man, my professor at university. He taught me so many things, but maybe not the things you learn in a romantic relationship. I still don't know what it is he exactly taught me, but he has changed me, that's for sure. And I've changed him. I recently contacted him after 2 years of silence. Haven't seen him yet, and maybe I shouldn't. He'll never be a real friend, but never be forgotten either.

It's worse to maintain a relantionship with a man...yes, even I had them!

MarieLouise said:

In a strange way I identify with everything you just said. The feelings I sense behind it anyway.... I hope you feel clearer soon, as I hope I do. Have faith

2...

The first one taught me that you can't change a person, they are exactly who they present themselves to be...

The second taught me that I can't change myself in order to be with someone, it's not fair to either of us & it will ultimately fail...

Is there really the ONE?

I guess I'll never find...

REAL?

zero.

Novabreaker said:

Would you still be making intense, grunty industrial music if you had ever known the true, unadulterated love of another human being who isn't your mother?

susannah said:

Thanks sweetie... I hope the situation will become more clear for you as well.

Number of girlfriends: Five
Number of REAL relationships: Three

2 proper ones, and 1 which was just 6 months of lust

One.

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[Edited 5/8/06 2:34am]

Define real relationhips. Do you mean long term ones or just how many girlfriends?

Spats said:

not crushes, I suppose. Ones where you both know you are going out together.

One, and it was the only one that mattered.