I got this thread idea from watching the sitcom Living Single tonight on TV. Sinclair, OB and Kyle (love that guy, he is so damn fine!) went to a high school reunion. Everybody was mistaking Sinclair for another old classmate, someone who was really popular. When Sinclair tried to come clean and tell them that she was not the person they all thought she was, they all thought she was joking. Did you have a lot of friends in school, or were you the shy, loner type? Please feel free to discuss.

I was on the fringe. I had some good friends. Got along with pretty much everyone, but I certainly wasn't popular.

nope. I liked Prince, I was WEIRD

Nothinbutjoy said:

I wasn't popular either.

i was one of the most hated people...because i didn't back down against the popular girls...

i was totally an outsider

charlottegelin said:

Aww, you're not weird.

SammiJ said:

for you not backing down against the popular girls. Those popular girls can be a real pain in the .

SammiJ said:

awesome!

those girls didn't even notice me

charlottegelin said:

Yeah, me neither. Hey, it's their loss, right?

psychodelicide said:

yeh, annoying as hell
i'd always be the one turning around in class saying "would you shut the fuck up already? damn!"

SammiJ said:

Good for you!

Nope...I was popular when people needed to use my notes and copy off of my tests

hell no! i had all honors classes and so did most of my friends. we were considered nerds and we got away with alot of shit so that didn't help either

ThreadCula said:

Yeah, I know what you mean. I never let anybody copy off any of my stuff, although a friend of mine used to sometimes let me copy her answers for Science class when I was a freshman.

psychodelicide said:

not really, there is nothing I would have given them, I had nothing in common with them, I could not even have had a conversation with them! Did not understand them!
I look at them now and we are no different! They love their kids as much as I love mine, except their kids are about 15 years older!

brownsugar said:

Wow, an honor student, that's awesome. It's kind of sad how the real smart students get that "nerd" label pasted on them.

brownsugar said:

Yep that was me

I had a few haters because I was the smart quiet one

charlottegelin said:

Funny how people don't change much over the years, even after high school. A friend of mine went to her high school reunion once, and she said the kids she graduated with all acted the same. She said the same people who hung out together in high school were hanging out together at the reunion. You would think that people who hadn't seen each other in awhile would mingle a little more, but I guess not.

ThreadCula said:

Anybody who hates on a smart student is just jealous.

psychodelicide said:

Now I tell my 7th grader daughter not to think of the "nerdy" kids as nerds. The ones that are good in science, math, computers and the like. They are the ones that have the best chance of making a good living after high school and being the most successful. And they usually will outgrow the awkward, geekiness and be handsome older men.

She doesn't believe me.

Well all the girls borrowed my clothes so um err

psychodelicide said:

I went to my reunion, and I still felt like I hated certain people I still did not want to talk to certain people weird, huh! My husband went and talked to everyone!!

Nothinbutjoy said:

You're right, the smart kids do outgrow the nerdy stage, and do lead highly successful lives. Your daughter will see that as she gets older, then one day she'll say to you, "Mom you were right."

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CynthiasSocks said:

I would say that means yes, you were popular. Also that you were an impeccable dresser.

charlottegelin said:

Not weird at all. I haven't even been to a high school reunion, never have had an interest in attending one, to be honest. I was pretty much an outcast all throughout high school, so I didn't care to see those people again, to be quite honest.

charlottegelin said:

There's no way Im going to my reunion,I have to much anger towards some people.
Im sure only the popular kids will show up. They were fakers then and Im sure they're fakers now. Im sure they want to brag and boast about nothing.

Actually, I have a cindarella story of sorts.
I was popular grades 10-12 but was severely picked on in grade 9.

Here's how it went down. In grades 6-9, I lived in a rural area of Alabama. A town called Alabaster. I was picked ALOT for being asian, for being nerdy, and for being just downright different.
I remember, it would be so bad that between 5th and 6th period I would try to chose which path I need to take from gym class to my Speech class in which I would get picked on the least or not be humiliated. Most days, it didn't matter what path I picked, something insulting would take place.
I remember once, some kid made fun of me and I fought back. Well, he beat my ass anyway. And this was between 5th and 6th period, and he was in my 6th period class.
Coupled with the fact that I was painfully shy, and my Parents were horrible parents who tended to blame me for being picked on, I more-or-less kept to myself as best as possible though the strategy didn't work out all that well. In 9th grade, I also couldn't wear nice clothes becuase I had no source of income except from mowing lawns (30 bucks every 2 weeks). So my Mom would buy me the cheapest shoes and pants on earth. Luckily with my 30 bucks I was able to buy a few nice shirts to offset that, but not often.
My shoes once got so nappy that my big toe stuck through a little hole in them. Till this day, I refuse to wear cheap shoes, and am constantly checking my nephews shoes to ensure they are not worn through. I was one of only 2 asians in my highschool, and the other kid was like me--asian but hanging out with the whites to blend in (Except for California, asians tend to have a severe identify crisis here--at least in the 80's).

Anyways, due to my dad being too lazy to get a job after quitting his, we moved from the rural area to Hoover Alabama, and I ended up switching schools to a middle class inner city school that was both bigger and much more diverse and tolerant than the rural school.
It was my chance to reinvent myself. And I knew I had to.
I got a job at a Chinese Resturant and started earning about 150 bucks a week in tips and wages, and completely transformed the way I dressed. I eperimented with "preppy" but discarded that early on for the "post modern/alt-rock look" which still had not blown up at that time (thus, I was seen as trendy). My friends were popular, and a neighbor friend of mine who was in a grade behind me introduced me to his older sister who was a cheerleader. She was...erm..eccentric, but she adored me and this helped me out as well.
By the time I was in the 12th grade, I no longer feared roaming the halls, nor feeling as if I was going to get my ass kicked. Whenever possible, I would attend parties (which I was actually invited to).
One thing never changed. I was shy. Likeable, funny--but on the inside shy.

Anyways, just thought I'd share.
[Edited 4/19/06 19:41pm]

psychodelicide said:

I went cause I thought it would be a laugh, got SOOOOO drunk

ThreadCula said:

I hear you on that, I feel the exact same way!