so, your friend calls you at about 9:30 AM.... you soon figure out that the friend is having a problem. she sounds completely beside herself, talking incredibly fast and making weird conversations - things that dont make any sense at all.


now, you know at 9:30, your friend is not drinking, so you ask her about her cold that she's had lately, thinking maybe she took some sort of medication thats not working well for her


she lets you know that she infact took '2 of what my mom takes'


so, you spend the next 30 minutes trying to get her to tell you what it was that she took.... her speech is getting more rapid, shes not making any sense, and she wont come back to normal....

what would you do ?



well, i asked to talk to her daughter (shes 17), i told her daughter that i was concerned for her mother and that there was something wrong. i was quickly met with an attitude from her child who says, 'yes, something is wrong... shes been drunk since last night'

not wanting to believe that could POSSIBLY be true, now remember .... its 9:30 AM on a wednesday morning she runs a daycare in her home, which even though there were no kids there that day, she was expecting the fire marshal back out by noon to do the final yearly inspection. so, i said, let me talk to your grandmother.... her mother has been ill and stayed with them while getting herself well. upon talking to the mother of my friend, i said, 'please check on her, she keeps telling me that she took some of your medicine that you gave her and im worried about the effect its having on her'

the mother says, 'she better not have taken any of my medications !!!! i would never give her something that wasnt for her - my meds are to strong'

i let her know that i was concerned and let it go at that... we got off the phone.



last night, i get a phone call saying that its MY fault that her family now thinks shes a drunk... and shes pissed off at ME !


it damn sure makes ya not even wanna help your friends when they cant act right and then turn on you for trying ....

what would you do ?

fuck em... simple as that

IAintTheOne said:

yep

Cut her loose. You don't need someone like that. There are plenty of people out there who will add positive things to your life.

jerseykrs said:

alrighty then ....


guess im in the clear


to me, she has some kinda nerve to blame me for whatever the fuck shes doing over there, while all i was doing was being concerned for her wellbeing


thanks guys, i was worried i had stepped on her toes in some silly way.

it does suck ... but you did what you felt was best and if she cant see past her own issues then... walk away until she looks inward and isnt blamming outward

people with issues like to drag others into their fucked up lives. I've found it's best just to fucking cut them loose, no matter how close you may be.

I have enough of MY OWN issues, I don't need anyone elses too.

applekisses said:

see, this falls back to that thread i made about friends in your life and if you were happy with them....


we have been friends now for 19 years, its gonna be hard to walk away from... but, shes not giving me a lot of choice.

thanks apple

jerseykrs said:

Good advice

nakedpianoplayer said:

That's hard. I'm sorry. Maybe she'll come around, but right now you need to remove yourself from the situation.

jerseykrs said:

AMEN !!!!!


i have no time for this....

Mach said:

great advice thank you sweetie...

i had something similar to this happen in my own family. i had said something and then my stepmom made a mountain out of a mole hill and told my dad something much more dramatic and then my dad was mad at me.


what did i do? i set him straight. i told him that if he didn't hear it from my mouth, then it's just not true.

Tell your friends that you didn't say she was drunk (because you didn't) and tell her that all this wouldn;t be going down if she wasn't acting all irrational and crazy. you may even want to call the police if this in an ongoing thing and she's caring for children in her home.

It's the truth. I don't want to be mean or callous, but people need to understand that. We're all adults. I will give advice and be someone to listen for all my friends. But when they start causing drama for no reason, it's time to cut that shit.

jerseykrs said:

JasmineFire said:

thats the part that messed me up about it !!!

she has worked SO hard at making this business for herself... i just couldnt imagine that she would throw it away like that, thats why i didnt think it could be that she was drinking

but, based on her daughters response, im sure thats what it was now...


9:30 IN THE MORING PEOPLE.. 9:30 !!!!! thats sad

jerseykrs said:

jerseykrs said:

thats fantastic advice jersey


lord knows, i have enough drama in my OWN life lol...

nakedpianoplayer said:

that's alcoholism

Mach said:

yes, sadly, it is



and i guess you guys are right, theres nothing i can do about that.

Mach said:

I've been drunk at 9:30 am before.....from the previous night.

jerseykrs said:

dude

jerseykrs said:

ok, now, seriously....


when you talk to a drunk person, their speech is usually slower, and of the 'i dont give a fuck' tone, right ???


thats why this was so crazy. she was speaking SOOO fast i could hardly understand her, jumping from topic to topic, nothing making sense.... i just assumed that it HAD to be some other kinda drug that did that to her.

I'm sorry NPP that you're going through this... if you've been friends for this long hopefully you can work through it

fragile said:

well, now that i know i wasnt wrong for trying to help, i kinda wanna kick her damn teeth in for being such and idiot


drunk at 9:30 in the morning.... thats just crazy

nakedpianoplayer said:

it probably was... mixed with the alcohol.
booze is a depressant, right?? she probably did take some sort of something that acted as an upper.

but blaming you is very weak.
her actions - her consequences.