althom said:

You're posts are already automatically factored into shit-thread quality control here at the org

Imago said:

althom said:

althom what time is it there?

brownsugar said:

I don't know. It's too dark to see the clock.

Which Two Characteristics Make You "Pay Attention" To A Man The Quickest?


Well, to be honest, what makes me pay attention the quickest to a man is his looks and his age. Nothing like a young hottie to make a person take notice.

His looks and his age.


I notice the over all apperance of anyone first then if I think a man is attractive I notice his age.
Too young, not gonna do anything for me.
Old enough to be my Grandpa not gonna cut it either.

Sweeny79 said:

Goldycocks

althom said:

I asked you the same question a long time ago and you never answered me...

Sweeny79 said:

It's not actually which two do you pay attention to first, but which two characteristics make you pay attention the most and the quickest to a guy (in a good way..lol)...like, would a good-looking younger (or older) man grab your attention and interest quicker than a good-looking intelligent man around your same age?...Would the fact that he's younger or older (but not TOO young or old) be a bigger immediate attraction to you than intelligence (with the assumption that his intelligence will be obvious from the start)?
[Edited 4/22/06 10:23am]

Intelligence
Artistic/Talented

1st: Being a gentleman
2nd: Looks

I'm surprised no one said being a gentleman.

Cockiness is a MAJOR turnoff - I rank it right up there with arrogance.

1sexymf said:

I think someone did... ...but if so, then only one other person has...lol

And cockiness is going down in flames...lol ...I'll be honest here: when I first read on the other message board that most women were initially drawn to men who are cocky and funny, it rang true.

Byron said:

Cockines makes me want to puke I spent a lot of time with someone who was. That's probably what makes me want to be violently ill when I encounter it.

Byron said:

That someone was me. I know what you mean, 1sexymf, I can't STAND cocky men, men who think they're God's gift to women. Total, total turnoff right from the start.
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Romera said:

I love artsy people!!!

COCKINESS...

In itself is not an appealing characteristic to carry around. Perhaps it works best in combination with humour. Much in the same way that being funny alone isn't enough to appeal women. Believe me, I know as I used to come across as goofy... which scattered any sex appeal I had.

Byron said:

[Edited 4/22/06 13:22pm]

On a superficial level (meaning the guy that catches my eye walking down the street): the clothes, and the way he walks. I'm attracted to how cleverly a man puts together his clothes, meaning that he put some thought to it, yet he's clever enough to not try to copy magazine or celebrity trends verbatum. A guy that can wear the hell out of some jeans and has a slight swagger knocks me out everytime.

On a deeper, more concrete level (meaning getting to know a guy), my "kryptonite combination" is sense of humour and intelligence. If a man doesen't have the inherent ability to illicit a gut busting laugh out of me, or give me food for thought to ponder during a starry night or rainy sunday morning, then he doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell with me, no matter how good he looks in the jeans or any other anything else
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tone of voice... the voice and how he just moves around me ... or when i'm around.

Ok, if ya really wanna know. And if ya don't.. then don't ask!

Sense of humor
Looks
His job/career
Intelligence
Cockiness
Shyness
Sincerity
His clothes
His voice
Shows you immediate and constant attention
Shows you almost no attention
Artistic/Talented
Athletic/Active
Being a gentleman
Being a "bad boy"
Take-charge type
Romantic
Older man
Younger man




[Edited 4/22/06 20:42pm]

The Cocky, Arrogant men get all the women though.

Byron said:

Umm... ok to be completely trivial, petty, but honest...

If I'm walking down the street and if a guy comes walking by that is around 6 foot either has either a lanky to medium frame... dark hair, etc.. think you all know my type by now... then I'll pay attention mighty quick.

But if your talking about getting to know someone not just who you notice at the mall or wherever...

I'm going to payattention to intelligence, sense of humor, and how they treat the people around them. If a man seems to have half a brain, can take a joke, and treats others with respect and care then I'm going to think about them longer than needed.

Now if you are talking about starting up a relationship... If the guy has the qualities I just mentioned, and he's with in 10 or so years of my age, I find him attractive in some way, there is a connection etc..

And as you know Byron, I've only been involved with one guy who looks anything like the guy who would get my attention on the street... it turned out to be not a good or bad experience...just blah.

So for me anyway, love is not really based on "who gets my attention" but more on who "gets me as a person"..

Oh wow I'm sleepy I didn't sleep last night. I doubt that makes sense.

Looks will always get my attention first and intelligence and humour will keep it.

If he's not smart and funny (they often go hand in hand), I lose interest...fast.

I notice his Ass and Bulge is what I NOTICE.....I'm into PHYSIQUES. Oh and MUSCLES in his ARMS and a SEXY CHEST and Flat STOMACH.

The ones that make me ...are being a gentleman and if he shows me constant attention...like makes eye contact with me and actually listens to me..that is so hot. I hate a man that intrupts me and doesn't listen to me.

Things that turn me off imediatly is a man that talks about how much money he has or how important he is at his job. Also shy guys would never get any where wiht me because I'm so shy at first...I like a man that initiates the interaction and shows me he is interested in me.

You know I find myself very attracted to men in their fourties and fifties. They seem to be much more secure with themselves, alot more comfortable around women and they treat women nicer.
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THAT ALMOST GOES WITHOUT SAYING

And it works both ways. Older women tend to be a helluva lot more secure with themselves and men. I'm in my mid-twenties and it's one of the reasons I've tended to get along better with older women than those my age or younger. But you better believe when I turn 35 I'm gonna find myself a young, hot piece of fine ass!

Krystal666 said:

There are a few in there..

But the two I like is:

Romantic

Sense of Humor

Krystal666 said:

Interesting, I find the complete opposite to be true. All the older men that come onto me never shut up about the size of their wallets, the company and all the property they own. I just don't care and it does not make them more appealing to me at all, in fact, it has an adverse effect. I guess they think that some women that are younger are just gold diggers. It makes me think that they are very insecure and not comfortable around women at all. It's such a huge turn off and this is why I just don't date older men.

But that's just been in my experience...maybe I just attract a certain type of guy.

*shrugs*

JustErin said:

It's interesting the type of men I attract. Alot of times I attract cool, interesting but somewhat chavanistic men...which is so werid because chavanistic men kinda remind me of my father and men like that annoy me. Maybe I attract very dominering men that are are kinda controlling because I seem so shy and non-argumentive...but yet I AM very fiesty and opinionated...I guess I'm just good at holding my tounge...then I just lash out at them and they are all WHO ARE YOU?

Krystal666 said:

Most of the younger guys I attract are just like what you mentioned - very domineering and controlling and very cocksure. That's the type of guy I am typically attracted to. I am quite a dominant person myself, so I need someone who's not afraid to keep me in check.

I just can't deal with shy, wishy washy, complacent or clingy men. I think it all stems from my dad as well. I'm used to being around a real hard-ass. It's funny how our fathers have such an impact on our choice in men.

A man's scent will spin my head around and his sense of humor will keep me put. I like the way some men have that lingering nice scent. I chased one guy just to see what he was wearing. You need to add scent!